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Concerns about Dance School..

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Wikkitikki · 14/10/2015 10:41

My daughter has been passionate about dancing from an early age. She began having tap and modern classes at the age of 3 then moved to a different school of dance 2 years ago where she attends ballet tap and modern classes plus festival troupe on a different day.
They do a spectacular show every year and have also taken the festival troupe to Disneyland Paris. Last week, out of the blue the classes where split and my daughter was told she's not ready to take grade1 ballet next Feb. Some of the younger students are now in the same class so essentially they feel she hasn't progressed in 2 years.
My daughter was distraught, said she felt angrry with herself for not being good enough. We have invested so much time and money into her classes and hoped by doing this she would be able to fulfil her ambition to study dancing post 16-18.
She is very settled at the school and has made friends but I'm also concerned that it appears only the Principal has A.I.D.T.A, one of the other teaches is Pre Associate but at present my daughter isn't being taught by the Principal or the Pre-Associate.
It will be a huge wrench to move her but if we don't do it now we fear she will always be behind compared to other dance schools.
One of my friends at Zumba said her daughter was on pointe at age 12.
I'm actually finding this more stressful than my son's secondary school application! I'm not belittling that process but where we live it's very straightforward . I would like to hear from other parents who have been in this situation and also from parents of children who continued with dance after leaving school.

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Racundra · 14/10/2015 11:10

She hasn't done G1 yet, but wants to be a dancer/ dance teacher?
I'd say age 9 for grade one is v late. Did she start dancing really recently?
It is possible... The professional dancer I know didn't take up dance until 8, however that was a long time ago, and things have changed professionally since those times.

Wikkitikki · 14/10/2015 11:09

Her physique is slender btw, takes after her parents.

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Wikkitikki · 14/10/2015 11:06

She may decide she wants to do something else but we want to ensure she has the training to enable her to pursue dance if she chooses to. My eldest has started uni and hasn't yet decided on a career, we want our children to have every opportunity they can to choose their own path in life.

She didn't take the last exam which was prep ballet as she was on a trip with Brownies

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Wikkitikki · 14/10/2015 10:58

She's 9 years old. She wants to be a dancer or teach dance, but probably not pure ballet.

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YetAnotherUserName · 14/10/2015 10:57

How old is she? At my daughter’s dance school, girls are usually at least 12 or 13 years old before dancing on pointe, and that's been after grade 6 for my DD.

In fact, my DD has only ever done about 3 grade exams - life clashed with some exams or she wasn't good enough to take others (this has been met with either relief or distress depending on what else has been going on in her life).

But the teacher has kept her with her group and DD has kept up pretty much. She's expecting to do the grade 7 exam. My point being that progess could still be made without taking the exams.

mummytime · 14/10/2015 10:55

Sorry but deciding at a young age (as it seems she is) that she wants to go to dance school it's 16 is madness.
Maybe she isn't that good a dancer? Very few are.
Maybe she has the wrong physique?
Maybe she will decide she wants to do something else?

How many years has she been doing dance? Why doesn't she have grade 1 yet?

Is this her ambition? Or yours?

Why can't she do it just for fun?

My friend who was a professional dancer retired before she was 30. Your DD definitely needs a back up plan.

JeffsanArsehole · 14/10/2015 10:46

How old is she?

If it's before going on point, it would be better to treat is as just for fun.

You can definitely do dance (not ballet, most dancers stop ballet at some point) post 16 with other dance skills.

If you/she wanted to be a ballet dancer and she wasn't progressing in two years then it's likely a pure ballet career isn't for her.

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