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Will you ban your children from certain sports

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CURIOUSMIND · 20/07/2012 22:19

when they are playing instruments seriously?
I can see the reason is obvious.But when they are still young, deserve to do something else as well, will you ban them?
What do you do to avoid the risk?How about school PE?

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CURIOUSMIND · 21/07/2012 20:56

Hi,Fallencaryatid,
Please be gentle to me. Smile I am only asking for opinion.It doesn't mean decicion made or action taken. I am far away from the state you described.

Bedhog,My Ds1 is not on the level you mentioned, but will be, hopefully.What you suggested ,encourage them to do something like dance...sounds like a clever idea to me.

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FallenCaryatid · 21/07/2012 20:21

No I wouldn't.
To restrict a child like that would make me wonder about the level of control exerted over the child by an oppressive parent. It sounds borderline emotionally abusive to me.

BedHog · 21/07/2012 20:17

I guess it depends on what you mean by 'serious'. Child in Youth Symphony Orchestra on course for a scholarship to the RCM and approaching virtuoso level in their chosen instrument - I'd probably be quite cautious about contact sports, but encourage them to do something like dance, yoga, zumba etc for fun and exercise. Child practicing for grade 4 and in the school orchestra - sports would be no problem, they can catch up later should an accident happen.

Emandlu · 21/07/2012 20:12

I hadn't thought about it tbh. My dd roller skates, goes climbing and is heavily involved in scouting.
Yes, a broken arm would seriously hamper her practice (piano and French Horn) but even though she is determined to do something with her music when she is an adult I don't think 6 weeks off at this stage is going to seriously damage her chances of that. Yes it may mean she had to resit an exam in the next session, or that we might have to re-arrange lessons and what have you but all in all I think it is important for kids to have something that resembles a normal childhood as well as them concentrating on their chosen field.

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CURIOUSMIND · 21/07/2012 20:07

Sorry to confuse you Bonnie.I assume everybody on this site knows me very well!
Please do understand I mean when your child is playing instruments seriouly.
I know Roisin's Dcs are playing instruments seriouly.
When you are in this position, you don't want to risk(based on your child is playing instruments seriouly), even the chance you get hurt is small, at least avoid some of the sports involving more body touch than others. Overact ?

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BonnieBumble · 21/07/2012 19:42

Definitely not.

I'm really confused by this thread actually. The example of the boy in the park is quite scary but you can't ban children from doing things because of the very small chance they might get hurt.

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CURIOUSMIND · 21/07/2012 19:36

The first day of summer holiday,I witnessed the boys playing football in the park, one kicked another one on arm or wrist, ended up a 9 years old been taken to hospital by ambulance.My Ds1 was only a yard away!
That was a serious alarm to me!!!

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roisin · 21/07/2012 12:08

Hmm.. Maybe.
ds2 went roller skating last Saturday and injured his right wrist. He has a very high pain threshold, never complains about anything, and certainly never asks for pain killers. So we knew it was serious when he did. After a couple of days we went up to A&E to get it checked out, and fortunately it's not broken. But it did stop him practising piano and organ for a full week. In the grand scheme of things it's not important this month, but if he had broken it and was in plaster for 6 weeks or if he had an imminent exam or performance, it would have been very frustrating.

I'm not keen for him to go roller skating again; fortunately neither is he!

Rindercella · 21/07/2012 11:35

No, definitely not.

cazboldy · 21/07/2012 11:34

no, definitely not. If it's something they want to do, then they will just resent playing the instrument/give up/not give it their best anyway!

DontEatTheVolesKids · 21/07/2012 11:28

I think something like that I would want the child to have a heavy vote.

Don't think the school would think it was a good reason to avoid PE (maybe you can get away with it in private). Would have thought the benefits of PE are worth minor risks.