School being really horrible about dds dancing

Did you really tell them she wouldn't be doing homework because of dancing and Guides?

They can't make her attend the rehearsal if it's an after school activity. I wouldn't have thought so anyway. If she can't miss her dance class it looks as if she will have to just withdraw from the school show. How can a school run a show if this person and that person can't attend because of this that or the other. If they can't go to rehearsals then they shouldn't be in the show. That's only common sense.

OMG this is ridiculous.

My dd 9 left school last July to prioritise her music and dancing as school was getting in the way She was allowed time off to do concerts, shows, exams etc, during school hours and had no problem at all.

No teacher is allowed to suggest you prioritise extra curricular stuff over commitments you already have outside school. This is your time to do what you want and has nothing to do with the school.

If your dd is chorus, I'd ask them for a sheet of the lyrics so your dd can practice at home. Put it in a way like you wouldn't want to let the side down, you know how important it is etc. Then see if the lyrics are forthcoming or if teacher does a quick back track.

'Yr6, ignore them it will all be over in July. In our old school the play was a sop to the kids, for turning them into a SATS sausage factory.' Lol that's so true!

Do the dancing! My dd also does a lot of dancing and it's pretty expensive. I'd not want her to miss lessons that I'd paid for.

The school can whistle if they think they can start controlling what you/dd do out of school hours

It's a long time since I was doing primary school things, but I do remember pretty much all that yr6 did, after the SATs is rehearse for their end of school show!

It's ridiculous to expect primary kids, to stay in school, after the end of the day, unless they chose to do so. Can they even insist they do? I'm not sure they can. I also don't think primary school can insist homework is done, other than reading and spellings.

I think I would simply reply that DD has other commitments after school, and as far as you are aware, the only compulsory part of education at primary level is to be there between 9 - 3.

Do you have any other children at that school OP? If not, I wouldn't give a flying fig what they thought! You'll be out of there before you know it!

She can't be the only one, surely!
How ridiculous, 30,60,90? Kids staying for 2 hours 2 evenings a week to rehearse an end of term play!!! They'll spend most of that watching the main parts rehearse surely?
Just do the dance classes, turn up only when it suits. I wouldn't be giving tea in the car to squeeze it in either!

Very doubtful that she is required at every rehearsal nor than they will only rehearse as an ensemble after school. Write a polite note to the drama teacher that your dd will attend as and when she is able but leave at 4.30 on Tuesdays. Sometimes they tend to get stuck up their own backsides above themselves. I doubt she is the only one with other commitments and it isn't as if she has a lead part. fwiw we've had similar with clashes of music/drama/dance/sport within the same school.

I would tell the school she won't be at any more rehearsals and let her enjoy the dance class, honestly.

Yay Ledkr, good for you, the school sound totally up themselves.

yes do what you like...poor dd putting that much pressure on children is just ridiculous

God it sounds awful!

after school SATS practice...did the make them stay at school to do SATS practice?

The school sound unreasonable. It would be. Different if your DD had signed up for the show.

What Maureen said.

that's a really strange attitude for the school to have about rehearsals (unless as Maureen suggests it's a drama school).

I would email them and state that dd will not be able to attend rehearsals on xxx dates due to prior commitments.

Whether it's due to dancing or not is irrelevant really - none of their business.
There must be other children doing sports etc that can't attend.

morgause for some children dancing, and other outside school commitments, will be their work eventually. I'm very glad that for my children there is more to life than school.

Is it a drama school? If not, why in god's name do yr6 need to rehearse after school for their end of term show? What are they doing in school time, once the SATs are over?

It's going to be a long and very dull last term for those poor kids!

In that case I'd be telling school that she was doing the dancing, not the staying extra at school. They can then decide what to do about her part but it sounds like she wouldn't have too many problems learning it anyway! School should really be more undertanding and I suspect they would if it was a boy going to a football academy for instance. We're very lucky with our school.