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AIBU re this odd request from neighbours?

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yorkshapudding · 02/08/2015 16:51

Our NDN's came over to tell us that they are having some work done in their back garden starting tomorrow- having a fence built, some trees cut down, rubbish cleared etc. They estimate it will be about two full days work, possibly more. They then told us that they were going away and would not be back until after the job has finished. They explained that they don't want to leave the workmen a key for "security reasons" so this means they will have no power source to plug tools in, no access to a bathroom or kettle etc. so would we be in and if so would we mind 'helping out' with those things.

I explained that DH will be at work and while I am actually off work for the next couple of days, I will have various errands, things to do, want to take DC out etc. so will be in and out of the house. They then asked when I was planning on going out so they could let their workmen know and saying "oh don't worry, they'll work around you". I told them that I hadn't made firm plans and didn't know when I would be going out. To be honest I don't really want to be tied to a schedule and I also don't like the idea of three strange men traipsing around my house for two days. I told them that I was sorry but they needed to either provide them with a key or arrange for the work to be done at a time when they would be home as we couldn't be on hand for two days to provide cups of tea, electricity and access to bathroom facilities etc.

Although they were polite, I got the distinct feeling that NDN's thought I was being mean and not very neighbourly.

AIBU or is it a bit much to expect me to accommodate all this? Initially I thought they were being cheeky (they don't want to leave these men a key but I should just open my house up to them!) and that it was a bit of a strange request but due to their reaction (they seemed quite surprised that I said no) I'm now doubting myself. They are generally quite annoying neighbours, nothing too awful just a bit noisy and inconsiderate at times, so I don't trust myself to be objective!

OP posts:
FithColumnist · 04/08/2015 17:20

:eats popcorn:

howtorebuild · 04/08/2015 17:19

The thread that keeps giving.

yorkshapudding · 04/08/2015 17:17

So sorry everyone, there was a a bit of a crisis at work so I had to go in today Sad. I left at 7am so no sign of builders at that time obviously. Have just got back and the other neighbour (elderly lady I told you about earlier, likes a gossip) accosted me before I'd even managed to exit my car, she couldn't wait to tell me that the builders never arrived til 10.30am and have spent most of the day lying on the grass, chatting Grin. She was also most concerned that they haven't left all day "to do a toilet" so must be going somewhere on site. Have checked my garden and, thankfully, it is free from any suspicious 'downloads' (my new favourite poo euphemism, thanks to this thread) so either they are holding it in or NDN's are in for a nice surprise. Neighbour also told me that they knocked on my door earlier so don't know what that was about. I think she's as worked up about all this as you lot are, she seems to have spent all day monitoring their every move!

The fence isn't finished and is still a safe distance from my plant, which I have cut back to the boundary on pp's advice. I believe NDN's are due back tomorrow but I have no idea what time. I'm at work tomorrow anyway so won't be around to stand guard over the aforementioned plant, clear up stray banana skins etc. but I'm sure my neighbour will have a full report for me when I get home!

OP posts:
MissDemelzaCarne · 04/08/2015 16:43

Back from work and there's no news. Sad

rainbowstardrops · 04/08/2015 16:20
  • there. Not their. Pet hate of mine
minibmw2010 · 04/08/2015 16:20

Are your neighbours home yet ??

rainbowstardrops · 04/08/2015 16:19

OP where are you???!!!!!! Do you not realise that their are countless people hanging on by a thread here! Grin

redshoeblueshoe · 04/08/2015 16:08

iwould I'll give you some clothes if you can get that song out of my head

hhhhhhh · 04/08/2015 16:03

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Archaea · 04/08/2015 14:45

Waits patiently on most antipated thread update of the day Smile

iwouldgoouttonight · 04/08/2015 14:27

redshoeblueshoe Grin

I haven't got a stitch to wear because those blubbering bicycle baboons ran off with everything.

grenedeer · 04/08/2015 13:58

Well done for saying no, I lack confidence and people like your neighbours try to take advantage of this.

Also - the weeping bicycle monkeys, has anyone else notice they weren't offered the use of a loo, they were ordered to use it. Perhaps this explains the weeping, maybe they weren't ready? Smile

Stratter5 · 04/08/2015 13:58

Make sure you get the nice side of the fence, posts are supposed to be on owners side.

Crying at 'NO WEEPING BICYCLE MONKEYS', I need a sign saying that by my front door.

GarlicDoughballsInGlitter · 04/08/2015 13:54

Really want to hear what the neighbours say when they get back!

scribblegirl · 04/08/2015 13:46

Queen Thank you SO much for reminding me of EKL!

OP this is a great thread. Quite the lunch hour entertainment. I take my tea break at about 4 - if you could possibly update before then I would be most appreciative Wink

QueenOfThorns · 04/08/2015 13:43

No update yet, OP?

This thread has everything (apart from yoni massage and an elderly Korean woman, but there's still time Grin) - it even made me chortle at stupid o'clock this morning when DD decided it was time to get up.

PeterParkerSays · 04/08/2015 13:36

You just know that whoever says yes to the power supply would also be unwittingly responsible for the builders cutting the plants back too harshly and for not checking on the gradient of the new patio in the owners' absence.

It's a shame that ND but one said no, I'd be intrigued to see how they got the power cable into the garden where the work being done across two other gardens.

Inforabumpyride · 04/08/2015 13:34

Are the neighbours back today ?

prettybird · 04/08/2015 13:23

I'm so looking forward to the latest instalment of the weeping bicycle monkeys saga (does anyone else have visions of the Wicked Witch of the North from the Wizard of Oz? Wink)

Shameless place mark Wink

redshoeblueshoe · 04/08/2015 13:07

iwouldgouttonight

but I haven't got a stitch to wear did all your clothes get ripped when you were weeping into the bereris

HopOnTheMonnerBus · 04/08/2015 13:02

We have a bush in the front for them to weep into but its a berberis so very prickly. This will probably make them weep more

snort Grin

PestoSwimissimos · 04/08/2015 12:52

What's going on today there Yorksha ? Did they bother turning up to work? Grin

iwouldgoouttonight · 04/08/2015 12:51

We've actually got people coming to do some work in our garden next week. I'm just checking I have everything in place for them:

  • Access to our house and garden (will need to pop out but will leave them with a key, electricity and toilet/coffee facilities).
  • We've let the neighbours know they're coming but that they shouldn't need to access their gardens.
  • Bicycles for workmen (obviously).
  • We have a bush in the front for them to weep into but its a berberis so very prickly. This will probably make them weep more.
  • Monkeys - this is where I'm struggling. I have no access to monkeys. Do you think this matters? Will the workmen spend the day slagging me off for not providing monkeys and then wee into my berberis?
sadwidow28 · 04/08/2015 12:49

Called into the thread for today's update. Sad to see we haven't got a blow-by-blow account of today's shenanigans.

Every time I think about weeping in a bush on a bicycle I break out in laughter. That really was a classic.

Jo4040 · 04/08/2015 12:32

Woooops. Sorry didn't read all the thread Blush How bloody annoying of me Angry