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To be miffed at "Gift list for mother of the baby" enclosed in *Baby naming ceremony* invitation?

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doubleshotespresso · 12/06/2013 23:38

So some close friends (who married in church), but now claim to be atheist are holding a naming ceremony for their 8 month old first baby in an hotel.....

The invitation is beautiful with a map, timings "event closes at 11pm"?

The gift list ranges from £30-to £300, all items for the mother, cosmetics, trinkets, jewellery, pampering breaks, personalised hand-bound stationery and photo albums...

Anybody know the drill for these naming ceremonies? Are we supposed to guess a gift for the baby? Or just congratulate the mother for deciding on a name?

I have read this a dozen times and am staggered beyond belief-DP read it and fell into hysterics....

My gut tells me to go along with Jo Malone scented nappies or something.

Somebody please tell me this is not normal?!?!?!

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UniqueAndAmazing · 19/06/2013 23:39

you are amazing.
soooooo glad you talked your friend, and that you could actually do something about it.

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doubleshotespresso · 19/06/2013 22:37

Giraffesandbutterflies - having cringed my way through all 11mins and 36 seconds of it I think you would all be proud, but I am still reeling as I do not think I have ever in my life been so sarcastic and businesslike at the same time. It made for eerie listening..... Although DP of course thinks this is the funniest thing since Christmas...... Who actually said over dinner "so how much is it worth not to post your rant on youtube?"

My reply was " remember who cooks your food!"

It appears I suddenly have just a little street cred though? DSD's very weak defence was she wanted her Dad to hear it because he thinks the planner deserves shooting.... I guess my friends knowledge of it while they both sat wide-eyed on the sofa behind me gave her assurance....

Bare stress people bare stress! So now I really am off to bed!

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MumnGran · 19/06/2013 22:33

I predict and would pay a bribe to ensure a YouTube moment Grin
And double could use it to support her application to The Apprentice 2014!!

GiraffesAndButterflies · 19/06/2013 22:23

Tell your DSD there are people on MN who would pay good money to hear that rant... Wink

Thumbwitch · 19/06/2013 22:13

oh dear but wow at DSD recording your epic rant! Hope that gives her pause for thought should she ever think about going up against you! Grin

As for friend's sister - pfft. She SHOULD be embarrassed - but because she inflicted Fronkalike on her poor new-mum sister, not because of anything since then!

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doubleshotespresso · 19/06/2013 22:09

Oh and thanks all again!

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doubleshotespresso · 19/06/2013 22:08

Dinner was fab!!! And no washing up-even more fab!

beginnings thanks so much that is very kind... Yes down south and it was boiling so we ate outside which was wonderful....

The house feels weirdly quiet tonight..... Not that it is quiet really, the usual thumping and arguing , but so glad this is nearly all over.... And that my friend is on the mend now... Yes she needs more help but the improvement is so evident already....

And over dinner a confession came from DP- DSD (&friend!) recorded my rant to the DDP on her Ipad and emailed it to DP- who then "shared" it with Friends DH!!!! I am apparently now a force to be reckoned with..... I have been promised it will benshared no further..... Oh dear. the joys of technology (& savvy teenagers!)....

Friend, baby and I are going to the doctors, followed by a trip into Kent where I have a meeting, then we will have lunch and a poodle about the shops in a lovely little village there. Hopefully it will be nice weather like today....

So me and the kindle are off to bed again...........

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monicalewinski · 19/06/2013 21:13

Have just stumbled across this thread and read the whole thing unfolding - actually had tears in my eyes at a couple of bits (and had a bit of wee at "Fronk"!) I'm SO pleased that it's all working out and hope your friend enjoys the day, it's been for the best really that that awful list came out, coz she seems to have been slowly going crazy on her own. You have been awesome double, what a brilliant friendship you guys have - you're amaze!!

beginnings · 19/06/2013 20:15

double I hope you realise how many complete strangers are on the Internet wishing you well and so glad you managed to help with this.

MCs are horrible things so wishing you lots of luck there.

Hope you've a lovely dinner - and that if you're down south the restaurant has air conditioning!

SauvignonBlanche · 19/06/2013 19:34

Hope you have a lovely dinner. Smile

PointlessPost · 19/06/2013 19:13

Thanks OP for your excellent updates.

I love updates.

Flowers Wine

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doubleshotespresso · 19/06/2013 18:49

Hello again, sorry last night was one of those testing ones. Was just getting dinner preparations underway as the phone rang from DSD school.... This ended up with dinner getting re-fridged whilst we spent 2 1/2 hours in A&E due to her bashing her head on the tarmac during a netball match.... All absolutely fine with DSD but a very late dinner followed (good though, all kids, DP, FDH and friend werebthere)....
Been working today, and have mainlined on coffee since 6 this morning.....

Yes there will be more wine this evening.... Friend and her DH are taking myself and DH for dinner which is wonderful..... Leaving soon but wanted to update a bit before I go....

So an update of sorts:

I have only met friends sister a handful of times, and always at a big gathering, so don't really know how much of this we can blame on her..... Friends parents have been in contact with her and I gather words have been had. We have all "totally embarrassed her apparently".

We received an email from the planner earlier this afternoon, stating that he acknowledges receipt of our letter and will be in telephone contact by the end of the week. Carefully worded reply has been sent.

Friends DH has not yet visited DDP. Am sure he will maybe tomorrow or Friday.

Friend, her DH and baby will return home tonight, and she honestly looks a different woman to when we met last week. And importantly is now excited about the day - thank goodness.

The next few days I am able to work from home, where I have a few appointments to drive to, but am largely close to home. So friend and baby will get dropped off and collected here by her DH when he goes and returns from work. She needs some support with getting to doctors, school run for her DSS and with the baby etc and I think just needs some company...

Anyway I now have 10 minutes to do a quick make-up job, so am off out for dinner..... So lovely to be going out and not cooking this evening....

That's all for now! Will update as soon as there's more..... Thanks again for the kind messages, you are all so supportive and it has been so helpful to me to read the humorous posts!

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MumnGran · 19/06/2013 09:51

Any more updates double
Still dying to know if DDP has coughed up the deposit?

MusicalEndorphins · 19/06/2013 09:46

Adorns doubleshotespresso with "Best Friend and Hero 2013" sash and 2 dozen long stem roses.

mosuzu · 19/06/2013 00:22

Yes to double being the godmother. I've been following this thread and you are an amazing friend.

Thumbwitch · 18/06/2013 22:58

Oh me too - double for godmother yay!

MumnGran · 18/06/2013 20:50

Me ! Me !!

zipzap · 18/06/2013 20:09

Anyone else hoping thy doubleshot's friend chooses her as a godmother rather than the sis - I know who I'd rather have looking out for my child!!!

GiraffesAndButterflies · 18/06/2013 19:10

Remember to keep notes on everything you've done. Next time you apply for a job there's bound to be a question or two along the lines of 'tell us about a time you dealt with conflict/resolved different priorities/carried out a difficult negotiation/supported someone in a tricky situation/dealt with an awkward supplier' and this gives you a magnificent example.

^^ This!

OP, more people in the world should be like you. I'm lost in admiration. Hope you're not getting too stressed out by it all and that the wine supplies are holding out.

Cheering on your and your friend's DPs as well, hope you all get the better of Elton John soon.

MumnGran · 18/06/2013 19:04

Hi double ...
any news from FDH on whether he walked away from DDPs office with money in hand?

Sonnet · 18/06/2013 18:42

What a great friend you are :)

SauceForTheGander · 18/06/2013 18:05

Did the sister have any explanation for the list for the mother?

PunkHedgehog · 18/06/2013 17:46

I believe 'Sick and gave him bare stress' translates as 'she was blooming brilliant and put a well-deserved rocket up up him'.

Double, you are - as many others have said - being utterly marvellous. Remember to keep notes on everything you've done. Next time you apply for a job there's bound to be a question or two along the lines of 'tell us about a time you dealt with conflict/resolved different priorities/carried out a difficult negotiation/supported someone in a tricky situation/dealt with an awkward supplier' and this gives you a magnificent example.

And the revised event sounds lovely - gaps at the end of the table and all.

pigletmania · 18/06/2013 16:30

The sister is unbelievable Shock. All she cares about is te fecking planner, not the health of her sister.

FryOneFatManic · 18/06/2013 16:02

Doubleshot You shouldn't blame yourself for not spotting your friend's distress any earlier. You mentioned much earlier in the thread that you've had an operation so understandably your attention was elsewhere.

You've been able to help your friend and hopefully she'll get the help she needs.

However, your update clearly shows the sister was only interested in what this event could do for her. The apology, as described, doesn't really sound much of one to me, if she thought the original plans were fitting! I don't fancy her chances with the rest of her family....