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DS is not sure if he wants to go to uni in September

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Laburnam · 04/08/2023 23:10

He is really questioning whether it’s something he really wants to do, he isn’t feeling excited by the prospect of going. He isn’t keen to take a year out . Any suggestions are met with no and he just seems stuck, he is dreading results day as it will mean decisions will have to be made

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Laburnam · 04/08/2023 23:22

He chose social work because he doesn’t want to do a degree just for the sake . I agree a year out would be ideal but he’s against that too.

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geoger · 04/08/2023 23:22

What subject and which uni does he have offers from? If none or he’s changed his mind he can go thru clearing on results day or defer his offers

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Laburnam · 04/08/2023 23:19

He changed his mind so many times in choosing what degree in the first place and i think he perhaps has never been 💯 certain. Over summer he has been working in a garden centre. If he had some idea of what he really wanted then it would be so much easier.

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retinolalcohol · 04/08/2023 23:16

I'd actually encourage anyone who feels like this to take the year out.

17/18 is so young to decide what you want to do forever and I have so many friends with essentially pointless degrees, because they just picked under the pressure of it then decided they wanted to do something different later. I dropped out and ended up back there starting again at 23.

He won't lose much by working for a year and having a think about it. Applications are really no harder - if he contacts his school/college next year they'll still help him with references Smile

geoger · 04/08/2023 23:15

Has he got uni offers? What did he put down as his firm choice and what course has applied for?

Uurrjb · 04/08/2023 23:14

It’s okay not to jump straight in…does he have any offers to defer? Plans for next year (what’s he been doing since end of exams etc)

CuteCillian · 04/08/2023 23:14

Are you sure he is not saying this because he is worried he might not the required grades? It's a clever way to manage expectations; "I didn't want to go anyway".
Otherwise it's not surprising he feels a bit overwhelmed. I would leave him to work it out as much as I could. There are loads of options for 18 year olds and university will always be there.

Dotcheck · 04/08/2023 23:12

Does he have a job?

You know, if he’s not excited about it, he can defer.