Dealing with comments

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Whatwouldscullydo · 07/08/2025 09:45

No one ever says- have u tried not sitting at home watching Netflix and drinking a bottle of wine. No one minds you turning down cake or fried chicken when you are already on the heavy side

But start hitting the gym or going for a run and all of a sudden everyone has an opinion and has never been nore pushy trying to get you to eat stuff.

What is it about spandex that gives a Green light to tell someone they don't look how a woman should look or that you are too skinny/muscley or whatever. Like you didn't look twice at me before. Whys it matter now.

And im.not trying to lose weight why is that the only thing people assume working out is for. Amd its not for anyone but me.

Do men get called crazy because they exercise? No. Men and a protein shake and a barbell is seen as perfectly normal. Thought we had moved on from women only doing pilates and yoga.

And gow can you take the piss out of me bringing food to work. Least im not spending a fortune getting takeaways delivered or meal deals.

Sorry dont know what the point of the thread is. Just tired today of all the comments and questions. Like I dont wanna go back to being home alone with my brain rotting in front of the tv. Maybe I want to get out the house for a bit and see people. How's that weird. Again no one cared when I did nothing and I think that's more tragic/crazy tbh

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Teamladybirdladybird · 07/08/2025 10:05

Midlife muscle build and glow up by any chance? In it now and in my experience people fall into 3 camps:

criticise, make digs and say “if only I had the time” and when the results start to show “it’s alright for you because….” This group are jealous and wish they were doing it themselves
those who cheer you on in a positive way even though they are not doing it - some of those have started to come along with me and it’s brilliant
those who are already doing it and cheerlead you through it and celebrate your successes

i spend barely any time with those people in group 1 and have made a lot more friends with those in groups 2 and 3. It’s been a painful process at times but worth it. Keep going.

Wreckinball · 07/08/2025 10:03

Just remember why you’re doing it, confuse them by smiling and saying thanks.

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Whatwouldscullydo · 07/08/2025 09:59

Friends, co workers and customers mainly tbh.

My gym friends are much more supportive. Its usually water off a ducks back. But ive always been a bit insecure about how I look so occasionally if i get comments it can send me down a rabbit hole and im not quite as bullet proof in that moment as I should be.

I was actually quite fat before. Im tall ish so I carried it ok ish. But im not that much lighter now. Im certainly not trying to lose weight as im already at the point I know from previous experience that if I drop any lower I will be ill.

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HappyToSmile · 07/08/2025 09:50

Who are saying these things?
Things you can try:
Iform them that if you were trying to lose weight, exercising wouldn't be the easiest way to do it?
Smile and nod
Smile and say "thanks for your input"
Ignore

But I'd be looking at who you surround yourself with. I have a bit more muscle than your average netflix watcher, and the only person who has commented negagively was a woman 20 years older and less fit than me who tried to give me advice. I just smiled.

Roothewheel · 07/08/2025 09:47

Do men get called crazy because they exercise?

and women don’t generally either

but some unfortunate women and men have weird people in their life that do call them “crazy” for exercising. Sadly it would seem you’re one of those poor souls!

Roothewheel · 07/08/2025 09:46

Huh?

don’t recognise this in the slightest

surround yourself with better people op

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