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Man in our showers

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SWGina · 10/11/2024 08:47

A man has started using the women’s showers in my gym. He openly explained that he is doing so because the owners, Westminster council, have turned down the water temperature in the men’s changing room showers but not the women’s, and he finds the water in the men’s too cold. He’s not pervy but I’m still very uncomfortable having him naked and bathing in our space and worry that it’s just a thin end of a wedge that will lead to the presence of men that are predatory.
I’d like to be able to complain without getting myself into hot water (!). Any ideas?

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Northernluce · 16/11/2024 20:12

Definitely complain about that. Even if he isn’t pervy it sets a precedent. As someone who is uncomfortable being nude when it’s just us girls in the changing room I couldn’t imagine sharing that space with a man.

BellissimoGecko · 10/11/2024 10:57

TheUsualChaos · 10/11/2024 08:49

Complain! The fact that you are being hesitant about it just shows how conditioned women are to not make a fuss.

This!

twentysevendresses · 10/11/2024 10:50

I don't believe for a single second that this is true! Even the most PEOPLE PLEASING of people pleasers (and god do I despair of these people!) would hesitate to head straight to reception the moment a naked man appeared in the female showers with this excuse! 🤦‍♀️😂🤦‍♀️

lollypopsforme · 10/11/2024 09:58

Dont drop the soap.

LoafofSellotape · 10/11/2024 09:45

Of course he's pervy. No decent man would think it's ok to do this.

xyz111 · 10/11/2024 09:43

Just complain to the gym manager for goodness sake.

Onlyvisiting · 10/11/2024 09:39

Is this open plan changing room and showers or private cubicles?

anareen · 10/11/2024 09:30

Omg! Complain immediately!. This sounds like a bogus excuse to be in the women's area. No other men are doing that and I'm sure they wouldn't have even thought of it.

NotMyDayJob · 10/11/2024 09:28

With the greatest respect OP how much of a people pleasing door mat do you have to be to not think that just complaining about this is a perfectly normal thing to do and not at all something that will land you in hot water?

There's no other controversial dynamic here it's a man freely admitting he's using the women's showers because it's his preference

allaboutsign · 10/11/2024 09:24

Avatartar · 10/11/2024 09:21

Ok so

  1. complain
  2. ask for refund of some membership as you can use all facilities due to man in shower
  3. if you want to cause the gym a real headache, start a petition for all women to get a reduction on your membership as facilities cannot be enjoyed

nah

Just start a mumsnet thread and then wander off

Diomi · 10/11/2024 09:23

He is totally taking the piss. Of course he is a creep. Jimmy Saville would have probably felt comfortable doing this but most men wouldn’t dream of doing it as they would be far too embarrassed and they would know it wasn’t appropriate.

Avatartar · 10/11/2024 09:21

Ok so

  1. complain
  2. ask for refund of some membership as you can use all facilities due to man in shower
  3. if you want to cause the gym a real headache, start a petition for all women to get a reduction on your membership as facilities cannot be enjoyed
TerryKirby · 10/11/2024 09:21

Now I have an image of a a council worker in a basement office with "hot" and "cold" taps to all the premises in the borough, adjusting them to save a few pence

BIWI · 10/11/2024 09:17

Unbelievable.

NewGreenDuck · 10/11/2024 09:16

Complain! He's a pervert. He's enjoying your distress.

OddBoots · 10/11/2024 09:10

If he is telling the truth then he is wanting you to complain so they fix the issue.

Needanewname42 · 10/11/2024 09:03

Complain.
No way will they have turned the temperature down in one set of showers, I'd lay a bet they are served from the same tank.

Hotter - aye the women make them hotter!

Fireworknight · 10/11/2024 09:01

Complain!!!

allaboutsign · 10/11/2024 08:58

mostlylovinglife · 10/11/2024 08:57

How does he know the water in the women's is hotter??? Weird

weird to the point of being… unbelievable i’d say!

mostlylovinglife · 10/11/2024 08:57

How does he know the water in the women's is hotter??? Weird

secretbumworms · 10/11/2024 08:56

Sounds pervy to me. The options aren't if men's shower isn't working use women's. He also could have just not showered. Definitely complain

ARichtGoodDram · 10/11/2024 08:54

He is being pervy. Any normal man would have complained to the gym about the water temperature. Not just taken it upon himself to go naked into the women's showers.

It also sounds like a bullshit excuse - why would they have turned down the temp in only one set of showers?

Galliano · 10/11/2024 08:52

SWGina · 10/11/2024 08:47

A man has started using the women’s showers in my gym. He openly explained that he is doing so because the owners, Westminster council, have turned down the water temperature in the men’s changing room showers but not the women’s, and he finds the water in the men’s too cold. He’s not pervy but I’m still very uncomfortable having him naked and bathing in our space and worry that it’s just a thin end of a wedge that will lead to the presence of men that are predatory.
I’d like to be able to complain without getting myself into hot water (!). Any ideas?

He is “pervy”. Gender wars aside no man would think it was acceptable to be naked in female showers.

allaboutsign · 10/11/2024 08:50

in what state of undress was he and you when you had this conversation?!

Theunamedcat · 10/11/2024 08:50

Complain but all they will do is turn your water temperature down too