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Earthmotherimnot passed away peacefully in her sleep today.

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DaughterOfEmin · 04/09/2013 05:55

I am not sure if this is the right place for this but my mum (EMIN) had asked us to keep her mumsnet friends updated on her cancer battle.

I have already posted on the 'cancer' thread but wanted to make sure I had done what she wanted.

Mum - wife, mother of three, foster mother to over 80 children and grandmother of one - passed away peacefully in her sleep at 2:50 this morning. We were all with her, holding her hand and telling her we loved her.

Yesterday all of her family came to visit and they spent time with her, each of them getting their private time to talk to her and just be there with her and for her.

All she had ever wanted was to be at home with her family around her and she got exactly what she wanted. She will be missed so very much and we are devastated that she was taken so early.

She loved to read threads on fostering as babies were her life. She lurked a fair bit and would just offer words of guidance, comfort or encouragement where she felt she could help. In later months as she fought cancer she concentrated more on the cancer thread and I know it gave her some comfort.

She would have been 60 in October and we are devastated she never got to have her big family party but we get some comfort from the fact that all of her loved ones were with her yesterday.

I don't know how many people she communicated with outside of the boards or if any crossedover to real life but if anyone is interested in coming to the funeral once it is arranged then by all means drop me a private message and I can pass on the details.

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ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee · 04/09/2013 10:51

I am so so sorry to read this. I had no idea she had cancer :( I didn't see the blanket thread at all or I would have knit some squares.

We used to chat quite a bit & had some good laughs, I used to tell her that her name was wrong! :)

She was an amazing woman, truely amazing (but you know that!!) and I hope just knowing how many lives she touched gives you some comfort and best of all, knowing she was your Mum x

It is so wrong for her to be gone so soon, she was far far too young and far far too good. I lost my Dad a few years ago, he was too young as well (even though I'm a lot older than you) and it is really really hard. We are all here for you at any time you want to talk or just join in the general chat for a bit of a distraction. (You might even already be here under another name, I don't know).

Can you please let me know when her funeral will take place, I'd like to have a quiet few minutes thinking about her at the same time.

Lots of love
xxx

EsTutMirLeid · 04/09/2013 10:50

I hadn't see that thread before mad thanks for linking. Goodness me DofEMIN your mum was incredible, you must be very proud of her.

NothingsLeft · 04/09/2013 10:50

RIP to a truly inspiration lady. How wonderful to have given such love to so many in need. Your mum will live on in many, many hearts. So very sorry for your loss Thanks

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Faverolles · 04/09/2013 10:44

I'm so sorry.
I shared EMIN's drug dependant baby thread with a friend who is a new foster carer, she found it immensely helpful. (I also sobbed my way through it more than once)

She sounds like a truly wonderful, inspirational woman who will be missed by many.
Love and best wishes to you all xx

northernlurker · 04/09/2013 10:43

DaughterofEMIN - I read your mum's thread as she worked with the baby born addicted. Her efforts were incredible and her strength and love so immense. There can be few people who've given so much and helped so much. May she rest in peace and may you all find comfort in your loss.

TulipsfromAmsterdam · 04/09/2013 10:40

So very sad to hear this. As other's have said EMIN was a huge inspiration and helped so many children.

It is comforting to know she was with her loving family as she would have wanted.

EMIN will be missed by so many on mumsnet.

mouseymummy · 04/09/2013 10:31

Oh no :(

I'm so very very sorry to hear this but I'm glad her last moments were how she wanted.

It was your mums thread on the baby with addiction issues that made me join mumsnet.

I really hope that you can all take peace from knowing how loved your mum was and how many lives she has helped shape for the better.

RIP.

HappySunflower · 04/09/2013 10:26

Oh no, what a shock!

It must be so devastating for you all to have lost her so soon.
She packed more love, warmth, and giving into her almost 60 years than most people do in 100.

She was so very, very proud of her wonderful family, and the many children who have been part of your loves over the years. Yet, she was so modest about her input into people's lives. Mumsnet has been so much richer because of her being here. She will be much missed.

Much love to you and the rest of your family.

GobTheGoblin · 04/09/2013 10:24

So sorry for you loss. RIP emin.

Madsometimes · 04/09/2013 10:24

I am going to link to Emin's thread about caring for the drug dependent baby. It is one of the most inspirational threads that you will read on MN. She was so kind and giving to the babies she fostered and to the new parents who eventually ended up adopting these children. She was also incredibly compassionate and non-judgemental towards the birth mothers.

RIP Emin.

MrsFlorrick · 04/09/2013 10:23

I'm sorry for your loss. Very sad to hear. I read quite a few of your mums threads. She was truly inspirational and an amazing woman.

SisterMatic · 04/09/2013 10:20

So very sorry for your loss x

spiderlight · 04/09/2013 10:18

So very sorry. She sounds like a truly wonderful lady who touched so many lives.

flatfootcontessa · 04/09/2013 10:14

I am so sorry for your loss.

differentnameforthis · 04/09/2013 10:13

So sorry for you loss. Condolences to all the family.

timeforgin · 04/09/2013 10:12

I just happened to have finished reading the thread about the drug dependent little girl your mother fostered today and then saw this in 'active' conversations.

This seems so unfair. Your mother was an angel. You must all be so incredibly proud of her. My thoughts are with you all at this sad time.

LadyMaryQuiteContrary · 04/09/2013 10:07

I'm so sorry. I'll always remember your mum, and the kindness that she showed the children that she cared for would have made a massive difference to their lives. You must all be so proud of her.

Thanks
DreamingofSummer · 04/09/2013 10:00

RIP

Crumbledwalnuts · 04/09/2013 10:00

I've never come across her on mumsnet but my goodness she sounds like a stunning person. What a difference she must have made. How devastating. What a terrible loss for you, and for so many others.

orangepudding · 04/09/2013 10:00

Very sad loss Sad

AgathaF · 04/09/2013 09:59

So sorry for your loss.

xx

GwendolineMaryLacey · 04/09/2013 09:55

Very sorry to hear this. RIP EMIN Flowers
Am thinking of you and your family xx

WireCat · 04/09/2013 09:55

I'm so sorry for your loss xxx

ChazsBrilliantAttitude · 04/09/2013 09:52

I am very sorry for your loss.
RIP EMIN.