Post - wedding message ... please help me, what the hell do I say??

"I do love wedding season on mn"
"Is it always like this?" Oh yes, CharlieSierra, there have been some absolute corkers over the years

If I were you I'd cancel the cheque.

Just out of interest was your blabber mouth friend also at the wedding? When you told her about the e-mail, did you tell her how much you gave? And did she tell you how much she gave? Interested to know if she gave more how much bridezilla considers acceptable. Or given her reference to your inheritance maybe it's based on percentages rather than actual figures. Perhaps the bride should have included a helpful formula to work it out in the invitation!

OP I'd make you and 🍳 just for an update!

Has anyone suggested OP sends a new cheque for £10,000 but as soon as its posted, call the bank and cancel it, so when it arrives there is no chance at all of them getting a penny?!

I wouldn't worry if Bridezilla is annoyed by lots of people knowing OP.

She shouldn't have sent such a message to anyone in the first place. Cheeky bint that she is.

OHHH OP.

Wake up! It's time for coffee and an update on a new thread!

Don't forget to start a new thread in the morning, OP.

Can't cancel cheques on sundays! ffs!

here op:

you will need those in the morning,

offs just sober up and post the messages from your phone

ps, did you get round to cancelling that cheque?

That is all.

Orchid - oohh brilliant!!
[bowing emoticon]

This is a FINE thread.

I give you:

Will ORCHID [KSCHHHHHHHH]

Classics. Please.

What a bitch

Scene Direction:

Overly dramatic Greedzilla stalks up to Puzzled. Throws down faded, wilting bridal bouquet at Puzzled's feet and screams:

Greedzilla; "You are dead to me, I tell you….DEAD!!!".

Puzzled looks puzzled. Picks up bouquet. Throws it in Greedzilla's mug and skips away singing "Ding Dong the Witch is Dead" merrily.

Cut to close up of Greedzilla, shocked that Puzzled doesn't give a rat's ass. Aaand Fade out.

Cut. Take. That's a wrap.

My SIL who got married in the early 1980s in a world before wedding lists got nine sandwich toasters. When now-DH and I moved into a postgrad flat together in 1997, she gave us one as a housewarming present, still in its original packaging. The picture on the box had a smiling woman with a big Lady Di hairdo.

Wow. I'll bet they didn't get three of them, Cat!!

I didn't do wedding lists or any such thing when I got married. I got three toasters. My parents got us some towels and bits. I have no idea if my brothers got us anything. I can't remember if I got them anything when they got married either.

We exchange lovely, thoughtful gifts at Christmas and birthdays. They are incredibly generous to my kids too.

The last wedding I went to was rather unconventional. Dp and I got the bride and groom a leather bound Necronomicon as we knew they'd appreciate it.

Now, off to bed.

Just got back, the friend I told about it at lunch called and we went out for a lot to drink now instead of being pissed like in angry Im really pissed instead

Yesssss excellent work. Pissed instead of pissed off is always the correct answer.

Who cares if grabby bride hates you now? With 800+ MN posts backing you I feel you can probably sleep soundly at night and not just because you're pissed

I had some more inspiration: don't all gasp at once!

Shall I compare thee to a miser's mind?
Thou art more greedy, and more impudent
Good friends do send thee gifts, but thou shalt find
That far from thee they flee, t' escape the rent
That thou demandest of them for the time
They spend with thee. If barrister thou wert,
Or hedge fund manager, with advice prime
Or private surgeon, there to heal thy hurt
Thou couldest charge with all impunity
But grabby bride thou art, all 'me, me, me!'
Thou failest to thank thy friends who give to thee
So watch them as they flee precipitately.

You're worried about the bride being pissed off, when she and her husband sent you an email telling you that your £100 wedding present wasn't enough and asking for an 'adjustment', given your circumstances????

If someone had sent me that email, I'd have rented the billboards in Leicester Square to show screenshots.

Crikey. Is it just me who is wondering if I've been considered horrendously rude at weddings before now? I didn't even spend £100 on each of my sisters' wedding presents!!! (We are not well off at all, but not desperately struggling.)

For friends, I normally get something reasonably token from the gift list - between £25 and £45, depending on how low-key the wedding is. Or a decent bottle of champagne, especially if it's just an evening do. None of my friends have had really big weddings - most often it's a registry office wedding with some drinks and canapés afterwards, for example; or just an evening dance; or they often specifically ask for no presents, in which case I take some champagne and a card.

I always thought that weddings were about the bride and groom hosting a party that they wanted to have, for all their family and friends; and that a gift is normally something nice but a gesture rather than a sub! But, as I say, most of the weddings in my circle are quite low-key, and the couple are normally in their 30s and have already set up home a long time before.

Shocked at this thread; am I a massive cheapskate? :( Do people think I'm taking the piss after a wedding? :( I would only expect gifts of £100 from very close family! It is unbelievably generous to give a former colleague that amount, no matter how much the dinner cost!

In Sense and Sensibility, the film version with the lovely Alan Rickman, he throws coins to the waiting village children when him and Marianne get married.

Hard to believe someone would do this sort of thing. People never fail to shock me. Really hope she gets her come-uppance OP. Have another