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To be miffed at "Gift list for mother of the baby" enclosed in *Baby naming ceremony* invitation?

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doubleshotespresso · 12/06/2013 23:38

So some close friends (who married in church), but now claim to be atheist are holding a naming ceremony for their 8 month old first baby in an hotel.....

The invitation is beautiful with a map, timings "event closes at 11pm"?

The gift list ranges from £30-to £300, all items for the mother, cosmetics, trinkets, jewellery, pampering breaks, personalised hand-bound stationery and photo albums...

Anybody know the drill for these naming ceremonies? Are we supposed to guess a gift for the baby? Or just congratulate the mother for deciding on a name?

I have read this a dozen times and am staggered beyond belief-DP read it and fell into hysterics....

My gut tells me to go along with Jo Malone scented nappies or something.

Somebody please tell me this is not normal?!?!?!

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PuggyMum · 13/06/2013 19:50

I can't wait to see what happens for the child's 1st birthday....

scottishmummy · 13/06/2013 19:48

even though the set up of the ceremony and gift request is bonkers,I'd still go
maybe she's just gone bit wabbit after having baby?
I'd not lose a good mate over this.not if overall shes a good un

Slainte · 13/06/2013 19:46

Grin Phantomnamechanger

littlediamond33 · 13/06/2013 19:45

i think its bloomin' rude.i wouldnt go and i def wouldnt get 'mummy' a present.

youarewinning · 13/06/2013 19:42

Anybody know the drill for these naming ceremonies? Are we supposed to guess a gift for the baby? Or just congratulate the mother for deciding on a name?

Sorry, not much use, but couldn't get past this for laughing. Grin

YANBU though!

Nessalina · 13/06/2013 19:42

I know there's a million comments saying the same thing already, but YANBU!!
You've bought a beautiful gift. Go - I expect they will also have a tacky gift table, so you can leave said gift which they will open later, so no confrontation. They would not dare to complain that it isn't off the list!! If they do, if they even hint, then immediate friend divorce is in order!

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doubleshotespresso · 13/06/2013 19:41

Yes this is her first child. She had quite a tough pregnancy but was overjoyed when the baby arrived. She has been understnadably a bit tired and stuff butbno alarm bells as to her state of mind.

But you are right. I am concerned. She is not a celebrity, though she is certainly fascinated by that world....

It is so bizarre.

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phantomnamechanger · 13/06/2013 19:36

Oh God Lavender, maybe it's a horrendous mistake...she sent the info to the printers and thought she was attaching a map or directions but sent them her Xmas list. Oh God! Could be!

phantomnamechanger · 13/06/2013 19:34

maybe it's all the baby's idea? Grin

I can feel a new trend for the unspeakably naff grabby invite coming on...

"my mummy's as wuffly as can be
she devotes all her time to little ole me
I want for nothing, I have plenty of shit
so please pamper mummy cos she's soo worth it"

YonilyDevotedToYou · 13/06/2013 19:31

Just came on to say OMG!!!!! the cheek of it!!!!

Lavenderhoney · 13/06/2013 19:29

Op, How on earth are you going to bring up the topic? I do hope it goes well, your chat. How many people will have got the invite and list?

Does she have time to write again and say " omg, I included my wish list to DH for Christmas?"

Handbags and photo sessions? Amazing! Is your friend a celebrity and not of the real world? It sounds like a storyline from footballers wives:)

phantomnamechanger · 13/06/2013 19:28

is this a cultural thing?? (grasping at straws) is it a custom that is expected by either set of the baby's grandparents, for example? Even so, it's barmy as hell. There must be dozens of absolutely stunned guests thinking OMG about this.
It could only be worse if they had enclosed a colour swatch dictating what colour scheme guests should wear. And seriously, what are they going to DO with a tired tetchy 8 month old all night, never mind all the other kids. Absolutely self centred and ridiculous beyond belief. How she will cringe with embarrassment in later years!

LittlePeaPod · 13/06/2013 19:22

TidyDancer I have just laughed so hard that I nearly did a little wee.....

RandomMess · 13/06/2013 19:20

I'm confused is this her first child?

HawaiianSunset12 · 13/06/2013 19:10

Those of you saying don't go are forgetting that this is supposed to be the babys day. I would go, but take a gift for the baby - book, toy or new outfit.

k2togm1 · 13/06/2013 19:10

I think it's a great idea! If we all do it we all benefit!Grin

RedToothBrush · 13/06/2013 19:07

Give her some free advice:

Don't be a cheeky bitch.

Moominsarehippos · 13/06/2013 19:07

But some first time parents can be like that. 'But I've had a BAYBEEEEE!!!' And think they can get away with bad parking, speeding, forgetting to pay bills...

TidyDancer · 13/06/2013 19:06

LittlePeaPod - they went on to describe their relationship as the greatest love story ever told. DP nearly pissed himself laughing.

They are not the type of couple you would expect that level of horror from.

1944girl · 13/06/2013 18:56

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LittlePeaPod · 13/06/2013 18:54

Also, tacky as hell, and this is coming on the heels of the wedding invitation I had recently which described the bride and groom as the leading lady and the hero.

My god... Not sure what say...

Moominsarehippos · 13/06/2013 18:46

It just seems so... Well like a child with their birthday party invites! Almost like they are doing the ceremony to get goodies!

I would prefer they said 'please donate to Save the Children if you would like'. At least then its a link with a child being 'named/welcomed to society/whatever' and the greater good.

Hellohippo · 13/06/2013 18:45

Does she seem ok? If its so out of character I think I'd be concerned for her after I got over the shock of it. It seems so bizarre.

scottishmummy · 13/06/2013 18:44

given you generally like them,have ongoing contact,I'd regard this as their aberration
I would go,but I wouldn't take a mummy present,take the gift you've purchased for baby
maybe once the froth of being new parents settles they'll calm down

TheRealFellatio · 13/06/2013 18:40

Has the list already gone out in the post with the invitations? If so then it doesn't matter what you say - it's to late to save her from herself.