To be miffed at "Gift list for mother of the baby" enclosed in *Baby naming ceremony* invitation?

Totally agree bogey and miss strawberry. Definitely runt the e mail for friends husband and mother but do not show friend as it might affect her.

Blimey the sister really is loopy...

double you're going to need a new Topic thread to deal with loony First Aunt (wtf is that even supposed to mean?!) but I am openmouthed at how insensitive, unimaginative and self-absorbed she is.

Obviously the only possible reason for a couple with a small baby not to want a batshit houseguest for three weeks is a marriage breakup

How dare she treat her sister as an intransigent client?!

The only response I'd want to send is It's not about you because that seems to be her major misconception.

She's being appallingly passive aggressive. She knows it was you who bawled out Mr Giant Ego, the planner. She blames you. She blames her sister. And to suggest all this planning is too much for you because of recent events is beyond the pale.

Totally inappropriate of her to mention your loss and to appear to be using it as a way of getting her hands back on the arrangements.

This woman is out for herself 100%. Don't forget that.

Do not tell your friend but do give the email to her husband and mother to read.

She is trying to imply that her sister and BIL must be having problems as to not want her staying with them.

I would be very very very insistent that she doesn't come if I was friend.

OMFG!!

Oh my god is she mental and unhinged. Is she paying for all of this as the babies first aunt and wantingt best for her and all that. Just ignore ignore ignore. Selfish cow!

Well I thought I would have a peep, better late than never. I tried to flip the thread and start reading it backwards but it quickly became clear I would be best o cancel my night out and read it properly, Classic.

YY to linking part 2 if there is one. Pleeeeassse.

The sister is quite unhinged.

I am gobsmacked at her saying that she can salvage her plans because of her expertise and contacts. Why does she think they were cancelled in the first place?!

I am sure that she thinks that you have taken it onto yourself to do this, not because her sister has asked you to.

So if I read this right she is saying...

"Right bitch! This is MY sister, MY DN and MY family. YOU are nothing and will therefore sit the fuck down, shut the fuck up and do as you are told. I will reorganise the event the way I want because I am FAMILY and YOU ARE NOT. I am the expert in these matters and dont give two shiny shites about what my sister wants because she is not in charge here, I AM"

I think you need to somehow tell the sister to back off. Politely if possible, purely to make the point absolutely clear. I don't think silence is going to stop her.

she needs to GROW UP and stop making the world float around her.

unbelievable.

i would not respond. let friend's dh / dmum deal with her. totally inappropriate to email you this drivel.

Words can't express my views on that woman. I am sitting here like a goldfish with my mouth opening and closing.
She is totally deluded. Why on earth would you want to go back to her ridiculous original plans when you've just spent all this time unpicking them.
The only good thing about her is that she lives a long way away!

So to summarise.

OP is a fantastic friend, amazing stepmum, loving fiancee and beloved by SC's grandparents, her fiancé, her SCs, her friend, her friend's DH have I missed anyone?

OP's friend's sister and Fronck are deranged.

Love this thread. Op you are MNer of the year in my book. You deserve every happiness and I hope your wedding and marriage are the stuff of fairy tales (though without any evil character)

There's a limit of 1000 and were at 927!

DF indeed! . . .

And yes, she is one of the most selfish people I have ever hear of.

And YY to your DP officially (in MN land anyway!) becoming your DF

Double this thread is at 920 posts already, please oh please, post a link to a new one if you think we'll run out of space.
I'm sure there are lots of us that want to hear how this turns out and will cry if we lost the next part of the story.

From my point of view, I think crazy sister's Mum should let loose. If your friend's DH gets to her, she'll think "outsiders" like friend's DH and you are influencing your friend. She might have to take a bit more notice if it's her Mum?

You should go with your gut, it's served you well so far.

You see I don't think the'P* off' message will work at all - she strikes me as so spectacularly self interested she just won't understand why you aren't as mystified as her at the discarding of her ideas... You may need to answer each paragraph plainly & clearly, and cc it to Friend's DH , asking her not to contact you again as it is, after all, "a family affair".
Blooming' heck, she takes all the biscuits, doesn't she?!!