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To be miffed at "Gift list for mother of the baby" enclosed in *Baby naming ceremony* invitation?

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doubleshotespresso · 12/06/2013 23:38

So some close friends (who married in church), but now claim to be atheist are holding a naming ceremony for their 8 month old first baby in an hotel.....

The invitation is beautiful with a map, timings "event closes at 11pm"?

The gift list ranges from £30-to £300, all items for the mother, cosmetics, trinkets, jewellery, pampering breaks, personalised hand-bound stationery and photo albums...

Anybody know the drill for these naming ceremonies? Are we supposed to guess a gift for the baby? Or just congratulate the mother for deciding on a name?

I have read this a dozen times and am staggered beyond belief-DP read it and fell into hysterics....

My gut tells me to go along with Jo Malone scented nappies or something.

Somebody please tell me this is not normal?!?!?!

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SauceForTheGander · 27/06/2013 14:05
Shock

Is she coming still? What does she want you to say?

SauvignonBlanche · 27/06/2013 14:05

Oh for goodness sake! Shock
What is she saying?

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doubleshotespresso · 27/06/2013 14:03

Uh oh.....

Just received an email from friends' sister..... She would like me to "relay some thoughts and feelings" to friend on her beahlf....

In shock at the utter self-indulgence here.... Aaaagghhh just had to vent as I am at work at mo!

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ShipwreckedAndComatose · 26/06/2013 16:08

Here it deserves to be!!

Frogcatcher · 26/06/2013 13:28

OMG I have just read from start to finish on a recommendation & have been crying like a baby! double we have got to throw you a MN hen night as you deserve it. Maybe a spa day at a very famous spa? Grin
And MNHQ definitely owe you a wedding present for being amazing.
Faith in humanity is restored.

Jacaqueen · 26/06/2013 13:23

Best thread ever!

That is all I have to say.

AntiqueMuppet · 26/06/2013 13:17

OP This is possibly the loveliest thread I have ever read on MN.
Massive congratulations and all the best for your wedding, the christening and the naming ceremony Flowers

Thumbwitch · 26/06/2013 12:49

oh jolly good Rebecca, thank you :)

SDTG - you are defo living up to your Evil moniker! Grin But luffly too Wink

LeoTheLateBloomer · 26/06/2013 12:29

Hooray! Thank you Grin

happyyonisleepyyoni · 26/06/2013 11:44

AIBU to be excitedly awaiting the book and film of this thread?

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 26/06/2013 11:37

AIBU to think that all of MNHQ should go to the wedding in their very best hats?

MNHQ
RebeccaMumsnet · 26/06/2013 11:23

Hi there,

Thanks for the reports, we've moved this to Classics now.

Grin
LeoTheLateBloomer · 26/06/2013 10:46

Ahem. HQ what's this still doing in AIBU????? pleeeeaaase put it in classics!!! Flowers Wine Gin whatever it takes...

FrankellyMyDearIDontGiveADamn · 26/06/2013 10:33

Great idea STDG, or we could plan Doubles wedding for her. I bet we'd make it well clarsy Wink

SauceForTheGander · 26/06/2013 10:23

Oh SDTG what a great idea.

We could have classy jackets with YANBU on the back.

We'd be really well behaved I promise. There'd be no gin until much later

Wonders if a mumsnet meet up could be arranged at nearby pub on day of wedding if doubleshot doesn't want us as ushers.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 26/06/2013 10:18

I haven't read this thread for a few days, but ohhhh my, how wonderful everything has turned out!! It sounds as if you are building a wonderful family between you all. I love that your dsc are happy about the wedding, and that they are so relaxed with you that they can make daft jokes, knowing you will laugh too.

How would you feel about an honour guard of Mumsnetters outside the church after the wedding? Maybe holding up an archway of AIBU threads for you to walk through? Or using mumsnet threads printed on pretty coloured paper and made into confetti. Or cut and folded into paper roses. #

GrinThanksGrinThanksGrinThanksGrinThanksGrinThanksGrinThanksGrinThanksGrinThanks

JulesJules · 26/06/2013 09:37

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FairPhyllis · 25/06/2013 21:27
SauvignonBlanche · 25/06/2013 19:05

What lovely family you're marrying into, you all deserve each other. Smile

MissStrawberry · 25/06/2013 17:39

What lovely inlaws you are going to have and you must must invite them to the wedding. I can understand you thinking they might find it difficult but their grandchildren's father is getting married and I am sure they would want to be there. Most weddings have tears but tbh this couple sound so amazing I am sure they will want to be there and will be able to be but obviously your DF will be best placed to know how to ask them without making it a huge deal and therefore them thinking they aren't really welcome.

That might be the longest sentence ever without punctuation Hmm but the words kept coming.

Lovely of them to bring flowers, amazing to bring a bracelet too.

You are step mum to their grandchildren and of course want to welcome you in and be friends.

This has got to be the most convoluted post ever but I am sure you get the idea.

Brilliant inlaws
Generous inlaws
Kind inlaws
Great people

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 25/06/2013 14:12

This is the thread that keeps on giving. Smile

How wonderful your DSCs' grandparents sound! I would definitely invite them formally to all of the wedding, ceremony and festivities, and have the quiet word on the side. We did the conversation first with one of my uncles who lives really far (like 3,500 miles) away, he indicated he wouldn't come so we didn't send him an invitation. Subsequently it came out that he was hurt by this omission, because he missed out on feeling involved with our plans and seeing our invitations and so on - he's a real old softie. I still regret not inviting him to this day.

Great news about your lovely friend too!

Thumbwitch · 25/06/2013 13:17

Oh oh, I missed your first post about your DSC's grandparents. They sound utterly lovely and of course you must invite them - whether they feel they can come or not is not the point, the fact you want them there will make them happy. I'm so glad to read that you all get on so well, it's lovely when that happens. :)

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doubleshotespresso · 25/06/2013 12:52

Mumngran you are right . They have always been so supportive and approachable, they even sent chocolates when we won the battle to get DSD into her favoured big school. All the persistence paid off (DP initially thought there was no point) and she is very happy there but they really helped picking me up from the station to make sure I could get to meetings at the school etc. and when I first moved in with DP and the kids all those years ago they got me through/backed me up 100% when DSCs put me through the inevitable testing.....

They are wonderful people, the more I write here the more desperate I am for them to come..... Hope they do.... Yes I will choose my words carefully and make sure they do what they are comfortable with.

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MumnGran · 25/06/2013 12:32

any thoughts peeps? ..... Am getting myself in a bit of a pickle over this aren't I

You could probably write down what I will say without even looking double. lol
Upfront & honest has worked all the way through, for you .... and the grandparents reaction to the engagement shows that you have already handled a very delicate family dynamic with tact and care.
So ...... I would talk to DSC's grandmother quietly, next time you see her, and follow the repeated thanks for bracelet with a genuine, "I really don't know what to do that is best for your feelings? ......etc etc" .....and let them decide which bit they would want an official invitation to.
They will absolutely respect that you are giving them open access, but their own choice.....because they sound like wonderful people, too Smile

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doubleshotespresso · 25/06/2013 12:32

Ok good yes.... Thanks.

DP is dropping DSD to them on Saturday for a cinema/ dinner trip so he will have a chat with them and we are thinking of inviting them for a lunch at home in a couple of weeks with both our sets of parents so that we can all spend some time together.

Further good news today.... Friend and baby are sleeping much better and friend has been referred to a consultant who has confirmed her sugar levels are "almost normal" so the pregnancy induced diabetes seems to be responding well to the new diet and is hopefully fading away. She says here energy levels have shot up in the last week and sounds much perkier...

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