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What happens to people after they die in hospital

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Unsureif · 20/06/2014 07:22

I don't know what's made me wonder this morning. A few years ago my DM died in hospital. We said our goodbyes and left her in the room, looking like she was sleeping. The hospital was fairly busy during this time, think it was visiting hours.

What will have happened after we left? Will they have treated her as if she were still alive, talked to her? Do they really cover up their faces? And how are they taken to the morgue?

Just want to know. Really missing DM. Sad

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Piratejones · 20/06/2014 07:36

Well my blood ran cold and I just burst into tears, so thanks for that, pirate.

There is nothing wrong with being covered after you die, It's much more respectful than everyone seeing you.

littlegreengloworm · 20/06/2014 07:36

I was a carer many years ago and we did speak to the patient. It was very very respectful.

We lit candles and prayed for her (same religion). This was in a nursing home.

I certainly think your mother would have been looked after very well and treated without the up,ost respect op.

Flowers hope you can get through this pain. Xxx

AtYourCervix · 20/06/2014 07:34

I used to talk to people, so did pretty much every nurse I worked with. And open the window.

People were washed, clean cotton gown put on, wrapped on a sheet. Then the porters would come and put them in a special trolley and take them downstairs to the mortuary. Undertakers collect them from there.

Piratejones · 20/06/2014 07:33

ImperialBlether

I apologised in the post above, there is not a lot more I can do is there.

Charlie01234 · 20/06/2014 07:32

Fgs pirate.
When a friend of mine died the nursing staff washed and dressed her, talking to her all the time. They were very caring

Unsureif · 20/06/2014 07:31

Well my blood ran cold and I just burst into tears, so thanks for that, pirate. I was doing ok. I was just curious.

Thanks everyone. I do miss her so much. But I really am ok generally. I just feel like I want to know what happened to her after I left her.

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JudysPriest · 20/06/2014 07:30

I've known a few junior doctors and they all said the kept a 'bedside manner' as such " Now Mr Smith, just going to take you downstairs".

There's a Mner who spoke of when she is washing and preparing a body she will natter on to them as she moves them if I recall correctly. My Dad's nurse spoke to him (we where there) as she prepared him.

I've been in hospital when someone died, the shut all the ward doors and they went down the corridor so no one was gawping or distressed.

Thanks
sewingandcakes · 20/06/2014 07:28

When I was on a placement in hospital, we washed the gentleman who had died, I think we dressed him in some clean white sheets, and then the staff from the mortuary in the hospital came to take him. I think we spoke to him a little, we were certainly respectful and weren't chatting about our lunch over him.

I'm sorry for your loss OP Thanks

ImperialBlether · 20/06/2014 07:27

That must be very comforting for the op to hear, pirate.

My sister was a nurse and I know she would have given a great deal of care to your mum. I am so sorry for your loss. Do you have anyone to talk to in real life?

Piratejones · 20/06/2014 07:25
Thanks Sorry for your loss, and for being very blunt.
BlondieBrownie · 20/06/2014 07:25

I know that the first thing they do is wash the body, everyone I know who works in a hospital also opens a window so that the spirit can be 'set free'.

They are treated with absolute respect and nothing less.

Piratejones · 20/06/2014 07:24

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