Post - wedding message ... please help me, what the hell do I say??

What a bloody cheek! Supposing you'd just come into oodles of money (like a £10m lotto win) would you be expected to put several noughts onto the end of every present you subsequently gave anyone? Old-fashioned I know, but I was brought up to say 'thank you' for anything I received and not to question it, no matter what. They've got bloody nerve. Unfriend them at once.

That's so true Andrea she was so oddly polite in the email as if she was warning of the faux pas before wider society may find out and the OP would be shunned forever LOL

Cancel the fucking cheque right now and make it very clear why! Ungrateful, grabby, self entitled rude rude Cunts!!! How bloody dare they!!

How disgraceful, I was really sorry to read that shameless email. Was your ex-ex-colleague drunk when writing that? Even that wouldn't wash as an excuse.
I agree with the others, quietly cancel the cheque and erase this "happy couple" from your memory, life's too short to bother with such people. Incidently, I believe that if you go to your bank manager, even if the cheque was cashed, as "it was issued in error" banks can work on a refund.

No, I'm Royalty, didn't you know?

That is one of the rudest and most ungrateful things I have ever heard of. All the more astounding as their message was worded so politely. Is it definitely from them or is someone playing a nasty trick so you think ? It's hard to believe it is true. I think your gift was hugely generous. If it is from them then clearly how they value friendship is entirely and seriously misguided.

Completely agree with you Nacho Cheese.

RTFT
LTB
CALL 101
and now...
CTFC

That's so rude it's nearly unbelievable. I do feel the need to ask, do you jhave 6 children? Did you and your family demolish the buffet...?

You could pretend that you didn't receive the mail and write them a very nice card congratulating them again... And use on of these cards that charities sometimes send/sell. One that say: "Help Stamp Out Hunger", "Give a Hand", "Haiti Kids Now" or something like that...

You could even mention that you just donated to this charity and simply feel the need to encourage others to do the same....

Or send a mail and have an attachement like that or something.

That's probably what I'd do...

The thread is now complete with the obligate "this is MN at its worst" post

I love the MN Police, here to remind us that RTF is The Law. From her post, I'd say bibbity is at least a superintendent.

That is utterly disgusting. We were more than gobsmacked by gifts of that size when we got married as we were very aware that attending a wedding as a guest is expensive enough nowadays.

Ohhhh a christening!! Unblock them immediately OP if you're lucky you may be invited to bring your chequebook with you. #soblessed

immediately!!!
Great idea.

If only people RTFT immediately

I adore that grabby bride has been outed to all her friends. I can imagine she will regret sending that twatty email for the rest of her life.

You only need to read last page and op's updates to have the full picture.

Sorry, coming to the party very late here. Couldn't resist suggesting cancelling the cashed cheque (loved the Tardis image....

Fraid i would have replied to the email to warn her that her account had been hacked and was sending obviously fake messages. I may have done that by means of forwarding the email to her and coping our mutual friends in, so they know about the hack and don't end up falling for any hard luck stranded stores which might turn up.

Hang on, how come in nearly 1000 messages, nobody has suggested cancelling the cheque.

Best cancel that cheque OP

Problem solved!

Explain you didn't know how to respond to her letter. Print out this page of responses and offer her any help she might need overcoming the fallout of her dreadful faux pas.

Cancel the cheque immediately!! That is outrageous behaviour and they don't deserve your money or good wishes, what a couple of dicks!

OP Oh, and I'll visit the bank first thing tomorrow to cancel the cheque grin
That's a really good idea OP - I'm surprised no-one has mentioned that idea on here

Sorry - I meant the original post, not the original poster, in my comment above!

The thread is now complete with the obligate "this is MN at its worst" post.

Bibbity I does take a while to read a 1000 post thread (with interruptions). I think it's because the OP was so outrageous people were incensed enough to reply without reading.

Great thread though - caught it at the beginning and it's been great watching it unfold.

YouTheCat, oh gosh yes, the christening of the first child. So expensive, and money doesn't grow on trees. Mr and Mrs GrabbyMcGrabby will tell themselves that OP will have forgotten about the wedding present debacle, and invite her expecting yet another generous gift.......

MN FODDER!!!!!!! I look forward to it

I would say that you feel disappointed that they were not satisfied with the gift and as a result you have cancelled the cheque. Who the hell do they think they are?!! I'm so shocked!! Wish them luck and then never see them again! Tell them to "feel free" to apologise...