The scone thing is awful, it reminds me of a woman who I used to be friendly with who had a DD the same age as DS (at the time they were about 2), and two other children aged around 4 and 6.
On the few occasions that we spent a meal time at her house I was quite shocked/surprised/disgusted.
She would sit the children down at their own table, it was a small garden style plastic table with plastic chairs, which was in the kitchen (so they didnt ruin the carpets in the dining room).
She said she didnt allow them to sit at the dining room table as "it was very expensive and they would probably ruin it".
She would then serve the children their food on plastic plates, not children's ones but more like (cheap) picnic/camping ones.
She would cut their food up into tiny little pieces, no matter what it was, even pasta or chips. And even the older ones.
Now some might see all that as harmless, or normal, the thing that bothered me was that she did not allow the children to have cutlery, even the 6 year old, they were expected to (and they did) eat their entire meal with their hands. Even when the meal was something in/with sauce.
I personally witnessed them eating pasta and sauce, spaghetti bolognese, lasagna, sausage chips and beans, beans on toast, and scrambled egg, and even a sunday roast.
Her explanation for not allowing her children the 'privilege' of using cutlery..
"they are children, they are not mature enough for the responsibility of using such dangerous items"
She even did it in restaurants. she would sit there and cut up each of their meals into little pieces and then make them eat it with their hands.
It was the bizarrest thing i had ever seen.