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Ballet for 4 (almost 5) yr old ds - he loved it, I felt very self concious

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verybusyspider · 06/04/2011 10:48

He went for a trial lesson yesterday and because of his age was in the 3-4 group (they do it strictly on age not preschool and receiption class) he'll be 5 in May. He was the only boy but loved it (I don't think he noticed) and said he'd like to go again although has asked to try gymnastics tomorrow night - and on Friday we went and watched karate (which apparently isn't as good as ballet) - I've said he can choose 1 to do after easter.

so I sat in a sea of pink and sparkly things with my 2 littler boys whilst he took the class feeling very self concious and looking like I was in denile at having had 3 boys - ds1 wanted to try ballet because ds2 (3yrs) does it at nursery (just one of the offered activities and I thought why not as my brother did ballet when he was small and he wanted to join in with his friends).. I'm not sure I could sit there week after week thinking everyone thinks I'm mad... is that awful? I'm wondering if gymnastics would be better - obviously he is at an age where I can sway him to choose the 'right' thing....

anyone else have a ds that does dance? how do you deal with the social thing that its unusual that boys do ballet? and not look like you've forced them to do it?

I've reread that and it sounds awful - all about me and not him at all - but I hope you get where I'm coming from, I'm looking for honest opinions from other people who take their lo's to ballet... what would you think?

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verybusyspider · 06/04/2011 11:03

I have watched Billy elliot and have no objection about him dancing otherwise ds2 woiuldn't have started and I wouldn't have taken ds1 to a trial, I guess I wasn't prepared for how 'girly' it would be...

elpha you're right maybe find a less pink class (all the girls took dolls in with them - I'm not sure why) or one with at least some boys in - boys ballet and girls ballet is a very different discipline it would be good to find someone used to teaching boys....

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colditz · 06/04/2011 10:57

Watch Billy Elliot

EldonAve · 06/04/2011 10:55

My DD has boys in her class
I missed the boat with DS1 but DS2 will be going!

IShallWearMidnight · 06/04/2011 10:53

we have had a few boys at ballet, and nobody thinks anything of it, other than "isn't it nice to see boys doing ballet". A friends DS did (and still does at 18) various different dance classes and found it a great source of girlfriends Wink.

elphabadefiesgravity · 06/04/2011 10:52

Boys are so in demand at ballet and it builds up strength etc and is also a very good basis for other dance styles he might want to go into as he is older.

Perhaps the key is to find a slightly less pink and sparklyclass.

At dd's dance school the girls of that age wear lilac leotards and skirts (used to be white but the RAD changed their uniform) and the boys wear white t shirt and navy leggings.

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