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AIBU re this odd request from neighbours?

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yorkshapudding · 02/08/2015 16:51

Our NDN's came over to tell us that they are having some work done in their back garden starting tomorrow- having a fence built, some trees cut down, rubbish cleared etc. They estimate it will be about two full days work, possibly more. They then told us that they were going away and would not be back until after the job has finished. They explained that they don't want to leave the workmen a key for "security reasons" so this means they will have no power source to plug tools in, no access to a bathroom or kettle etc. so would we be in and if so would we mind 'helping out' with those things.

I explained that DH will be at work and while I am actually off work for the next couple of days, I will have various errands, things to do, want to take DC out etc. so will be in and out of the house. They then asked when I was planning on going out so they could let their workmen know and saying "oh don't worry, they'll work around you". I told them that I hadn't made firm plans and didn't know when I would be going out. To be honest I don't really want to be tied to a schedule and I also don't like the idea of three strange men traipsing around my house for two days. I told them that I was sorry but they needed to either provide them with a key or arrange for the work to be done at a time when they would be home as we couldn't be on hand for two days to provide cups of tea, electricity and access to bathroom facilities etc.

Although they were polite, I got the distinct feeling that NDN's thought I was being mean and not very neighbourly.

AIBU or is it a bit much to expect me to accommodate all this? Initially I thought they were being cheeky (they don't want to leave these men a key but I should just open my house up to them!) and that it was a bit of a strange request but due to their reaction (they seemed quite surprised that I said no) I'm now doubting myself. They are generally quite annoying neighbours, nothing too awful just a bit noisy and inconsiderate at times, so I don't trust myself to be objective!

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acatcalledjohn · 04/08/2015 19:09

Who knows, free manure for the plants that had to be cut back...

LavenderLeigh · 04/08/2015 19:08

This thread is just sheer perfection, with the weeping bicycle monkeys, sunbathing builders and a cheeky NDN about to get a shock when she returns, hoping all the noisy/dirty work is completed!

Apart from the sly-shitters and limited's poor DH.

limitedperiodonly · 04/08/2015 18:54

It was humiliating. He was utterly bewildered and embarrassed. I felt so sorry for him. And furious. He's probably forgotten it now but to the end of my days I want to do them serious damage for hurting him.

I don't want to bring the thread down though.

So OP's neighbours' builders crapping in the garden might be a different matter Wink

TattyDevine · 04/08/2015 18:47

Borrowing leccy from a NDN when you have none is different to buggering off on holiday. Our neighbours leccy went off and they had a freezer full of stuff, so we gave them a power source till it was back on (a couple of hours) and they pressed a bottle of wine into our reluctant hands Grin

That's how its done! But this is different! Wine

OOAOML · 04/08/2015 18:41

I wonder if NDNs would have expected you to leave your keys with the builders whilst you were at work?Wink

PHANTOMnamechanger · 04/08/2015 18:40

I suppose I should be forever grateful he did not leave a turd under a kitchen unit, leaving me forever bleaching the drain and wondering WTF is that smell! Grin

PHANTOMnamechanger · 04/08/2015 18:38

Gosh that's grim! What horrible people they must have been to do that at all, never mind when he had been so nice to them! I had one kitchen fitter embarrassed and terribly apologetic about asking to use the loo, explaining that he had colitis, and that was why he had refused all offers of tea/coffee too. I did not mind at all, my nan has it so i understood, and my DD has coeliac and was prone to sudden urges to go. Poor chap was mortified about having to ask.

GinLimeandLemonade · 04/08/2015 18:36

Oh Limited, what utter bastards Sad

TheOneWiththeNicestSmile · 04/08/2015 18:33

Oh that's horrible, limited
Your poor DH Sad

limitedperiodonly · 04/08/2015 18:14

BTW I always think about that incident whenever people on MN talk about whether inverted snobbery exists or not.

limitedperiodonly · 04/08/2015 18:06

DH hired two men to knock down a dividing wall in the basement of his shop about 15 years ago.

He was very excited about his first business venture and was so nice to them. He bought them lunch for the days they were there and let them get on with it while busying himself with his own tasks.

When they finished, aside from paying them, he gave them a really nice shirt each as a thank you.

In less than a week the shop was infested with enormous flies.

The fuckers had 'downloaded' in a corner of the basement as a sick joke against him.

He was so hurt. Actually embarrassed, like a child victim of bullying. I wanted to hunt them down and kill them.

What kind of arseholes do that?

alltoomuchrightnow · 04/08/2015 18:04

OP, can I THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for this thread.
Also, whoever it was whose autocorrect came up with weeping bicycle monkeys. (although 'doing a toilet' is also great)
I've had an awful, shitty few weeks
I have not cracked a smile hardly in all that time
But this made me laugh out loud. It actually made me cry, this time in a good way.
Thankyou ;-)

PegsPigs · 04/08/2015 18:02

Looking forward to tomorrow's instalment of "Cheeky Neighbours from Hell"

TheReluctantCountess · 04/08/2015 17:57

So your neighbour will be paying for them sunbathing. Serves them right.

Marmitelover55 · 04/08/2015 17:47

No - they definitely downloaded at ours. Thankfully they seemed well house-trained and very keen to use the toilet duck after "going" Grin

yorkshapudding · 04/08/2015 17:40

Marmite, if you didn't have any leccy that's a bit different. In that situation I probably would have said yes. My NDN's have leccy, they'd just rather use everyone else's. Also, did you also expect them to provide refreshment and a place to 'download'? I suspect not.

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Marmitelover55 · 04/08/2015 17:37

Also feeling a bit guilty that our builders used our NDN's electricity for power tools last year when our leccie was off...

Marmitelover55 · 04/08/2015 17:35
Grin

shamelessly marks place for NDN return

yorkshapudding · 04/08/2015 17:34

I suppose I could install a secret builder cam on one of NDN's garden gnomes..don't really want to see them "doing a toilet" though Grin

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OTheHugeManatee · 04/08/2015 17:32

Omg so they will be back tomorrow?

londonrach · 04/08/2015 17:31

Ipad error...update not upset....

londonrach · 04/08/2015 17:31

Op you need a mnnter on the ground to upset all of us... Im sure someone would be happy to volunteer....Grin

LIZS · 04/08/2015 17:26

We need a live builder webcam in your absence! Hope ndns come home to find job half done and are billed for the delays.

mayaknew · 04/08/2015 17:25

So hope your in from work when NDNs get home tomorrow Grin

NDNs are coming home tomorrow expecting to see fully completed work I'd bed my bicycle riding monkey on it !!! Grin They're gonna be raging when they have to endure the builders and plug stuff in for them for the rest of the week GrinGrinGrin

redshoeblueshoe · 04/08/2015 17:24

yorksha just so we don't have to wait all day tomorrow I would like to suggest that you either ring in sick, or get your next door but one neighbour on here to keep us posted.
the youth of today have no commitment to the rest of us on here