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Aibu over lady using my parking spaces.

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Nannyplum2015 · 14/02/2015 18:58

We live in a housing estate and each house or flat has one or two spaces allocated to them. Most of the spaces are directly outside our houses except a few that are round the side that have garages. The spaces aren't numbered but everyone seems to know who's is whose. There's a new neighbour that has moved in next door to me (a corner house) and has a garage parking space round the back of her house, however she uses both my spaces as she parks in the middle of them. It's quite annoying when there's nowhere else to park as you have to park further down the road.

I went over today and introduced myself and poilitley told her the spaces were mine and hers was round the back but she was welcome to use our other space when we don't have guests but could she park to one side so I can fit my car next to hers. She looked at me with a blank expression, said no and shut the door on me! What do I do now!? I just stood there for a moment open mouthed and then went home.

Now I'm not sure if she has mobility problems as she's not exactly nimble anymore (about 65) but I am shocked at her one word reply!

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Nannyplum2015 · 14/02/2015 21:12

She's still in my space now. Shall I get dh to go round? He's just come in from work.

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Nannyplum2015 · 14/02/2015 21:11

Good idea, the cost though! I'll definitely go down that route if I have to though. I'll see if a cheaper option works first. I'm ringing the estate manger on Monday and I'll try and see if I've got any paperwork to prove they're mine and post it through to her. She looks scary though with her stones faced no!

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70isaLimitNotaTarget · 14/02/2015 21:08

You shouldn't have to go to all the hassell of getting out of your car but you should've knocked again when she rudely closed her door.

Don't park in her space, she'll see it as a green light to use yours.
You need to move her every time.

You could block her in if she continues , but I'd be hammering on her door (especially if she's in the middle of doing something)

Or buy a bike to put in the other space (no tax to worry about, cheap enough to buy) a stand to keep it upright and a chain so she can't move it.
Don't let it continue though.......................(glares at behemoth vehicle parked directly across the road that makes it a nightmare to get off my parking bay especially when NDN park on-road. But there's nothing I can do because it's a public road)

goodasitgets · 14/02/2015 21:07

Estate manager first
Trust me start now. I am 8 YEARS in to this, and it's still going on. You can't reason, deeds won't do any good. I've done solicitors letter, police (due to aggression), pleaded, blocked in. The final straw was two nights ago when I got called a c* for asking someone to move out my space so I could park

Babieseverywhere · 14/02/2015 21:01

Get remote control bollards...no leaving the car at all.

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Nannyplum2015 · 14/02/2015 20:57

If I get bollards I'll hVe to get out all the time (yes I know I'm lazy lol). I was thinking about photocopying the deeds and posting them through the door. I'm not even sure if I have a copy myself, I'll have to dig out all our house paperwork.

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maddening · 14/02/2015 20:53

if she has mobility issues she would not have purchased this house - you get the land registry from your solicitors when purchasing so she was well aware - after her rudeness get bollards - they could be installed by Tuesday - make sure she can't access by driving in at an angle or from the side as she sounds like a cheeky fucker

Fuckmath · 14/02/2015 20:31

YY Nothing to do with mobility issues At all even if she has them, which we don't know. She's on your land. She wouldn't be entitled to help herself to your house or garden because it suited her more from a mobility PoV, so why should she help herself to your parking space.

AddToBasket · 14/02/2015 20:27

Agree, this has nothing to do with mobility issues. You do need to assert your ownership though, because you don't want to establish an accidental right of use.

Lweji · 14/02/2015 20:24

I really don't want to annoy her as I'll be leaving next to her for the next few years!

It's not something that seems to concern her, so start as you mean to go. No compromise.

youmakemydreams · 14/02/2015 20:07

The penguin bollards were from a long running parking saga that went on last year. Was rather amusing.

Staywithme · 14/02/2015 20:02

It doesn't matter if she has mobility problems, it's not her fecking space. Being disabled does not give someone the right to act like an arse. This is your property and if you don't sort it things will get worse.

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Nannyplum2015 · 14/02/2015 20:00

She doesn't park in my spaces if I'm using one of them, she'll use another set or hers at the back and come in through her garden. She's not registered disabled as far as I can tell (doesn't display badges) but she does kind of waddle (not sure if that's pk to say Blush). Basically she appears ok to walk the extra 3m or so if she uses her space and comes in via her garden. I really don't want to annoy her as I'll be leaving next to her for the next few years! But some ideas do some appealing!

On a side note, who on earth would want to buy penguin bollards! They are hideous!

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Methe · 14/02/2015 20:00

Park you r car directly behind her car so she has to knock on your door when she wants to go out.

Lorialet · 14/02/2015 19:59

I wouldn't even let her use the spare space. It doesn't sound as if she's very good at parking and she might knock your car.

mateysmum · 14/02/2015 19:59

If it's your space on the deeds, then it's yours. She might as well park in your front room.

Solicitor's letter if she persists?

EnlightenedOwl · 14/02/2015 19:58

You must withdraw the offer to let her park there. People like this don't deserve consideration.

Koalafications · 14/02/2015 19:58

ILovePud, not if they were put in at at the right dance from each other.

OhFlippityBolax · 14/02/2015 19:57

Put your bins in one of the spaces or buy one of those large plastic garden.storage boxes and put it in a space

sockmatcher · 14/02/2015 19:56

She's rude and lazy. I'd get estate manager to have a word and withdraw visitor offer

EnlightenedOwl · 14/02/2015 19:55

another alternative, buy another car, an old banger for peanuts, and leave that in the second space bollard off the other one.

youmakemydreams · 14/02/2015 19:54

Is this time to bring out the penguin bollards again?

EnlightenedOwl · 14/02/2015 19:53

paint the house number on each, get a lockable bollard and don't bother with estate manager; if on deeds spaces are yours so no issue. You can't reason with people like this. If she has a problem beggar all she can do about it.

ILovePud · 14/02/2015 19:48

How blooming rude of your neighbour. If you got a lockable bollard would she still be able to do her trick of parking in the middle of two spaces though?

Lweji · 14/02/2015 19:48

So, she's a double parker doubly twat.

I'd probably be tempted to block her car until she respected my parking space, report for trespassing, and ring her bell until she moves the car.
Endless possibilities.