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Too long in ballet grade?

29 replies

grainnewaterfall · 24/06/2018 03:16

I'm asking for a friend as our children don't attend the same dance school, hence name change. I think it's more than a bit off and think child has been failed by the school but thought I would ask for opinions.

Friend's child (nearly 12) has been in Grade 3 ballet for almost three years. Apparently corrections are very few or general corrections, such as 'some of you are doing this, it should be like this' (class of 11-15 depending) he has reached a point where he is bored, thinks it is pointless and his confidence has been affected.
He was once of the youngest when he joined, now he's one of the eldest. There is also some favouritism with competition children receiving the most correction, and they tend to do the exams, while he is overlooked. Apparently there are a couple of people like him in the class.
I think the school doesn't like to put children in for the exam unless they have a good idea they'll receive a distinction. The irony is that he only received distinctions in his old school but now he thinks his technique has deteriorated through lack of correction.

Friend is upset to have got it wrong and let so much time pass. She doesn't know whether to wait for an exam or cut losses and move somewhere else.

I don't know if I've forgotten anything there. Thanks in advance

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taxi4ballet · 24/06/2018 10:52

Three years in one grade - he's probably bored out of his mind.

Sorry, but that's ridiculous. Usually dance teachers go out of their way to support and encourage boys in ballet as they are such a rare commodity. They should be pushing him along, and suggesting things like boys-only workshops and associate programmes.

If there's blatant favouritism shown by the teacher and he isn't getting much in the way of either attention or corrections during class, then he needs to move schools pronto.

Absolutely don't wait for an exam - he is wasting his time there, and your friend is wasting their money.

Crazygirlmama · 24/06/2018 04:54

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MonsterKidz · 24/06/2018 04:20

That does seem a long time. I’d generally think one grade a year, maybe 18months to 2 years at the most. But we do grade exams regardless of the result, if the child is ready and has learned the syllabus.

I’d encourage Mum to speak to teachers and make a decision based on that. My son was stagnating in class recently and there was poor behavior from other children, I said nothing for too long and as soon as I spoke up things changed!

blackdoggotmytongueagain · 24/06/2018 03:51

We have separate classes for competitive dancers and recreational. There is a big difference - the competitive dancers get more classes and develop faster, taking exams more frequently. The recreational dancers do it because they enjoy it, but there isn’t quite the same imperative to improve. It sounds as though this school is trying to deal with two cohorts in the same class?