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AIBU re this odd request from neighbours?

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yorkshapudding · 02/08/2015 16:51

Our NDN's came over to tell us that they are having some work done in their back garden starting tomorrow- having a fence built, some trees cut down, rubbish cleared etc. They estimate it will be about two full days work, possibly more. They then told us that they were going away and would not be back until after the job has finished. They explained that they don't want to leave the workmen a key for "security reasons" so this means they will have no power source to plug tools in, no access to a bathroom or kettle etc. so would we be in and if so would we mind 'helping out' with those things.

I explained that DH will be at work and while I am actually off work for the next couple of days, I will have various errands, things to do, want to take DC out etc. so will be in and out of the house. They then asked when I was planning on going out so they could let their workmen know and saying "oh don't worry, they'll work around you". I told them that I hadn't made firm plans and didn't know when I would be going out. To be honest I don't really want to be tied to a schedule and I also don't like the idea of three strange men traipsing around my house for two days. I told them that I was sorry but they needed to either provide them with a key or arrange for the work to be done at a time when they would be home as we couldn't be on hand for two days to provide cups of tea, electricity and access to bathroom facilities etc.

Although they were polite, I got the distinct feeling that NDN's thought I was being mean and not very neighbourly.

AIBU or is it a bit much to expect me to accommodate all this? Initially I thought they were being cheeky (they don't want to leave these men a key but I should just open my house up to them!) and that it was a bit of a strange request but due to their reaction (they seemed quite surprised that I said no) I'm now doubting myself. They are generally quite annoying neighbours, nothing too awful just a bit noisy and inconsiderate at times, so I don't trust myself to be objective!

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PHANTOMnamechanger · 02/08/2015 21:24

xposts with Annie, sorry, I am not deliberately trying to confuse our non uk readers, leccy is a slang word in a very few specific parts of the uk, and a well know celeb with that accent has just died, so there have been quotes and clips etc doing the rounds in that accent.

8misskitty8 · 02/08/2015 21:24

Another one who thinks the builders will turn up tomorrow thinking that you are providing electric etc. for them.
Neighbor is basically assuming your happy to pay for part of her work being done as essentially that is what you would be doing by providing electricity, water, cups of tea etc. What a cheek. How did they ever think you'd agree to it !

If the builders knock on your door i'd feign ignorance. "Sorry neighbour never mentioned it to me. Can't help i'm afraid as i'm out all day." or simply don't answer the door.

PHANTOMnamechanger · 02/08/2015 21:20

apologies for the confusion caused by my use of the slang term leccy. odd thing is i would never use that in RL, i think i caught the accent from reading about the death of poor dear Cilla Black Blush (no doubt that will also confuse any non uk readers, but hey, there's always google)

yorkshapudding · 02/08/2015 21:18

You must be joking, Maya, I'll either be out or hiding behind the sofa Grin

I hate confrontation or awkwardness. If they do knock i'll probably just panic and end up shouting "NO WEEPING BICYCLE MONKEYS!" and slamming the door in their confused faces.

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loveareadingthanks · 02/08/2015 21:18

electric

AnnieOnAMapleLeaf · 02/08/2015 21:14

Ah ok thanks. I'm guessing leccy is an UK-ism? I've never heard it before.

oldbrownboot · 02/08/2015 21:04

Your neighbour is WEIRD. Who makes a plan based on a neighbour being there without even checking with them? and it sounds like you aren't even that close to them? and normally at work? feel sorry for you having days off and having to listen to all that noise though. that's what they should have been coming round to see you for - to apologise in advance for the noise.

nb garden clearing generally uses a lot of petrol powered tools (chain saw/ hedge cutters) as the electric ones aren't as powerful. So don't feel guilty.

purplepandas · 02/08/2015 21:04

They are batshit crazy! Not you at all.

BillyJoel · 02/08/2015 21:01

Hopefully the builders will turn up, leave, and charge your wonderful ndn for a morning's time wasted as she did not provide what she needed to to let them work.
Last thing you need is a noisy generator going for two days in the back garden. Noise and exhaust fumes....

mayaknew · 02/08/2015 20:59

OP please don't go out tomorrow first thing so you're like to be in when if the builders arrive . Grin

gamerchick · 02/08/2015 20:54

Ah bambs I did a proper mutley at that, bravo Grin

I agree with a PP. there was a chance to make some serious coin there.. Don't answer your door tomorrow as they've probably already made the arrangements and actually asking was an afterthought.

ThoseAwfulCurtains · 02/08/2015 20:43

Don't feel bad about the builders. It's absolutely not your problem. If they take to weeping in the bushes, just let them get on with it.

BuggerLumpsAnnoyed · 02/08/2015 20:39

Its the very fact that they've booked this work while away to be away from the unpleasantness of having it done.

So there you are, left with the extremely noisey work going on, wiping these men's shit streaks off your toilet, hoovering the mud they've trapsed through your house and making them cups of tea.

SteamTrainsRealAleandOpenFires · 02/08/2015 20:38

Slang for electricity.

TheOneWiththeNicestSmile · 02/08/2015 20:38

Sgtmajormummy, I had a lot of work done last autumn including a new roof & no, IME they don't have generators.

I suppose, if they're working somewhere remote where they actually need one they can get hold of one, but on routine domestic jobs they use the householder's leccy

yorkshapudding · 02/08/2015 20:38

Just short for electric, Annie.

Sgtmajor, no idea whether builders carry generators or not, never really thought about it. If so then hopefully that'll be the end of it.

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SugarOnTop · 02/08/2015 20:36

electricity

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 02/08/2015 20:36

Electricity!

AnnieOnAMapleLeaf · 02/08/2015 20:31

I know I'm going to regret asking, but what is "leccy"?

Sgtmajormummy · 02/08/2015 20:29

Errrr, don't builders nowadays have generators?
They can pee in the NDNs' garden and organise their own tea and biscuits.
The only difficulty I can see is the water supply. Tell NDN to rig up the garden hosepipe before they leave.
Problem solved.
(Maybe not getting into the spectator side of this...)

yorkshapudding · 02/08/2015 20:29

Phantom, they have shed but it looks ancient and like it's falling to bits so doubt it's got leccy. No garage. They do have a utility room and downstairs loo right by the back door though so it's not like they'd need to be wandering all over the house or anything.

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OTheHugeManatee · 02/08/2015 20:22

YASonotBU. Dying to know what happens tomorrow now Grin

PHANTOMnamechanger · 02/08/2015 20:19

when we had builders in, I equipped them with a kettle and mugs to use in the utility room, so they did not have to come into the main house, and i think between all of them in 3 months they only asked to use the loo twice (so they either had iron bladders or were kindly watering the garden for us)
is there not a shed or garage the neighbours have leccy in, if they dont wnat to leave them access to the house (which i understand, but then why agree to the work being done while they are away?)

SwingingBalls · 02/08/2015 20:17

Cheeky buggers. Marking my place for an update in the morning.

RitaKiaOra · 02/08/2015 20:17

I'd be out. All day.
But if I was in I would NOT be answering the door.

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