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DS(9) still can't swim after years of lessons - how to approach it and how to motivate him?

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Yesterdayyesterday · 11/12/2023 22:53

I feel so sad about this today. DS is in Y5 and I've been taking him for swimming lessons since Y1 and he is making such slow progress. He can do about 10m on his back and maybe 5 on his front but it feels so far from where he needs to be.

We've tried several different swim schools, for various reasons including scheduling and just trying to find somewhere that clicks. Recently I decided that the pool he was in (teaching pool) was too small and shallow as he puts his feet down regularly when swimming rather than doing the whole length.

So today I took him to the local council pool which is a full size one. Annoyingly I booked him on the wrong class - stage 2. I felt that was pretty humiliating for him as he was with a bunch of 5 year olds and it was too basic. The stage 3 class looked better but the kids still looked a lot younger.

I'm not sure what to do - try to get a stage 3 spot or do 1-1 lessons, or go back to the last place which at least was quiet and friendly. Also, he doesn't really enjoy swimming either so I need some way of motivating him to go.

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Hollyhead · 11/12/2023 22:59

Watching with interest as we’re in a similar position. 1:1 didn’t work 🤯

SwishSwashSwooshSwersh · 11/12/2023 22:58

1:1 lessons in a deeper pool as he will learn fast

Yesterdayyesterday · 11/12/2023 22:58

I hope so. I'm just hoping that he will be motivated to try. Not that it is his fault - he is generally not that strong with sports etc. but he is going to have to really put effort on as it clearly isn't coming to him naturally.

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Hellocatshome · 11/12/2023 22:56

1 to 1 lessons are absolutely the way to go here.

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