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Piano lessons at 5

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Oakvales · 31/01/2026 23:12

I've booked for my 5 yo to start piano lessons (30 mins) with a teacher that comes to the house, I have bought him a decent digital piano /keyboard to learn on/play with.

The teacher is used to teaching young children and children with parents , but afrer reading a few old threads on here, I'm wondering if he's a bit young ?

I'm not bothered about exams etc , I just want him to enjoy it and learn some basics , the teacher can do other instruments as well. His Dad and I are not musicial in the slightest, so I want go give him the opportunity to be, but mainly i want him to enjoy it , the teacher knows this and maybe he'll take to it straight away or maybe they will start taking it more serious in a year or so both fine.

His school do music lessons after school but the groups are huge. Me and his Dad both work in quite high pressured jobs and have a one year old , so someone coming to us works well. In this case do you think its still to young? As I say I have no expectations other than him being with someone who can give him more than we can with instruments.

OP posts:
SkaneTos · 16/02/2026 13:34

Tarkadaaaahling · 08/02/2026 20:22

It's absolute nonsense that the hands are too small before age 7/8. I've got a child with very small hands for their age who started at 4.5 years with no issues at all. The first year or two they only do simple pieces with notes close together anyway. Mine had passed grade 1 by age 7.

I just wrote that some people says that, not that I think so.

I don't know anything about the piano grades, I am not from the UK.

Congratulations to your child, and to you, for their piano accomplishments! It really is a marvelous instrument, and it brings so much happiness.

Bunnycat101 · 16/02/2026 20:41

Both of mine started at 5 in year 1. For one it was too early and the other one fine. Consistent practice is the key an at that age that is just as much a job for you as it is for them. Unless you have a very good player, I reckon they do make slightly quicker progress when they’re a bit bigger but if they enjoy it and you’re happy to pay then go for it.

mrssunshinexxx · 16/02/2026 21:07

My daughter plays at school in a private lesson she’s nearly 6, she’s done a performance at school but it was a choice and she wanted to it was great for her confidence and it was beautiful as her mum to watch . I wish I knew how to play an instrument. She’ll continue aslong as she wants to

Pandadream · 04/03/2026 00:11

It’s never too early to start, the only thing I’d say is the effectiveness of learning. I can play piano to an intermediate level and was an eager mum. I wanted to start my son who enjoys music very much and shows some talent from young to start early. However due to the price, I delayed and now he’s 6.5 years, after failing to find a reasonable priced teacher with availability, I had a go to teach him myself. I have to say he grasped the concept pretty quick and was easy to teach by following a book. In the meantime, my 4.5 years daughter also was intrigued, so I was trying to teach her but it was very difficult, her comprehension and attention span just isn’t quite there yet. Nonetheless she enjoyed things I teacher without pressure.

if money isn’t a concern, I’d give it a go. And after a couple of months and ask your son if he enjoys it. If not, then stop and probably pick it up again later. Or change to something else.

i also had my son learn ukulele for a bit, it was harder for him and i think the teacher was not ideal. Although I think he still did pretty well, he was relieved when I said to him if he wishes to stop. He can.

Good luck. Never hurt to give a try, without pressure.

Tarkadaaaahling · 20/09/2026 08:30

SkaneTos · 31/01/2026 23:27

Some people say that the hands are too small to play the piano when the child is 7 years old or younger.
But if you have a piano teacher that is used to teaching young children, I am sure it will be fine.
Good luck, and I hope your child will enjoy playing the piano!

I started with piano lessons when I was 8 years old, and continued until I was 17. Very happy now as an adult to be able to play the piano. Such a great instrument, and a lot of fun!

They can defo learn at age 5, you might get the occasional child isnt suited to it at a young age but plenty are fine

BadSkiingMum · 20/09/2026 08:50

I think at a younger age it really depends on the child. How is his attention span and ability to follow instructions? I was a Year 1 teacher and the variation in abilities is huge at that age.

thirdfiddle · 20/09/2026 12:42

Post is from January. How did he get on OP? Hope it worked out and he's having fun.

Mathsbabe · 20/09/2026 15:56

My son started the cornet at 4 and the piano at 5. He loved both and eventual made his way to the trombone. I doubt he will play again now he's 30.
DD begged to start the piano at 4.5 and added the flute at 8. She went to a Junior Conservatoire at 10 and picked up the saxophone at 10 too. At 12 school lent her their brand new Bari sax. She looked so cute playing it. Along the way she picked up the violin and double bass and the acquired an oboe and clarinet. I always insisted on daily practice. DS perfected practice without progress and DD did well. She is 29 and currently is in a flute choir and plays the piano for pleasure. All you can do is try it.

EmeraldDreams73 · 20/09/2026 17:23

I'm a piano teacher and it very much depends on your DS, his concentration (especially if after a day at school?), how secure his alphabet up to G is, and so on. Most 5 year olds would be a little young ime.

I'm sure the teacher will mix it up to keep it interesting (physical games and things can be great with younger kids especially). He may be too young for formal lessons but if he's keen, no harm in trying. I tend to find by the time they're 9, they're at about the same level whether they started at 5 or 8, but of course if they're loving it that doesn't matter!

With or without lessons, they all do best with music as "part of the furniture" when they're young, rather than too much of a formal expectation just on them. Listening to music and clapping/stamping the beat, noticing when something is loud/quiet, different tempos (fast/slow), making up silly rhymes or songs to go with repeating patterns to get an idea of rhythm. Some very young children love giving names of feelings to different styles of music, too. Eg big, crashy chords can be feeling something dramatic like angry, light and flowing ballet music can sound happy/calm.

Hope he enjoys himself!

Karmaiscool · 20/09/2026 17:53

@Oakvales no reason at all not to start.
All I'd say is that they won't necessarily progress as fast i.e by age 9 might only be at the same point as a child who started at 7 or 8.
But no issue if the child is enjoying the experience.

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