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AIBU re this odd request from neighbours?

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yorkshapudding · 02/08/2015 16:51

Our NDN's came over to tell us that they are having some work done in their back garden starting tomorrow- having a fence built, some trees cut down, rubbish cleared etc. They estimate it will be about two full days work, possibly more. They then told us that they were going away and would not be back until after the job has finished. They explained that they don't want to leave the workmen a key for "security reasons" so this means they will have no power source to plug tools in, no access to a bathroom or kettle etc. so would we be in and if so would we mind 'helping out' with those things.

I explained that DH will be at work and while I am actually off work for the next couple of days, I will have various errands, things to do, want to take DC out etc. so will be in and out of the house. They then asked when I was planning on going out so they could let their workmen know and saying "oh don't worry, they'll work around you". I told them that I hadn't made firm plans and didn't know when I would be going out. To be honest I don't really want to be tied to a schedule and I also don't like the idea of three strange men traipsing around my house for two days. I told them that I was sorry but they needed to either provide them with a key or arrange for the work to be done at a time when they would be home as we couldn't be on hand for two days to provide cups of tea, electricity and access to bathroom facilities etc.

Although they were polite, I got the distinct feeling that NDN's thought I was being mean and not very neighbourly.

AIBU or is it a bit much to expect me to accommodate all this? Initially I thought they were being cheeky (they don't want to leave these men a key but I should just open my house up to them!) and that it was a bit of a strange request but due to their reaction (they seemed quite surprised that I said no) I'm now doubting myself. They are generally quite annoying neighbours, nothing too awful just a bit noisy and inconsiderate at times, so I don't trust myself to be objective!

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Minicaters · 03/08/2015 11:35

I see, that's a difficult one if they need to cut the plant to fit the fence. You could cut them back to within your boundary yourself, if you want to keep them, then they wouldn't have a reason to rip them out.

I wonder if NDNs realise it will cost a lot more in labour this way and it would have been cheaper to offer to pay for the electricity rather than just giggling.

yorkshapudding · 03/08/2015 11:34

Red, there doesn't seem to be a skip Confused. Bit annoying as I could do with having a clear out.

OOAML, I will definitely be having words. Not sure exactly what I'm going to say but they need to know that the way they have handled this is extremely selfish and irresponsible. If my poor plants do end up being sacrificed for their fence then I will be telling NDN's that I expect them to replace them.

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OOAOML · 03/08/2015 11:25

So the neighbours asked both of you, you both refused, and they didn't bother to sort anything else out, or let the builders know??

What on earth are you going to say to them when they get back??

redshoeblueshoe · 03/08/2015 11:25

Where is the skip ? Time for a big clear out

yorkshapudding · 03/08/2015 11:19

Mini, the plants are in a flower bed in front of their fence but have grown so that some of it is encroaching on their side now that the old fence has been removed if you see what I mean. They said they are hoping they can get away with cutting them back a bit rather than removing them but won't know until they actually come to fit the panels. Not impressed.

Other neighbour has just been round. She was fuming! NDN's asked her after they asked us yesterday apparently. Her response was "are you going to pay my electricity bill then?" which was met with nervous laughter. She told the builders she had already said no and they were polite, didn't try to push it or anything.

They're out there now hammering away so I assume they've decided they can make do without power tools for now.

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VitaminCrumpet · 03/08/2015 11:14

Criminal damage or theft if your plants are removed?

ExitPursuedByABear · 03/08/2015 11:11
middlings · 03/08/2015 11:04

Oh this is too good - cheeky beggars! Well done you for saying no!!

missnevermind · 03/08/2015 11:01

So to knock on your back door they have had to trespass into your back garden without your express permission Shock and Grin

Minicaters · 03/08/2015 10:59

Are your plants attached to their fence?

redshoeblueshoe · 03/08/2015 10:58

Soon they'll be weeping in the garden Grin

mayaknew · 03/08/2015 10:51

WTAF ?! You've to provide electricity refreshments and toilet facilities AND sacrifice your plants for their fence ?!!!!!

Who the hell thinks this is acceptable behaviour ?! Your NDN are serious weirdos OP I can't believe the nerve of some people ShockShockShockShockShock

PestoSwimissimos · 03/08/2015 10:51

Un-believable Shock

LIZS · 03/08/2015 10:50

Blooming cheek. No they can't move your plants, ndn need to arrange to reinstate them. They will need to come into your garden to do the fence too.

OOAOML · 03/08/2015 10:47

I hope they will be uprooting the plants carefully, maintaining them and then replanting them to your order?

yorkshapudding · 03/08/2015 10:44

Spoke too bloody soon. Two builders turned up at the back door just now (what kind of builders turn up to start a job at 10.15??) expectantly holding out an extension lead asking if I could please plug it in somewhere near the back of the house. No mention of kitchen or bathroom facilities, they just wanted power.

I told them I was sorry but had already told NDN's that I wouldn't be able to help when they asked yesterday. They were very polite but a bit confused as they thought it had all been sorted. They then looked a bit sheepish and asked if NDN's had mentioned about our plants at all. Apparently, in order to build the new fence a couple of our plants on that side may have to be sacrificed Angry. Not the end of the world, but I'm pretty pissed off that they never thought to mention that when they came round here looking for favours!

They've gone off (on their bicycles, obviously) to ask the other neighbour now but I don't think they'll have much joy there either.

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chippednailvarnish · 03/08/2015 10:29

Sad am clearly over invested!

8misskitty8 · 03/08/2015 10:05

How dare they cancel ! I'm stuck in the house all day waiting on a delivery and have an ill child. What am i to do for entertainment ! LOL

yorkshapudding · 03/08/2015 10:03

Just got back. No sign of builders, sorry everyone!

NDN's must have had a rare attack of common sense and cancelled them I reckon.

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nipersvest · 03/08/2015 10:00

ndn are definitely crazy, ime, never have any work done on your house without being there and watching the workmen like a hawk. they are being nieve going away and leaving them to it.

8misskitty8 · 03/08/2015 09:59

Any sign of them OP ?

IamtheDevilsAvocado · 03/08/2015 09:49

Wouldn't the mad neighbours be less mad if they arranged to leave an extension electric cable out of their kitchen /loo window for any power??

OTheHugeManatee · 03/08/2015 08:50
BitOutOfPractice · 03/08/2015 08:17

Damn you op! How dare you be put when if they turn up