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Concerned about my DD and her 10k run

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Grassisntalwaysgreener54 · 20/06/2024 19:17

So she's doing this run, 10k and I'm really concerned she's not prepared enough, she can easily run 5k and has recently done 8.5 k but not 10 yet so it'll be her first run 10 k this weekend.
I'm so scared she'll put her body under a lot of stress, stress she's only young but I'm really worried.
There's always someone collapsing or worse at a marathon, even though I know this isn't that far.

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TheBestFriend · 21/06/2024 16:07

Grassisntalwaysgreener54 · 20/06/2024 19:29

She's 26, it's just me and her I have no other family.

I initially thought she was under 12 years old the way your post started. 26 is a person's physical prime, you should be more concerned if she was 36 or 46.

10k is an easy hour-long run. What's the worst that can happen? She'll get tired at 5k and walk the rest.

You should only really be concerned if (a) instead of doing this, would be a couch potato and not do any exercise, that is far far more dangerous than a light jog or (b) she has a diagnosed health condition and this is against the doctor's advice.

It's really concerning you're concerned about this in all honesty. What she is doing is normal and healthy and should be the norm in society. We are one of the most obese and unhealthy countries in the world because that kind of normal level of physical activity is not considered normal anymore.

I'm in my 30s and when I was at school, probably 1/3 of the school did a triathlon once a year and everyone had to run 5k a couple of times a year. I do feel like this would be considered insanity for teens these days, nevermind adults.

CeasarS · 21/06/2024 15:46

Any moderately fit 26yo should be able to get round 10k. Obviously she'll need to pace herself, but if she gets that wrong and goes too fast for the first 5k, she'll slow down or walk a bit.

MariaVT65 · 21/06/2024 15:22

It will be a piece of piss. I am very unfit, barely do any jogging but have done 3 10ks in my time and it was fine.

Peonies12 · 21/06/2024 15:19

Grassisntalwaysgreener54 · 20/06/2024 19:27

Thanks all, I'm just really anxious thanks for reassuring me. I just don't think she's prepared enough and I'm scared she'll have heart failure or something I know it's irrational.....
Yes I'll be there cheering her on!

If you are genuinely concerned about this, please get some anxiety support, this is very irrational. The majority of people could run a 10k if they had to

Alainlechat · 21/06/2024 15:18

We have a 10k sponsored by work coming up soon, the young girls are barely training for it.

Me being an old dear in comparison, I am training for it. Up to 9k now and know I can at least walk the last part if needed.

She's going to be fine at her age.

GeorgeElliotsPen · 20/06/2024 22:27

I'm overweight, much older and not much of a runner but I ran/ walked 13k the other week! She'll be ok! Good achievement.

BogRollBOGOF · 20/06/2024 22:16

My first race/ event was 8.5mi and I only got as far as 10k/ 6.2 mi in training. I had intended to run/ walk as I'd only completed C25k 3m earlier and less than 12m earlier, I'd been hobbling around with SPD and recovering from a rough birth.
I got carried away, ran the whole thing and found myself talked into a HM for 4 months later and became a totally converted running bore Grin

She's young and decently prepared.

Being pragmatic, if the weather's warmer than she's used to, she may want to replace some electrolytes or ease the pace off a bit. Taking a bit of water so she can sip at her own pace between water stations.

Running races is very safe and most hazards like running out of fuel or sun burn are easy to mitigate.

The events are well prepared for issues with marshals and first aiders avaliable along courses. On the rare occasion a runner is struggling there's someone around to support. I once supported an ill-prepared runner who was cold and out of energy 2 hours into a sub-zero HM, gave her my sugary drink and made sure she got to within sniffing distance of the finish line- she'd already done over 20k by the time the cold and fatigue kicked in. If she'd had some supplies in her pockets and layers of clothing, she wouldn't have struggled.

xsquared · 20/06/2024 21:31

10K is only 1.5K more than her longest distance she's ran. To give you some perspective, that's roughly another 15 minutes of walking if she stalls at 8.5K.

At 26, she will be fine.

beckybarefoot · 20/06/2024 20:58

@Grassisntalwaysgreener54 if there is a history of cardio-myopathy, then surely you daughter will have been screened for it?

i know this for a fact because my 2 daughters have the condition, their dad had it and has just passed away and i have litterally been sat at the hospital with my 5 week old grandson hooked up to ecg machines and ultra-sound devices, looking for the exact same thing.

i'm sorry if this scares you.. both my daughters run, do the gym and exercise the only thing they are not supposed to do is 'lift'. your daughter will be fine.. stop worrying you will only make yourself ill

soontobemumof3girls · 20/06/2024 20:57

I sometimes wonder if the his generation of parents are too anxious and wrapping their children up in too much cotton wool?

Many of us remember the days of smacking? Wooden spoon and clips around the ear. The role with an iron fist days are long gone, so is a large majority of the rest of those days.

Has the pendulum swung too far?!

Oh and yes the run... the human body can ensure significantly more pressure than a 10km run. Any young, healthy, person could jog a 10km.

Grassisntalwaysgreener54 · 20/06/2024 20:53

beckybarefoot · 20/06/2024 20:48

ive not read all the replies so i apologise... you dont mention how old she is? if she can easy run 8.5k, she will most definately be able to run 10k. is there a reason why you think she might have heart failure? does she have issues with her heart? is there a family link?

if this is more a 'you' thing, as in anxiety and catastrosizing (if thats even a word), do you perhaps need to speak to someone?

Yes we have heart issues to a degree, my brother had myocardiopathy, and my grandfather had a huge heart attack.
I think I overthink everything, I do get anxious but keep it to myself, been through a lot last few years, I've had CBT for grief counselling and when I got divorced due to being coerced, however none of it worked, I don't want to go on meds either, get through this weekend I'll be fine and after all your comments I'm sure she will be too.
Just want to thank you all for you helpful comments it's lovely 🌹

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beckybarefoot · 20/06/2024 20:51

She's 26, it's just me and her I have no other family.

blimy... i thought you were going to say 10 or 11! as i mentioned, perhaps you need some support for your axiety.

if it helps, my now son-in-law decided one day, with no training he was going to run a half marathon. at about 18, he stood on our drive, smoked a fag.. and then off he went.. and did it!

bananaphon · 20/06/2024 20:49

I managed to run 10k before with no training. Stop worrying so much! I think heart failure is more likely in these endurance/long distance runs. 10k isn't that far.

beckybarefoot · 20/06/2024 20:48

ive not read all the replies so i apologise... you dont mention how old she is? if she can easy run 8.5k, she will most definately be able to run 10k. is there a reason why you think she might have heart failure? does she have issues with her heart? is there a family link?

if this is more a 'you' thing, as in anxiety and catastrosizing (if thats even a word), do you perhaps need to speak to someone?

eurochick · 20/06/2024 20:48

She's 26! I was expecting you to say she was a small child! It will be fine. I was training for a half marathon at that age and not finding it taxing.

DogUnderDesk · 20/06/2024 20:46

She'll find it irritatingly easy at that age.

When I'm unfit and need to do a 10k, I do three 3k runs with half-k walking breaks. Job done.

Scruffily · 20/06/2024 20:43

She just needs to pace herself. When my DD did her first one, she was a bit worried about all the people who went charging off at the start. She passed quite a few of them in the second half, some of them collapsed at the side.

Alittlefrustrated · 20/06/2024 20:42

Do you suffer from anxiety generally OP? If you do, there is help available, id you speak to your GP.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 20/06/2024 20:37

Give your head a wobble, OP. It's a 10k, not an ultra marathon! She'll be fine.

rainbowunicorn · 20/06/2024 20:32

It's just over 6 miles. Nothing will happen to her.

Mynaddmawr · 20/06/2024 20:22

She'll be grand. She'd be absolutely fine running 10k without any practice- She'd have sore legs and a stitch but she wouldnt be keeling over! Very sensible to build up to it though. 8.5km to 10km is nothing

Vroomfondleswaistcoat · 20/06/2024 20:17

I ran a 10k the other week. I'm 63 and regularly train, so that's not noteworthy. However, I ran it with my daughter, who's only a bit older than yours, who ran with a chronic hangover, having done almost no training at all.
We came in at only a bit over an hour. Your daughter will be fine, although you may want to see someone about your anxiety regarding her. Being so worried about a healthy 26 year old won't be doing your health any good.

MaryBeardsShoes · 20/06/2024 20:13

She’ll be absolutely fine!

Meadowfinch · 20/06/2024 20:10

She'll be absolutely fine.

I ran my first 10k at 52. I'd only run 8k in training. The support of other runners got me through on the day.

Hardknocks · 20/06/2024 20:09

Oh my god she’s going to be absolutely fine. I ran a 10k with absolutely ZERO training. I was lapped by a man in a peppa pig costume, it was mostly humiliating but I definitely didn’t hurt myself 😂

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