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How many hours of extra curricular for 9yr old is too much?

34 replies

JinxSeven · 11/12/2022 17:13

My DD is in Year 5, and has done dance for 6 years. It's like a 2nd family, and she loves it. She does 5 hours a week. She also does 2 hours of theatre group a week, 2 hours of gymnastics, and an hour tutoring. She's recently been invited to attend the competitive gymnastic classes which would mean going from 2 hours a week to 8 hours a week. So potentially, 28 hours of activities a week.

The dance group go to competitions 3 times a years and for each competition, the hours added in would clash with the gymnastics. My gut says it would be too much. She wants to do it all. We can drop the dance competitions side, and that would avoid clashing with the gymnastics, and also drop dancing down to 2.25 hours a week. But it's the group aspect of dancing she enjoys the most and dance won't let her do just that aspect, she has to do the core lessons, understandably. We are going round and round in circles - any advice/experiences, please? ( Sorry, just realised that this query reads like a maths question in an exam!) TIA

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UnderPowered · 11/12/2022 17:49

Wow, I think it sounds like too much even before the extra thing is added. Kids need downtime too.

JinxSeven · 11/12/2022 17:37

Sorry, yoshiblue, brain so frazzled, can't add up! Currently doing 10 hours of extra curricular activities, with more hours added in as they come up to festivals. Tutoring is for 11 plus in Sept, PuttingDownRoots
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MeniscusTu · 11/12/2022 17:37

28 hours doesn't sound right.. from what you have described she is doing 10hrs now going up to 16 hours if she ups gym (plus competitions) . 16hrs is a lot and would be hard to fit in ..but if it really is 28 hours that doesn't even sound possible as its on average 4 hrs a day 7 days a week!

Pinkallium · 11/12/2022 17:28

We’ve been in a similar position with dance and gymnastics. When they reach that age it seems 1-2 hours a week isn’t enough if they want to do well at it. We were upto 6 hours of gym and 2 hours of dance and all of her friends in dance were doing a lot more so she started struggling to keep up and enjoying it less. After a lot of angst she decided to drop the dance. Such a shame after many years of loving it but no regrets 3 months on.

Madcats · 11/12/2022 17:28

At that age we juggled a lot, and it is really lovely to have some good friends outside of school. It certainly helps in the teen years but you have to be realistic about why you are putting in the hours.

Teachers love to have revenue. Some less so, if they are volunteers.

You have to find that balance.

LimeBasiandlMandarin · 11/12/2022 17:26

That is a lot. Re gymnastics. 8 is comparatively low in the competitive world. Personally I don't think it's enough to make an impact, so might be worth focusing on what she's already thriving in. Gymnastics gets very serious, very quickly and there's no halfway without a lot of disappointment. (I speak from experience, my daughter cut down to 8 hours a week and those hours just don't cut it in the competitive circuit).

yoshiblue · 11/12/2022 17:24

How is that 28 hours?

PuttingDownRoots · 11/12/2022 17:23

I think she has to chose 2 of gym, dance and theatre. (What is tutoring for?)

clarepetal · 11/12/2022 17:19

I think it's too much, but that's just me. If she enjoys it, isn't too tired and your happy to do it then great!