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Music Specialist School Discussion

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Kutik73 · 10/06/2018 22:58

Sorry, this is rather long…

We’d never considered specialist school route for our musical DS, especially at such a tender age (he is Y6). However, we’ve recently started seeing it could be an option in possibly near future.

The state secondary school DS is supposed to start from September has good reputation with a wide range of extracurricular activities and music is one of their strengths. However, they also hand out heavy amount of academic work daily, and basically keep their pupils pretty busy. Keeping teens busy could be a good thing, especially for those who may get in trouble or glue themselves to screen otherwise. But DS loves music and he likes to immerse himself in music more, but in reality, he’ll have less time for such freedom once he starts secondary school. The additional journey time is another thing. It takes 45 mins to get there, whereas it’s only 5-10 mins currently.

A friend suggested we could see specialist school as a small private school with strong music activities rather than a place where all DCs were aiming to be professional musicians.

Her logic is, the class size is a lot smaller than the state secondary school so pupils get more attention hence learn more efficiently, all the while there is no compromise in music studies. DCs who are keen to keep up academic work on top will manage to get good enough GCSE results for decent sixth form if they decide to pursue other than music for A level/uni. Although sixth form seems the most popular (and sensible) time to join specialist school, KS3 is actually the best time because if DCs change their mind on course, it’s easier for them to return to ‘normal education’ possibly at sixth form with good enough academic record and musical ability strong enough to be a music scholarship material. But if they stay focused on music and in fact decide to take it seriously, starting early will only become beneficial. Though, it depends on circumstance of course, and instrument. DS plays violin/piano for instance - hence early start can be rather important.

However, I heard and read some scary stories about music specialist school while I was researching. Some claimed they felt like they were living in a prison, some expressed unhappiness (even though they recognised the benefit and appreciated their fortunate position), some teachers talked about very able young musicians going to specialist school as a huge mistake, etc…

DS innocently expresses strong desire to go to music specialist school. I, as a parent, wish him happiness more than anything. By accepting his desire and letting him go where he says he likes to go, am I pushing him into a harsh and scarily competitive world unnecessarily? Or, like my friend suggested, it could be a lot more flexible than I may have been thinking and in fact could be good alternative KS3 education for musical and academic DCs?

Any thoughts/knowledge/experience would be greatly appreciated…

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littleladsdad · 15/06/2018 21:23

claraschu & Paul

DS will be attending JD in London on Saturdays but won't be having lessons there. Staff at specialist school are happy with this arrangement. DS currently attends RBC JD and wanted to continue to attend a JD. We like the idea, as he will get to make other friends outside the school.

catkind · 15/06/2018 21:14

Great, well done him Star I don't know much about music schools but sounds like mini kutik would be utterly in his element. Good luck with your big decision.

littleladsdad · 15/06/2018 21:11

Great news Kutik, you'll be 'pinching yourself' for a while to come!

gillybeanz · 15/06/2018 20:45

Kutik

Aw, well done.
He'll have the time of his life, I'm so happy for him.
If any of us you know from other thread can help with any info, please get in touch.
I can't tell you what it has and is doing for my dd. Grin

TaggieOHara · 15/06/2018 20:40

It’s amazing how places appear in full schools when outstanding candidates turn up... Grin. Good luck with your deliberations, also about the kitten!

Trumpetboysmum · 15/06/2018 20:30

I knew they would offer him a place great news well done mini ( and good luck with making your decision) Smile

raspberryrippleicecream · 15/06/2018 20:30

Congratulations Kutic. Though there was never any doubt!

Kutik73 · 15/06/2018 20:28

Thanks everyone. Yes, it'll be weekly boarding. They said they could be flexible but hinted boarding would be most preferable. Not sure how they found extra room, or perhaps someone has dropped out?? Anyway, DS is super excited, obviously. We'll have a meeting over the weekend (we have to discuss about kitten too).

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TaggieOHara · 15/06/2018 20:10

Amazing news -congratulations! Star

ealingwestmum · 15/06/2018 19:33

Enjoy your weekend Kutik Your mini is just awesome 👏

stringchild · 15/06/2018 19:09

What a superstar! Good luck with deciding 😉

se22mother · 15/06/2018 18:59

Congratulations StarStar

Japanese · 15/06/2018 18:53

Wow - fantastic news! Many congratulations mini kutik! Smile Star

disorganisedmummy · 15/06/2018 18:35

I've been lurking on this thread. Just read Kutik's amazing news!!

Huge congrats to mini Kutik. ☺️

folkmamma · 15/06/2018 18:30

Amazing! But not at all surprised... boarding??

Wafflenose · 15/06/2018 18:22

Brilliant. Of course he was going to get in though. What are you going to do?

Kutik73 · 15/06/2018 18:14

Just got an offer letter starting from this September....

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catkind · 15/06/2018 17:14

Glad he enjoyed himself. What fantastic self confidence he has.

MismatchedPJs · 15/06/2018 16:38

Glad he had such a brilliant time. Don't worry though, not missing you in one week of new experiences/adrenalin is really not the same as not missing you in the long term. Just like you can go away on holiday and not pine for home. Smile

Kutik73 · 15/06/2018 16:20

He said he even didn't miss me AT ALL.... Not sure if I am happy about it...

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Kutik73 · 15/06/2018 13:08

Thanks Taggie. Yes supportive atmosphere is so important in such environment. Mental health should come first!

DS also told me he chatted with a student who is already famous in the music scene (DS watched his performance on TV). DS told him very well done to his great work, and apparently the boy thank to DS for being so sweet. Ahhh...

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TaggieOHara · 15/06/2018 12:50

Well done mini- kutik - sounds like it went very well! Star

How lovely that the children are so supportive of each other. This is what DS's choir is like. Although they are not allowed to cheer in chapel, they are always jumping about congratulating each other on solos etc as soon as they get back to the song room! The supportive atmosphere makes all the difference in an high intensity environment...

Kutik73 · 15/06/2018 11:16

When I unpacked his suitcase, I found a few sweets inside. I asked DS where he got them from. DS said kids at the school gave him. He said everybody at school were very kind and sweet. They went to see other students' concert at lunch time and they cheered and gave massive clapping once it's finished. He said there was encouraging and supporting atmosphere everywhere, like brotherly and sisterly love. Even during independent practice time, other kids came to help him and gave him advice. In his bed last night, he said he was already missing the school....

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