To be miffed at "Gift list for mother of the baby" enclosed in *Baby naming ceremony* invitation?

Just when you think there can't be any more bonkers-ness from friend's sister and there is.

She really doesn't have a clue does she?

I know that the sensible grown up way to deal with this is silence and then let her parents know so they can deal with her over-inflated ego and complete lack of understanding and empathy towards her sister... (and it must be heartbreaking for the parents to realise that one of their dd's has turned out to be completely lacking in any humanity, particularly when it comes to thinking of her sister at this particular time)

...but - I think that doubleshot needs to compose a sentence by sentence response to the email and that she needs to do it on here so we can all throw in our suggestions too before it gets sent. I hope that you are going to say that DDP and the sis are the ones that need to be giving the apologies to the friend and that friend most definitely will not be sending out apologies (not least because if she does apologise then he might start to want some of his money back) - he's lucky he didn't get a court summons the disgraceful way he treated her.

And if you decide to call her to explain to her very clearly what exactly the matter is, then make sure your dsd is around to record it because I'm sure it will be excellent!

Hope your keyboard survives through today at work

I agree, OldLady.

Double - I can't BELIEVE the memememememememe tone of that email, absolutely ridiculous!
I'm going over to your new thread now to see if there's anything new - but I really think you should just pass it on to your friend's mum; she's the best one to deal with her utter arsewipe of a daughter now.

There's space for another 30-odd comments on this thread, I'm not leaving it on such a negative note. If you don't believe it, tell MN. Don't accuse OP of trollery at this point.

Me, me, I'm addicted! What a story-DDP sounds like the designer Bobby Trendy from the Anna Nicole (Smith) reali shows of bygone years!

I've been trying to find ways of getting last couple of uncomfortable weeks of pregnancy passed and this has been the best entertainment so far!

Double, you sound really blessed and deserving of all the blessings you and your family have. I am so happy reading this thread, not to mention entertained with the interspersed drama. Huge congratulations on your engagement and can't wait to read whatever happens next. Also, loving the MN replies, what a wonderful lot and I would be delighted to have such like minded people as friends in RL. Hope we can all learn a bit about being honest with people from this thread. Best of luck!

double
Unbelievable. Truly no idea how her world interlinks with normality.

I agree with you that silence is probably the best course ...but you could forward the missive to both your friends DH & Mum? .....with a note to say you hope they can advise the nutcase on how to speak with her sister, because you don't feel you should be involved in the family matters she mentions.

Or, you could just opt for a bit more bare stress

Thanks, OldLady

Read this going through amazement and then rising sniffles at how lovely you all are, and now I'm back to .

Think Lancelotte had an excellent response...

Part two.

Just forward te e mail to your friends husband and mum o orint it out for them,and let them deal with her. Ignore her!

Speechless. That is all.
And grateful that Australia is the other side of the planet, 3 weeks isn't that long & your friend doesn't have to put up with this toxic woman on a more frequent basis.

The only possible reason she's asking you to deal with this is because she wants you to know how absolutely livid she is with you for putting a spanner in the works. Someone else up-thread mentioned passive-aggressive. Asolutely. This is ALL YOUR FAULT!

I agree, it needs to be referred to someone else to deal with

& I think the inevitable reproof would be best coming from her parents (though seeing what she's said will be awful for them )

Not sure I can actually find the words for your friends sister.

Would definitely refer the email to your friend's DP/parents tho deal with though.

I don't know why I read it as SIL.

Sister does indeed make it worse.

not SIL though, Clara - she is the sister of the baby's mother, not the father!!!

which makes it all much much weirder

Dear friends SIL

With all due respect, you are completely barking mad. The only issues that have arisen have been due to your selfish and heavy handed manipulation of a situation from which you stood to profit greatly had it been allowed to continue.

The event planner you suggested appears to have no concept of working FOR the client, your SIL. The point at which you recommended him, was the point at which you removed yourself from the equation.

Your, and his, grasping and greedy lists may well have made life very unpleasant for your brother, his wife and their child.

Everything you "organised" was so out of character for Friend there were quite a few people considering not going and this was all down to your idiotic manipulation.

I am aware you have no children yourself so you may find it difficult to comprehend the importance of friendships, especially during the first amazing and difficult months with a new baby. Your selfishness and desire to profit from an event that is supposed to celebrate the baby has resulted in a great deal of upset not just for Friend, but for other friends as well who are sickened that they might have been re-assessing whether they wanted to attend the naming day. This would have very much coloured social interactions for a great many years, and not for the better.

I feel I have to add one Very Important Fact for you, once more.

This whole event was not for you. You are Auntie. Not Mum or Dad and certainly not your niece, whose celebration it is supposed to be.

I am showing this to your brother and your mother. I have nothing to hide and you have chosen to attack me for helping and protecting Friend from your and DPP extensive and unnecessary manipulations, which would maximise your own status.

Yours

doubleshotespresso

I'm STILL laughing at Lancelottie's post.

"It would be best if I could gain some balance on this all soon
Reply:
Dear Friend's Sis,
Sorry to hear that you are unbalanced. Best wishes for your speedy recovery."

Bogeyface
I love your translation. Underlying theme : look I was going to make shit loads out of this, back away with your vanilla plans!

I can't understand how she can be risking losing even more face than she's already lost. Don't people in her world scheme and politick? If so, surely a sense of when to give in is essential, or else the world blows up - or someond is kicked out of it. Perhaps she's too junior to have ever had to give way, and doesn't know how, especially not in sucg a way (gracefully, that is), as to make it seem as though she's still in control.

Soooo, she's both junior and rather stupid.

AVOID!!

Bloody hell she is one toxic woman. Totally agree with bogeys other stance of the e mail. Nasty nasty person

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