a close relative is cheeky. he takes advantage of my dm. used to stay alot when we were kids and eat our food but never contributed or brought say a gift for my parents
my db was a student he went to stay with them with his gf. They lived abroad. the relative with his family left my db alone in house over Christmas while they went to stay with another relative. they left no food for them and complained to my dm that db made no contribution (students)
my gm used to extol his virtues and it was always poor ....,. syndrome.
dm frequently supported relatives ex wife and his dc having them to stay, buying lunch etc
roll on about 20 years' dm with new dp living in dps house. relative came to stay bringing new partner. dm's dp was not impressed when they kept eating his food, hardly replaced anything, made lunch for days out etc, never asking, helping themselves to alcohol.
dm hinted that as she would be out, could they sort their own evening meal hoping they would dine out or buy food, but no they helped themselves to frozen pizza.
her dp furious but dm wouldn't confront relative.
next time he came he ate all the cake without asking and took over tv.
dm said something tactful and relative stormed out. she tried to contact him and sent cards etc.
a year later he condescended to contact her saying he would overlook the petiness