To be miffed at "Gift list for mother of the baby" enclosed in *Baby naming ceremony* invitation?

The phrase 'More front than Blackpool' springs to mind.

Doubleshot, how are you resisting the urge to ring her up (or email her) and give her a large, detailed and unequivocal piece of your mind?

It is not too late to make the appropriate return to the plans already agreed and discussed. Fortunately I am able to make this happen.

What. The actual. Fuck?

But up until then I had tears running down my cheeks was quite moved reading about your DSC's GPs. They sound lovely. Not quite as wonderful as you of course double bit still, nice people

Wow, I think my earlier suggestion is insufficient.

She is absolutely

loop.

the.

loop.

You'll do the right thing, you have impeccable judgement. Best of luck.

It would be best if I could gain some balance on this all soon
Reply:
Dear Friend's Sis,
Sorry to hear that you are unbalanced. Best wishes for your speedy recovery.

Another one blubbing here! Huge congratulations to you and your lovely fiancé! Xxx

really need you to move on this for me please

I love that bit

I bet the sister bullied your friend throughout their childhoods. She sounds... Self-involved (to put it nicely).

Wow, just wow. Send to friends DH and her parents. Just unbelievable.

Sauvignon-great minds think alike!

I agree with Ice - the only people that can tell the sister that she is being totally U are her parents now. If you respond she can too easily pass off what you say as it being done differently in their family so you couldn't possibly understand. I think you also risk being made the bad guy if there's bad blood between the sisters afterwards.

It's so tempting to fire off an email telling her to fuck off to the far side of fuck though.

"please let her know I am hurting and an apology is what will help me further along in this process"

Unbelievable. Just...wow.

Oh, forward it to your friends's mother and/or DH. Her mother is probably the best bet, as then she can deal with her totally obnoxious other daughter.

really need you to move on this for me please

...it is imperative you let friend know

I need you to let her know Are you her PA now?

I am not used to this treatment Sounds like she needs more of it!

Me me me me my my my my I I I I - blimey.

at "first aunt".

I need you to let her know so we can iron out things before I arrive
really need you to move on this for me please
it is imperative you let friend know
if you could get friend to call him with a full apology
you will understand that this needs addressing quickly

Did you know you were her personal assistant now? Obviously you missed that email.

I just can't imagine trying to get a non-family member to mediate for me with my own sister. Bizarre.

She's trying to put all the onus on you to sort out the mess she made (and still hasn't given up the hope of garnering a lot of lovely gift list loot, clearly). Don't play.

i would also pass this on to your friend/her parents

this is family business now - sis will not hesitate to make you the bad guy if given the chance - you need to step back IMHO ( and frankly your friend's DM needs to have a stern word with her dd)

Have lurked reading this, but this latest twist?!? Doubleshot, you should be applying as a UN ambassador if you manage to keep the peace through this! I wish all the luck going... Sister is clearly batshit crazy, and totally self centred to boot. Although, a tiny shred of sympathy - she must genuinely think she was doing a really nice thing for her sister and having it all cast aside like that... If she actually can't see why the original plans were so (OMG, so so so so) inappropriate, then I can see why she is annoyed.

Doesn't excuse it at all though, she must be beyond lunatic to think it was appropriate...

I think the parents probably need to read this...

She's delusional but she needs someone to set her straight. If I were her mother I would be mortified but I would want to know so that I could be having words...

Oh my god, the sister is CRAZY (the shock of her email has propelled me from my lurking spot)
She can only see it from her point of view. Does she not understand that your friend didn't want any of the crap / hassle / and tackiness that the sister thinks makes a good event.

Best of luck double you are the only person that knows how to deal with this.

I think your work here is done. Get involved further with Crazy Sis and you risk being made the bad guy in a family dispute. Trip the email onto your friend's DH (and parents?) and get them to deal with it and BCC you into the response they send to Crazy Sis so you can come back and tell us

and AFTER "Mum was really very delighted with all that you have done"

how did she ever get so entitled when your friend is clearly so lovely (and unentitled)?

First Aunt.... The gift that keeps on giving

She needs telling though doesn't she? I mean she really, really needs someone to tell her what a completely twattish twunty twit she is being.