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How often do you visit?

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rainbowstardrops · 15/08/2018 11:34

Hi all. My DS is due his A- level results tomorrow and I'm getting myself in a right tizz.

He's just announced that he probably hasn't done well enough because he was too busy on his PlayStation than revising to get into his top choice uni as he needs AAB. This uni is a five hour drive away.

I have severe travel anxiety as I was involved in a very serious car crash before I had the DCs and therefore I don't drive. DH does but I am a dreadful passenger and a complete PITA I'm sure.

He has now decided he's gone off of his 2nd choice as it's near to London and a few other reasons Confused

He's now looking at clearing and has come up with some more universities but they're even further away than his first choice!!!!
So my question is, if you have DCs at a uni a long way away, how often do you visit them/they visit you?

I fully admit that I need to put my big girl pants on and let him fly but I so wish he'd accepted the unconditional offer for the uni in our home town! Wink

I think I need to get lots of wine in for tomorrow Wine

Thanks for reading my rambling waffle

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grannycab · 15/08/2018 15:36

yes, both came home for uni holidays although my first began to sat in uni city for work over the summer.

ForeverBubblegum · 15/08/2018 15:26

Sorry I read that back and it did sound misleading. People still saw their families throughout the year, but always students going home, never parents coming to stay.

Pretty much everyone got the train home during the Christmas and easter holidays, and some would do a weekend in term time as well.

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rainbowstardrops · 15/08/2018 13:17

Did you come back to visit at all @ForeverBubblegum?

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ForeverBubblegum · 15/08/2018 13:00

Uni don't tend to do half term, but the holidays they have are longer. Especially summer which can be start of June through to end of September. But it varies a lot between different uni's.

Generally I can't remember anyone's parents visiting beyond dropping of and picking up at the start / end of term.

TurquoiseWeekend · 15/08/2018 12:48

Not my DC, but my Dsis (we're 10 years apart) is home for summer after her first year and we probably saw her once a month or so. I'd go and see her for the day maybe every other month and she'd come come for a weekend around every other month. But she's only around 40 mins away on the train. I found train so much easier and quicker than driving and parking in the city.

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rainbowstardrops · 15/08/2018 12:44

Total miss use of bold there Blush

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rainbowstardrops · 15/08/2018 12:43

That's what I imagine we will do @OddBoots

Ive looked into getting the train @LARLARLAND and I definitely think that would be the way forward for me.
It's quite pricey and a bit of a trek with changes etc but way more favourable to driving!

I think that is kind of what I'm expecting @Maria1982. Are the uni terms the same as school terms ie 6 weeks or do they just have Autumn, Spring, Summer?
My DS will be absolutely fine I'm sure because he's wanted to go to uni for ages, it's just me that's having a wobble!

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Maria1982 · 15/08/2018 12:14

My parents would drop me off at the start of term and pick me up at the end (we had to clear our rooms out of all belongings).
I recall them sometimes visiting midway through term for a weekend, but not every term (and certainly no more than once a term).
I’d say that after the first few weeks/
First term he will hopefully be busy with extra curricular activities that he will be settled and happy in university life.

LARLARLAND · 15/08/2018 12:10

Get the train?

OddBoots · 15/08/2018 12:09

o we = over

OddBoots · 15/08/2018 12:08

Ds has only done his first year but we didn't visit, we dropped him off and picked him up then paid his train fare home Christmas, Easter and a couple of other weekends o we the year.

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rainbowstardrops · 15/08/2018 12:06

Unfortunately I can't see that we'd ever be passing that area of the country, so very little opportunity to pop in on the way past.

Did your DC come back for Christmas, birthdays etc though @grannycab?

I know he's an adult and needs his independence but it's just such a daunting thought of hardly ever seeing him compared to seeing him nearly every day for the past 18 years! Grin

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grannycab · 15/08/2018 11:49

Both of mine were over 5 hours away. We only visited on our way to holidays or our way back as the town was en route. We didn't visit for the sake of visiting ever.

They are adults making their own way in life and should be encouraged to be independent.

we were always on the end of a phone if needed.

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