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Weight training and passive agressive men

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cantmovewont · 17/11/2022 13:50

Hi

I've been weight training for over 6 years now. I recently took an extended break after covid and have just recently restarted - same gym I've been training in for the last 3 years.

I am having issues with men (regulars) who have never bothered me before now mansplaining/telling me to finish with the weights I'm using or getting in my space and generally making me feel uncomfortable. I don't know why it has started happening. I used to get so much from my gym workouts and now I'm dreading going. I think I should think about changing gyms, but friends and family are telling me - a normally resilient and strong person - not to let them win. Win what? I go in, put my music on and don't engage with anyone.

I don't understand WHY this is happening and I'm not sure how to deal with it. Any advice would be gratefully received.

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MsMartini · 17/11/2022 14:21

Mmm. I don't think you have to stay somewhere that makes you uncomfortable. Is there another gym that would suit you? If the culture has changed, you could have a word with the manager and ask him/her to look out for poor behaviour like this. Getting in your space and being persistent with unsolicited advice are both unacceptable, IMO.

Are they literally telling you to stop with the weights, or asking you how many sets left/how long you will be (normal and acceptable to help plan workout, if done politely, IMO), perhaps not as politely as they could? Just a thought.

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