Best make up for ballet (dd 3)

I haven't said anything about sexual intent.

Am I the only person who uses my own make up (obv new sponges etc) for my DSes?

No, heels aren't generally used for ballet.
Other forms of dance perhaps, but that's not for toddler groups.
I find it seriously disturbing here that some posters are deliberate trying to see sexual intent towards toddlers. It's gross.

How do children do ballet in high heels?

then what's next, not wanting to wear the costumes because they are too revealing, or the shoes too high?

So we're talking about 3 year olds in high heels, is that right?

I'm talking about a dance show with performers aged 3 to 18 from a well regarded school who regularly see their seniors become dance professionals.

Lol whoonows

It's a dance show with children in it not the Bolshoi. Whatever next, well if my 3yo child was excluded from a show for not wearing lippy a new and more sensible dance school..... I also am about the high heels/ revealing clothes comment, they perform in dance shoes and outfits covering a lot more than normal leotards ime, not sure what sort of dance school you are talking about

It's compulsory at ours, as are the costumes, but that's made clear before you sign up and no one has to do the show, which is in a full sized theatre with a hundred plus dancers. It's just part of making the dancers look matched on stage, hair, costumes, shoes and make-up are the same for all as far as possible. Partly to give a professional apearance, partly to prepare the dancers for what it would be like in a professional shower, partly in the spirit of teamwork. If you let individuals pick and choose whether to wear the make-up (other than on medical grounds) then what's next, not wanting to wear the costumes because they are too revealing, or the shoes too high?

It shouldn't be compulsory though, it should be up to the parents and children.

And quite why it's anyone's business than the parents involved I don't know, whoknows - what about you?

I use Rimmel lipstick and MUA eyeshadow plus the cheapest mascara, foundation and eyeliner in Superdrug. I help backstage with make-up, it is fiddly doing eyeliner on little ones. They don't look sexualised, they look like small children in stage make-up. It's once every two years, really not habit-forming. I've done several shows and never encountered a child whose parents have refused to let them wear it.

At my dds dance school make up is absolutely compulsory for boys and girls. It has nothing to do with sexualising children and everything to do with being on stage under heavy lighting. I think some people have a bee in their bonnet about nothing on this. My daughters would never dream of wearing make up normally (dd1 is 11) and I wouldn't buy it but shows are different. They don't walk around in tutus and leotards as a norm either...

I really think talk of 'sexualisation' is the way that you see it and OTT I think.

As I said upthread I have a dd who dances and so far has never worn makeup. I didn't want her to when she was tiny as she looked so beautiful and red lipstick/blue eyeshadow as instructed is gross and then later on (the big show is every 2 years) she didn't want to as she said the others looked daft. What will happen this time I don't know but I'll leave it up to her now (she's 9). My 6yo who started dance later is going to want to wear it, I suspect and will find a way (ie getting one of dd1's mates to trowel it on for her) if I say no.

But I'd be very surprised if any schools actually make it compulsory particularly for 3 year olds.

If some mothers choose to sexualise their toddler with blue eyeliner and mascara(?!?!) then that's their choice but it ain't happening when my DD starts shows! Hellllllllllllll no!

Ghost like or not, my 3yr old daughter is NOT going to be wearing eyeliner!!!!!!!

Lots of things may not be a massive deal in isolation but you've got to look at the bigger picture.

But equally from an objective viewpoint it's hardly a massive deal either way is it?

Thinking that sticking makeup on a 2yo is horrible hardly makes me an arsehole. I'm not involved with the dance world so this isn't the norm to me and from an objective viewpoint it's not very nice. If I was watching 2 year olds "dance" I doubt I'd be looking at their faces thinking oh dear, they look terribly washed out under the lights and could really do with some liquid eyeliner. Like seriously who thinks that

It wasn't necessary for the performance I suspect but am about what the issue is tbh. If you don't have an issue with a 2yo wearing makeup for a show then it's your child isn't it? Who cares? Why the need for justification is just a bit of lippy and mascara and is hardly going to make a difference to anyone's long term well being.

I'm making the point that occasional use for performances doesn't create a habit.

Well no I should hope she doesn't make a habit of wearing makeup 8 years later. She's 10. The fact you think that's an actual point just shows how skewed your thinking is.

It was necessary for the performance. She doesn't make a habit of wearing makeup now even 8 years later.

I suppose you've never seen a child wear face paint either?

As a regular thing no not good and particularly not for the skin. As a once every two years for a ballet show thing I don't see the harm.

How about you butt the fuck out of hiding how others raise their children and I won't find some shit to look down my nose at you about?

Aw, bet she looked gorge.

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My DD was 2.
Stick that in yer pipe and smoke it.