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AIBU re this odd request from neighbours?

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yorkshapudding · 02/08/2015 16:51

Our NDN's came over to tell us that they are having some work done in their back garden starting tomorrow- having a fence built, some trees cut down, rubbish cleared etc. They estimate it will be about two full days work, possibly more. They then told us that they were going away and would not be back until after the job has finished. They explained that they don't want to leave the workmen a key for "security reasons" so this means they will have no power source to plug tools in, no access to a bathroom or kettle etc. so would we be in and if so would we mind 'helping out' with those things.

I explained that DH will be at work and while I am actually off work for the next couple of days, I will have various errands, things to do, want to take DC out etc. so will be in and out of the house. They then asked when I was planning on going out so they could let their workmen know and saying "oh don't worry, they'll work around you". I told them that I hadn't made firm plans and didn't know when I would be going out. To be honest I don't really want to be tied to a schedule and I also don't like the idea of three strange men traipsing around my house for two days. I told them that I was sorry but they needed to either provide them with a key or arrange for the work to be done at a time when they would be home as we couldn't be on hand for two days to provide cups of tea, electricity and access to bathroom facilities etc.

Although they were polite, I got the distinct feeling that NDN's thought I was being mean and not very neighbourly.

AIBU or is it a bit much to expect me to accommodate all this? Initially I thought they were being cheeky (they don't want to leave these men a key but I should just open my house up to them!) and that it was a bit of a strange request but due to their reaction (they seemed quite surprised that I said no) I'm now doubting myself. They are generally quite annoying neighbours, nothing too awful just a bit noisy and inconsiderate at times, so I don't trust myself to be objective!

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NoWeepingBicycleMonkeys · 04/08/2015 03:29

Best you have a cheeky poo in their bushes OP, then of course blame it on the builders!Wink

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 04/08/2015 02:28

Very amusing indeed. Sorry OP I know it might not be from your point of view but it does make good reading Grin

Weeping bicycle monkeys indeed. Grin

forago · 04/08/2015 02:07

the builders must be mates of theirs or something, no reputable builder would think it appropriate to try and cadge electricity of random people they're not working for surely?

Concordial · 04/08/2015 02:00

Grin shakey

When do these cheeky twats get back from their break?
I suspect there will be some entitled ranting when they find out that their neighbours didn't provide 24/7 amenities and electricity.

PreemptiveSalvageEngineer · 04/08/2015 01:39

Can't help but wonder if (as I am presuming it's going to be a new fence) it's going to have a gate in it. So your lovely NDNs can just pop over any time they like ...

Shock Shock Shock Grin

MrsJorahMormont · 04/08/2015 00:20

Shameless place marking.

AmIbeingTreasonable · 03/08/2015 23:54

Why thank you gordonpym Grin

gordonpym · 03/08/2015 23:41

Cut your plants back to the boundary, then take lots of photos of your fence and plants from all angles and make sure they are dated.
Tell ndn they cannot remove any plants.

Excellent advice!

mlamle · 03/08/2015 23:06

Ha, it's been a long while since I've posted on MN, but this thread, and Shakey's comment make it necessary! Glad you've held your ground, Yorksha.

TheReluctantCountess · 03/08/2015 23:04

Yes, as someone has said, well done for standing up for yourself.

AmIbeingTreasonable · 03/08/2015 22:48

Cut your plants back to the boundary, then take lots of photos of your fence and plants from all angles and make sure they are dated.
Tell ndn they cannot remove any plants.

OhBigHairyBollocks · 03/08/2015 22:45

Loving this thread Grin glad you are all sticking together! What cheeky neighbours you have!

Shakey1500 · 03/08/2015 22:29

This is too funny Grin

I'm envisaging an AIBU next week......

AIBU- I asked my NDN to help us out of a tight spot for a couple of days and the selfish cow refused. It would have only caused minor inconvenience. And now we've returned home after a well deserved break to find a random bicycle wheel spinning in the lawn, some questionable odours emanating from my bush, a packet of Kleenex on the window sill and fucking banana skins on the path?? I mean, what the actual FUCK??

green18 · 03/08/2015 22:22

YANBU Who arranges workmen to come that need electricity to complete the job and not leave access to their house? Who would go away when this is happening? Who would presume that although they themselves can't be bothered to hang around, their neighbours might? They are well out of order!I'd go away yourself for a couple of days!

hhhhhhh · 03/08/2015 22:12

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YouTheCat · 03/08/2015 22:09

When do your lovely neighbours get back?

minkGrundy · 03/08/2015 21:59

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gordonpym · 03/08/2015 21:43

Maybe put a note on the door for tomorrow reminding them of the working hours in your council.

yorkshapudding · 03/08/2015 21:38

They left about 8pm in the end. I was going to go out there and have a word but was preoccupied with DD and by the time I got her bathed and ready for bed I realised they were packing up to go. Doesn't look like they've done much to be honest, despite the racket they were making.

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LittleChinaPig · 03/08/2015 21:06

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starlight2007 · 03/08/2015 20:44

Following for tomorrows installment

Justtoobad · 03/08/2015 20:43

Shocking behaviour (from n)

AlisonBlunderland · 03/08/2015 20:23

Before leaving

AIBU re this odd request from neighbours?
AlisonBlunderland · 03/08/2015 20:21

The builders get upset

AIBU re this odd request from neighbours?
TheReluctantCountess · 03/08/2015 20:12

The environmental health would come and tell them to stop in the evening.

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