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AIBU re this odd request from neighbours?

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yorkshapudding · 02/08/2015 16:51

Our NDN's came over to tell us that they are having some work done in their back garden starting tomorrow- having a fence built, some trees cut down, rubbish cleared etc. They estimate it will be about two full days work, possibly more. They then told us that they were going away and would not be back until after the job has finished. They explained that they don't want to leave the workmen a key for "security reasons" so this means they will have no power source to plug tools in, no access to a bathroom or kettle etc. so would we be in and if so would we mind 'helping out' with those things.

I explained that DH will be at work and while I am actually off work for the next couple of days, I will have various errands, things to do, want to take DC out etc. so will be in and out of the house. They then asked when I was planning on going out so they could let their workmen know and saying "oh don't worry, they'll work around you". I told them that I hadn't made firm plans and didn't know when I would be going out. To be honest I don't really want to be tied to a schedule and I also don't like the idea of three strange men traipsing around my house for two days. I told them that I was sorry but they needed to either provide them with a key or arrange for the work to be done at a time when they would be home as we couldn't be on hand for two days to provide cups of tea, electricity and access to bathroom facilities etc.

Although they were polite, I got the distinct feeling that NDN's thought I was being mean and not very neighbourly.

AIBU or is it a bit much to expect me to accommodate all this? Initially I thought they were being cheeky (they don't want to leave these men a key but I should just open my house up to them!) and that it was a bit of a strange request but due to their reaction (they seemed quite surprised that I said no) I'm now doubting myself. They are generally quite annoying neighbours, nothing too awful just a bit noisy and inconsiderate at times, so I don't trust myself to be objective!

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TheReluctantCountess · 02/08/2015 22:50

I wonder if they have asked the neighbours on the other side. Cheeky buggers.

Icimoi · 02/08/2015 22:43

Have you compares notes with the neighbours on the other side? I bet they went to them after getting the brush off from you. Or maybe they went to them first and had already been asked if they were on glue?

ElkeDagMeisje · 02/08/2015 22:40

Your neighbours sound socially inept OP.

Basically they want you to deal with their garden and building work so that they don't have the inconvenience of being there while its done, so that they can come back and you will have it all ready for them.

What a pair of oddities!

Ladyconstance · 02/08/2015 22:33

No weeping bicycle monkeys. That's all you'll need to say. Love it! Im so glad you already said no to ndn. Not surprising you're asking MN for a sanity check. Your ndn are completely nuts and have balls of steel to even ask!

redshoeblueshoe · 02/08/2015 22:31

Alpaca - genius. Or rush round now and say I've won a day out for funniest thread on MN, so I'm off to Alton Towers Grin

SteamTrainsRealAleandOpenFires · 02/08/2015 22:25

Take photos of the garden fence, just in case it "moves" nearer to you.

SavoyCabbage · 02/08/2015 22:23

Extraordinary! They don't want the builders in their house so they think it a good plan that you do instead!

Nobody wants the inconvenience of having the builders in, nobody thinks 'I can't wait till next week when the back door will be open all the live long day and the extra loud radio plugged in.'

OVienna · 02/08/2015 22:22

Crazy request. Just be out. Is your house attached to theirs/do you share a party wall??? You need to avoid these loons at all costs.

yorkshapudding · 02/08/2015 22:17

Calm down, explainscotland! As I said in my OP I was very clear with the neighbours that I wouldn't do it. Yes, I do feel bad for the builders as nobody likes being messed around and having their time wasted but, as I said, I realise that's my NDN's fault and not mine so I won't be changing my mind.

OP posts:
Indole · 02/08/2015 22:09

Oh, and obviously YANBU. Your neighbours are insane.

Indole · 02/08/2015 22:09

Loving NO WEEPING BICYCLE MONKEYS!

AlpacaPicnic · 02/08/2015 22:08

Have you any building work you need doing yourself op? So when if the builders turn up you can say breezily 'oh yes, slight change of plan, ndn wants this thing doing here' Wink

PreemptiveSalvageEngineer · 02/08/2015 22:07

Eagerly awaiting the weeping bicycle monkeys tomorrow. Grin

Fizrim · 02/08/2015 22:04

OP, stay strong and be mean - I want those workmen weeping in the bushes within the first 10 minutes. Don't let me down. Don't forget to update either.

mayaknew · 02/08/2015 21:56

No York you need to be in so you know what NDN has told the builders .

And by "you" I mean "you and all us nosy MNers" GrinGrinGrin

If you go out you'll never even know if they turned up let alone were assured that you would be accommodating them .

VitaminCrumpet · 02/08/2015 21:53

Please update tomorrow OP. I've got a dull day at work sorting out the new rota, so I will be refreshing this thread every five minutes hourly occasionally.

MrsKCastle · 02/08/2015 21:52

Stay strong, you must NOT cave and order them bicycles. Let them weep in the bushes if necessary.

Best advice is probably to be out first thing.... But I really want you to be in so you can update us all!

AnnieOnAMapleLeaf · 02/08/2015 21:48

Please don't apologize Phantom. MN is, after all, a U.K. site. Smile

TheOneWiththeNicestSmile · 02/08/2015 21:43

NO WEEPING BICYCLE MONKEYS HERE

Am about to print that out & stick it on my front door

FryOneFatManic · 02/08/2015 21:41

I'm sure it was premeditated.

And despite you saying no, I'm also sure your NDN has convinced themself that when the workmen do turn up, you'll cave in.

I think being out at around 8am, when they're likely to turn up, will make it clear you're not available. Although, personally, these days I'm happy to make it clear that I'd told the NDN that it wasn't convenient.

SchwarzwalderKirschtorte · 02/08/2015 21:34

Weeping bicycle monkeys. I have just nearly wet myself laughing while oh looked Hmm

dustarr73 · 02/08/2015 21:32

The thing is though is NDN left it till last minute to ask you so its all pre meditated.So yanbu in saying no.

expatinscotland · 02/08/2015 21:30

'I know, I know, none of this is my fault so I mustn't cave in..'

FGS, yorkshire, stop being such a mug! NOthing to do with confrontation or awkwardness. They can charge your NDN for wasting their time. Be a good example to your kids, no one learns anything good from being a jessie. Take £40 and set it on fire, go on, do it! Because this is what you will be doing if you allow your NDN's to use your power for this. At least.

They are pisstaking fuckwits.

PHANTOMnamechanger · 02/08/2015 21:29

NO WEEPING BICYCLE MONKEYS

I think we should all adopt this as our how-to-get-rid-of-nuisance-phonecalls response, so much more fun than just saying no thank you! Grin

gamerchick · 02/08/2015 21:25

I really want you to say that now OP Grin

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