Any swimming (competitive) parents around for a chat?

Thanks medtem, I am concerned about the effect on the rest of the family. We have quite easygoing family focused weekends atm, and I worry about losing that. But, she's keen and so I have to give her this opportunity I think.

As a child, my sister was very talented at a particular activity and everything we did as a family revolved around it for several years. Hopefully that makes me aware enough to keep a balance for all of us. It's early days yet anyway.

My DCs swim competitively and they are reasonably good (county level). I love how fit, organised and happy swimming makes them. I hate all the driving to training, galas. There are many ups and downs, they do well in one gala and badly in many more. To be honest, I wouldn't go down this route if I had the choice again. I feel I have to do it as they enjoy it so much, but on top of full time work it is a huge commitment not only for the DCs but for me too.

Sorry for unnecessary !

My ipad likes to put them in of its own accord.

Thanks squirrelled that's useful. I had hoped the sessions were like that. I'm hoping to take her to watch one or two before she starts if we can. There is only only squad per level, so swapping isn't an option I don't think.

Micah yes! I will email I think. Just clarifying my questions via MN beforehand in case there are things I'm not considering. Or considering too much.

You'd need to speak to your coach about whether she could miss one session a week, or whether it would be feasible to alternate with swimming one week and guides the next? Swopping to another session might be difficult if there is only one squad for each level.

Our first squad takes swimmers aged 7 to 10 and they swim 3 hrs each week. The coach is good at planning the sessions so that they do some technique, a bit of distance, starts and turns and end with a bit of fun each session. Swimmers might not peak until late teens but burn out us more to do with talented swimmers being pushed too hard and training 12 to 16 hours a week at too young an age when bodies are growing rapidly.

Basic kit shouldn't be too expensive - fins, kick board, pullbuoy, etc - and maybe a club tshirt, costume and cap? Second hand fins should be easy to pick up as the kids grow out if them. Clubs don't generally expect new parents to lay out too much cash early on.

11 makes far more sense-I was reading it as you were the o/p

Can you email and ask before you commit?

Oops, namechange fail there.

She's 11 Micah, sorry.

Ironically, she's giving up a physical activity and keeping guides. However she's as fit as a bean and does lots of other physical stuff, so stamina and fitness shouldn't be a worry.

I believe the club expect a 75% minimum attendance rate. which I think she'll meet (just), but I was more thinking about the technical aspect. If, for instance they might always practice turns on that particular night? Then she'd miss out. Not sure how the training sessions work.

There is an introductory meeting in 3 weeks time so I can ask about swapping sessions. It will be useful to have my questions ready before I go. However, that's the same night that she'll start training so we'll allready be committed at that point.

What's the other activity? Can she move it to another night? Have you asked the club if she can swap one night for another? Most have multiple squads and she may be able to slot in another.

Otherwise no, I don't think missing one will hold her up. Most 7 year olds aren't doing more than once a week at this age. I do know some "big" clubs which like little ones to train more- but mainly form a fitness aspect, it's a big jump from once a week to 3 times, and if they're not fit it puts them off very quickly and they quit.

If her other activity is also physical (dance, gymnastics, martial art, football etc) I'd say that should cross train well enough to stop her falling behind. DD only did one session a week when she swam, the others did 2x. She actually streaked ahead as she did two other sports and was just much, much fitter generally.

Ask them. Personally though I think I'd have reservations about a club asking a 7 year old to do 3 hours a week. Swimming you don't peak until late teens at the earliest so why risk burning them out by starting so early?

Hi all, dd has now been offered a place with the club and so I thought I would post again, as I am already feeling in a slight twilight zone.

She is expected to train 3x a week (3 hours in all) plus attend various galas and competitive events if selected (approx 6 times a year I think).

She is very excited and committed to doing it (so far), but the training sessions clash with other activities. One she is sad, but ok, about giving up, the other she doesn't want to give up. I'm going to continue to let her do it, but will she fall behind if she regularly misses 1 session a week? This activity is only term-time, so she wouldn't miss them all.

Also, I have list of kit to buy. I'm slightly wary of spending a ton of money if she just finds it all too much and gives up. Do I need it all now? Is second hand a possibility?

Debbie. how is your dd getting on with the club and managing other activities?

YY to Speedo Endurance - the standard ones with Lycra just aren't up to the job. DS trains in little Speedos, and just uses jammers for competition.

The latest generation of LZR Elites are more durable now too (just as well at that price!). They do occasionally split along the seams but Speedo are good about replacing them.

We found that there is a big social aspect to being in the team, especially when they do team travel to away meets.

DS also helps with the local learn to swim programme, and lots of the swimmers go on to do the teaching courses which means they can make quite decent money teaching swimming.

DS is 9 and a year into competitive swimming. He swims for about 6 hours a week and does land based training too. He's just got to the point when it has occurred to us that he's quite good.
However, he enjoys it which is more important to us. He has made great friends and the squad is wonderful. They do fun things as well as training together- they did a secret Santa this week. He still does Cubs and plays football at school, he found it too tiring to do another out of school sport as well.
He has one expensive set of jammers ready for the County Championships, the others are standard Speedo endurance ones. The cheaper versions just fell apart after a month in the water.

After several chlorine-soaked years we are now on our way out of competitive swimming (and it's a huge relief )

Ds1 started club swimming at 7, did fantastically well in fits and starts but was plagued by illness and injuries at the wrong times. He made a choice to stop competing seriously during the summer term of his GCSEs but carried on swimming for the club and turning out for relays/club galas during Y12 but by the end of the last school year was no longer enjoying it - his friends had all either left or been picked for national talent squads so he was all on his own. He's now training once or twice a week for a non-competitive club and enjoying that, plus volunteering in the baby pool with the learn-to-swimmers

Dd looked like she would be very promising when she was 6 but she'd seen what her brother had had to do and although she likes swimming, doesn't like it that much! So she's mived clubs to a less competitive one and instead of training 10 hours a week is doing 3 x one hour sessions and still has time for all the other things she enjoys

At your dd's age I wouldn't even be thinking of her as a competitive swimmer - she may still be enjoying it but she may well have moved onto something else. All the children at ds's club whose parents were convinced they were going to be Olympic stars had all quit by the time they were 13...

Personally I think that swimming demands far too much commitment at much too young an age. Having been through it once I'd think very carefully before setting off down that route again...

Lots of good advice up there, but it's such early days your DD will have plenty of time for other sports, brownies, play dates etc for a good while.

My DS started competitive swimming when he was 8 and is still competing and improving at age 16. He got his first pair of fancy jammers just a few weeks ago - he really wasn't all that bothered about having them, and he has always thought that you'll gain more advantage by having a great start / turn / finish. He is regularly swimming at nationals, and has recently joined a sprint squad so no longer has to train such long hours covering 1000s of metres each week (down from 16 hours a week to around 6) making school work / social life / swim training a lot more balanced.

My advice is to get involved with the club, clubs are run by volunteers and you'll get a lot out of helping - squad rep, kit, fundraising, helping at galas, timekeeping or judging, helping poolside etc. Get into lift shares if you can too. Keep an eye on clearance sales on the main online swimming kit providers.

Your coach will guide you as to which meets / events to enter (you need to be 8 to compete at accredited meets), for the younger ones it should be about having fun and swimming as a team - plenty of time to get serious later on.

Remember that there are many ups and downs along the way - long periods when their progress plateaus and there doesn't seem to be any PBs - and keep positive and focus on what they do well and encourage them. Don't live your life through them - competitive mums / dads are truly cringeworthy!

I'm a swim coach for our local club, dd swims and dances and it's always a balancing act!

My DS was a swimmer but gave it up when he was 12. He started swimming for a club when he was 7 & when eligible for county championships at 9 came in the top 4 so was invited to the county squad. At 10 he was swimming every week night & Sunday morning as he progressed into the next squad on gaining regional times. From 10 and a half to 12 he was swimming for 13 hours a week including 2 hours before school twice a week & there was land training on top of that. Attendance was expected to be 90% & he had no time to do anything else. He loved it, we supported him & then he wanted to stop & we supported that. We knew the expectations of the county set up before accepting the place so knew what we and ds were getting in to & I think this is key. He loved training but wasn't really that bothered about competing by the end. ( Whole weekends for a handful of races almost weekly on the run up to regionals & nationals). He could have turned down the place in county & stayed at club but he wanted the opportunity & he was in the top 10 nationally for a couple of years & still was when he decided to finish. At that level it did take over our family life but we were happy to support him but were quite relieved when he decided to stop! Different counties have different approaches. Just make sure that as your dd gets older you know what you are getting into. We or my ds have no regrets & he loved it whilst he did it but I think they expected too much too young & if he could have had more of a balance he might have carried on but it was, at that level all or nothing.

Ds is a swimmer, but never took it too seriously never training more than 5hrs a week, often less, and he has still done well (swimming for county, occasional national time, fastest at university...). Especially if your child is a sprinter, they may well be able to get away without the very long training regimes. Some clubs will offer discounted fees, or even free fees if you help out in some capacity and many have hardship funds too, so costs don't have to be extortionate. Even the expensive kit isn't really essential, ds raced in endurance training trunks up to the age of 19 (when he bought his first expensive pair) the difference to performance is more psychological than anything else IMO.

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I was just responding to your bit about you want to keep other things going for as long as possible. It's odd to watch the things they focus in on. Dd was completely preoccupied with gym at 7, didn't start swimming for a few years after. She wanted to dance since she was 4 and now wants to do singing and maths club [weirdo]

And hopefully, as she is only 7, you are ready for her to decide down the road that actually she wants to be a diver, or a bi-athlete , or a musician.

Swimming beyond pre teen requiring 12 hours a week is a big chunk of a child's life if they don't love it.
The things that clash include parties and sleepovers. It's got to be what they want because when it's the parents choice it is positively grim to see.

God FannyFankapan, me too.

I have a kindle, I do all my emailing etcetc and I'm on level 1,00000000 on candy crush

Dd also started swimming at 9 because she kept ending up in hospital with respiratory problems/suspected asthma. She just loves it. The fees seem high but she can attend any number of up to 6 2hour sessions so it's really flexible.

I remember the 'Twighlight zone' feeling when, just as I was watching one parent bellowing at her also 9 year old off a viewing balcony, another mother came up and said 'oh congratulations - paggirl just get her county time with that 6 second PB'

At that point I didn't know how to find out what her times were or what they met. It's very weird. But it is only a noisy few. Most parents are also just getting on with it, bleary eyed through the morning sessions.

oh I agree about swim parents!! Walking around with a spreadsheet of their kids times on a clipboard - or even having memorised them! And always "is jonny doing the X meet? Kevin is doing 10 events you know, he qualified for the 400 but doesnt think he'll bother yada yada yada.. " (yawn)

Walking around with their child's medals on... knowing every child in the upper squads ("ooh didnt jocasta do well in the 50 fly, PB AND regional time...." )- knowing your childs times if they are close to their childs times...good grief, I dont even know my childs time except in the most ballpark way! And the ones that badger the coaches about their child after every session so no-one else gets a minute.

Im sure that too much exposure to chlorine can make their brains seize up.

Make sure you have a kindle or similar for the long and boring sits by the pool - unless of course you live 5 mins away!

And yes to keeping up other activities. Our swimming club tries to insist on exclusivity, but DS loves rugby and so he still plays.

My DS swims because he is asthmatic....it was recommended when he was diagnosed at 4, and fortunately, he has always been a water baby. I dont care if he never gets a regional time, or if he gives up tomorrow. He has loved swimming and it has kept him out of hospital many times over. But when he stops enjoying it, its time to quit.

My dd (11) is in an entry level squad that operates like advanced swimming lessons. She attends for an hour a week which costs £8 a session, payable termly.

It's not very competitive, more working on their technique and stamina before they go up into the club proper which she'll do in Feb. Technically, she's really very good, but lacks confidence and competitiveness. We're taking it very slowly as she really enjoys it and I feel like there's loads of time.

Don't worry about it until your child is nearer 11 or 12.

Until then they should be learning good technique, and gaining general fitness (through other sports too). At this age swimming up and down for hours a week is counter productive.

How often and what sort of session is your dd doing?