Ok am back - so sorry for not updating until now..... I went straight to bed when we returned last night and have had a busy morning to.......
So the update on the sister:
She apparently called our friend and said she wanted to say "sorry big time..... You are obviously tired and stuff" ........ 
In a nutshell, friends parents had a furious exchange with her earlier in the week where they expressed their disgust.....
Her defence/explanation follows:
She wants her niece to know "on arrival to the world" she can "dream big and enjoy the best in life if she wants to".... ?!?!?!?!
The planner does "loads of high profile stuff beautifully-I trust him implicitly".....
The "finders fee" is normal practice and does not see this is any of friends business...... "You do realise how lucky you were t get him don't you?"
She is devastated that DDP is now sacked-"am so let down, really thought you would appreciate my efforts".
She asked friend if she thought maybe PND had caused her to "lose her party spirit and vision?" ( I gasped at this one, friend is sick, battered not depressed!)
Sister asked if she thought it would be an idea for her to "take over remotely from Oz and see of she could iron all out with the DDP"
She was told NO so is now considering whether she wants to be a special adult/godmother. Friend actually told her she could not give a s* if she does or not. Friends DH told her of she does attend at all, to come, do the job with good grace or please stay away"....
She is "considering her travel plans as she feels her principles are in question here and it is uncomfortable for her..."
Sister is disappointed that our friend "doesn't seem to want the best for baby, the revised plans are painfully vanilla..."
So there you go lovely Mners- I wonder how many of you spit your tea out reading this? I am still reeling from this, but friends parents had the ultimate bombshell...
They are 99% certain all the brands with items on the gift list are represented by the sisters company, and that this "list" probably was intended to generate further revenue for her......
I have more (and much sweeter news) , which I am literally bursting to tell you too in a minute, just was bursting to tell you this much.....