Daughter unrecognisable since starting University…

I love crumpets advice. Spot on.
OP you don't have to bankroll everything. She can sort out some of her own mess. Having your love and support and appropriate guidance is invaluable.
It must be particularly hard when you've been a tight little family unit for so long to take that step back.

Ahh OP, I'm not a mum to a uni student, but I remember my days at uni (just!)
I lived at home but I remember my mum looking hurt and telling me that I was treating our home like a hotel. At the time, I was annoyed at this, but now I see how my behaviour was. Always out drinking, clubbing, popped home to get clothes / shower, staying here there and everywhere (different friends houses). I look back and see my behaviour wasn't great.
I would say the drinking is normal (worrying for you though), but I definitely wouldn't fund anything like that. One thing I did do was have a part time job and did extra shifts to earn more.
Hopefully your daughter will settle down and be respectful to you when she next comes home 💐

You haven't answered any of the questions about whether or not she lives at home with you - this makes a difference to how people will respond and the advice they will give.

Did you go to uni op ?

It's very normal for them to go wild and drink a lot at university. Freshers week tends to centre around that. My son barely drank before uni and then definitely drank way too much for the first year or two. But he made a lot of friends and had a great time. The rudeness isn't ok though.

This^ First taste of freedom, living away from home etc. Completely normal x

I've reported it as I agree.

I will add though that my parents haven't got loads of money so I got a job to pay for any extras. My dad did used to give me £30 a week to help with my food shop. I was never disrespectful to them and we had a good bond whilst I was at uni. My degree was slightly different though because it was one we had placements so more intense than a degree with lots of holiday

And yes, don’t stand for them being arseholes when they come home

I think a lot of young people go through a phase of being a complete tit. For some it starts at puberty, for others when they head off to university. It lasts a shorter or longer period of time, but more or less they come through the other side unscathed, with only a few extra grey hairs for the parents…Good luck and hang in there x

Is she happy?

I was a bit like this at uni. Drank way too much, to passing out levels several times a week (in my first year).

Grumpy and rude to my lovely mum. My parents paid for everything inc spending money for me but I just drank it all.

I look back now and see how much I was struggling and although I had some good times, was generally scared, overwhelmed and desperately missed home.

It took me until 3rd year to settle down, lose my booze weight, knuckle down and I really enjoyed it. Just in time to graduate and enter the world with all new challenges!

Has she had quite a restricted or sheltered life eg at boarding school or heavily scheduled with lots of activities?

This sounds like the sort of behaviour I’d expect from a 14/15 year old just discovering booze, parties, independence and “you can’t make me”. At that age there is often a fair bit of attitude too. Maybe it’s the same phase in your daughter but delayed??

I can imagine how worried you feel as a parent, I would be the same and can't imagine that stage as my son is 2 and I'm not too many years out of university myself.
I honestly went wild, lots of drinking, unprotected sex, smoking occasionally. That's not even my character either but when you are at uni you just get swept up in the fun of it all. Actually when I look back I feel a bit disgusted at my life 😅 but I had some great fun times and we live and learn.
I got so drunk once and come home left a pizza in the oven and nearly set the whole block of flats on fire. So awful looking back, I was stupid. Sadly I did actually end up being sexually assaulted as well (won't go into details), but this can happen at any time of your life unfortunately.
Fast forward to now with a toddler and my own home and never drink. I never ever crave a night out because I definitely got it all out of my system!!
I think whatever you say or do isn't going to change much to be honest. Just keep a good bond going so she knows where to go for help should she need it.

Don’t worry OP, it’s probably just part of growing up. Young adults can do stupid things, it’s probably just the freedom and she will soon learn her limits when she has to deal with consequences. That being said you know your child best so if in a couple months she hasn’t calm down reevaluate.

Yes you’re her mum, I’ve been there, but she’s also now an adult and has to find her own way. Is she living away ?