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I hate having kids

571 replies

Throughautomaticdoors · 13/09/2016 18:04

I love them but I hate being a parent. It's dull, it's relentless, it's worrying, it's thankless, it's demanding, it's monotonous, it's exhausting.
I'd throw myself under a bus for them but being a parent has made me totally and utterly miserable. My first one didn't sleep through until he was 4 and a half and the second one is also a terrible sleeper. I'm starting to think it's something I've caused as everyone else I know has had at least one good sleeper.
I can't wait for them to grow up.

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Wordsaremything · 18/09/2016 21:28

Celia?
Why the need to shorten a name? Imogen can be Imogen, surely? Smile

ssd · 18/09/2016 21:14

I'm nodding along to so much of this, but what scares me now, with teens, is what do I do when they leave home?

I've never had babysitters or help and have never known what to do when I finally get time to myself and having nothing but time to myself terrifies me

crazy.

Rozdeek · 18/09/2016 20:58

Aaannnd DS is awake. DH looks at me like "now what?"

I DON'T FUCKING KNOW.

SummerSazz · 18/09/2016 20:16

My 2 are 21 months apart and no family close by. I joined a gym and most days would take them to the creche for 1-2 hours and go and sit in the jacuzzi and sauna and then have a long shower alone and perhaps a coffee. It was the thing that kept my sanity and recommended if funds allow. I occasionally went for a swim but not once to the gym 😁

CathFromCooberPedy · 18/09/2016 20:10

Mol that was my gap same as your SIL, dd2 born a few days after dd1 started school and it was lovely having time to enjoy dd2. But l had a fantastic CM who collected dd1 and dropped her off after school until the new year.

Tbh l wonder with small gaps how you get to spend any 1-2-1 time with either child as l just couldn't juggle like that!

KatieScarlett · 18/09/2016 19:57

Isn't it though?
Grin

bibbitybobbityyhat · 18/09/2016 19:56

Ok then KatieScarlett. I will remember that next time I want to keep a thread.

Infact all threads except those in chat and 30 days only and all the ones about Moldies are kept on Mumsnet forever ... quite extraordinary!

KatieScarlett · 18/09/2016 19:33

Classics is for threads that posters want to keep and that HQ agree should be kept.
Like this one.

bibbitybobbityyhat · 18/09/2016 19:30

Just had a gander and I'd say Mumsnet Classics is 95% lighthearted - actually funny or trivia.

I quite understand the wish to keep the thread (although it is completely inaccurate and false to say there are no other threads where people share their negative thoughts and feelings about being a parent on Mumsnet - I have contributed to and read literally hundreds of them over the years) but it could be saved where other unhappy parents are more likely to seek it out. Most Mumsnetters, surely, think Classics is for the legendary funny threads even if Penis Beaker somehow found its way on there .

Floggingmolly · 18/09/2016 19:28

Ok Smile

KatieScarlett · 18/09/2016 19:22

Yes, you got it wrong, but never mind, worse things and all that Smile

Squeegle · 18/09/2016 19:20

No, I don't think they need to be funny..

Floggingmolly · 18/09/2016 19:18

Entertaining stories. Somewhere to browse if you want a laugh? Obviously I got it wrong, but I thought the whole premise was to preserve riotously funny threads so that they didn't disappear from Chat.
I would have assumed this would have been transferred to Parenting or Relationships. I obviously got it wrong...

KatieScarlett · 18/09/2016 19:14

What did you think Classics is?

MagikarpetRide · 18/09/2016 19:13

Can't understand why it wouldn't be in classic either. I suppose it's not entertaining like penis beaker but it's helpful as hell. No one here wants to harm a child and everyone (except me I've realised but honestly I would die for my kids) has largely said they adore their kids, they just struggle. When you're that mum in real life it's so damn refreshing to find out others feel the same, even if it's just online.

I got to the school gates and other parents were going on about how good their holidays were. I felt like yes, we had wonderful times and actually I was surprised how little I wanted to run away given normal life but thank god school has started. I did not feel safe saying that in real life

Floggingmolly · 18/09/2016 19:13

Oh don't be so ridiculous, woowoo. Uncensored views, really! I just thought Classics was something else entirely, my mistake maybe

Squeegle · 18/09/2016 19:12

It's only a question from molly, no ones saying it shouldn't be, she was probably just confused aslr how it got in there so quick. Like saints, threads usually have to be dead before they are beatified!

Mrstumbletap · 18/09/2016 19:11

Because it's a great thread Floggingmolly and so many people wanted it in classics that lovely MNHQ moved it over.

woowoowoo · 18/09/2016 19:10

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Rozdeek · 18/09/2016 18:32

I don't understand why it shouldn't go in classics.

woowoowoo · 18/09/2016 18:29

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bibbitybobbityyhat · 18/09/2016 18:19

The thread could be saved in numerous places other than Classics.

How are other parents who "hate having kids" going to find it in the future? It could easily go in relationships or aibu.

Rozdeek · 18/09/2016 18:14

molly because it's a fantastic thread.

As a new mum with pnd I feel utterly validated and supported by it.

woowoowoo · 18/09/2016 18:12

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Floggingmolly · 18/09/2016 17:01

Why is this in Classics?? Hmm

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