Morbidly obese and Chronic illness - how to start?

For people like yourself, liquid diets have known to help kick things off. Speak to your GP for a recommendation. After that you need to follow the NHS plan to lose weight - 1400 cals per day weight loss is designed for sedentary people who can’t exercise.

Remember to text your dh about lunch tomo. It doesn't have to be a meal, even just lots of healthy snacks. Nuts yogurt etc.

Or would your dad bring you an extra soup for lunch tomo?

Well done on washing the dog

Meant to say, you can totally do this!

Have you heard of myfitnesspal? It's a free calorie counting app. Even if you can start eating at just under your maintenance level it will help you slowly lose weight.
Every hour get off the bed and walk the length of the room and back, next week walk that twice. The 3rd week walk down stairs and back up.
Small changes each week will help you get fitter.
I send you a hug, you can do this x

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OP, don't despair. Posting on here and acknowledging the issues is a massive first step. Also well done on the food choices last night and this morn.

Take it one meal at a time.

I also suggest getting a multivitamin and vit d3 as pp suggested.

Would you be interested in the 5:2 diet? Read the OP , there's lots of useful information. BigChocFrenzy who runs the thread has a wealth of knowledge, great advice and always very supportive. The other posters on the thread are great too and so you won't feel alone as such.

I'll link the thread.

Also would it be worth asking for a telephone appt for anxiety meds? If it's really bad they could really help curb it.

Perhaps start with getting dressed every morning and going downstairs.

I don't think you need to worry about exercise so much yet, focus on diet and moving around in the house and then getting out.

Well done on yesterday. That's really impressive. Just concentrate on today. Do you have enough healthy food to get you through today?

Is there anything else you can do today - mindfulness videos as suggested by pp?

I use hypnosis a lot. Really recommend the apps by Andrew Johnson. It's my go to lazy choice of moving to end goals I've tried lots of different hypnosis, but his stuff is amazing.

Is there anything you can do now to help you eat right tomorrow? Then maybe choos a couple of baby steps to do before relaxing on your phone/iPad. Maybe 25 minutes min housework, hypnosis/mindfulness then crash with iPad.

Good luck for today

Giving sugar up won't make you ill, it will only improve your health dramatically. Our bodies have no use for it. Well done for a positive start.

Well done on making those choices with your food yesterday! Thats a great start It's all about small steps and keeping them going.

If you've checked your blood sugar, its really unlikely there is a problem with it, and that it may be anxiety related so you can apply mindfulness to that feeling like the feeling when you move and your heart rate raises.

How do you feel about watching some mindfulness videos today?

From what you've said about crashes if you've not eaten, I'd get your blood checked for diabetes. It's highly likely given your lifestyle/weight and believe me, medication will make a huge difference if it is diabetes. I've lost nearly 4 stone since being on Metformin to stimulate my pancreas and I don't get the crazy never ending food binges where you are never full. It's changed my life OP, but whatever you do, stop eating sugar. It's killing you.

Good luck op, you can do it. You are already taking first steps by posting here.

Stop beating yourself up, you are carrying so much guilt and low self esteem. You can't change the past, you can't change the fact that you got to this point. You can change this moment right now. Concentrate on that. Don't worry about the big plans. What small action can you do now to help yourself?

Good luck, don't be so hard on yourself. You can do this

Can you get a foot cycling thing? They are fairly cheap. Can do it when sitting down.

Baby steps.

That sounds like a tough place to be in Please pop over to the lose 100lbs thread when you have a minute and have a read. We're all at various stages now as the threads have been going for nearly a year now, you're very welcome to join us. We all understand that horrible feeling of looking at the scales and thinking how on earth am I ever going to lose all that.

It's not going to be easy but as someone said, chose your hard. Peri menopause is a steaming pile of shit but improving your diet will hopefully ease up some of the symptoms in time. Lower GI food will help and the one about a smaller plate and eating slowly does help. Don't try to change everything all at once and accept there will be moments when things don't go to plan. That's ok, the important thing is to keep at it, just take it one day at a time for now. If you have a tape measure take your measurements, good to look back at and helpful for the times the scales don't move but you lose inches.

Don't worry about exercise for the moment. Do what you feel able, for now food is the main issue and you can make a big difference through this. Success breeds success with this . Get one day under your belt then move onto the next, they add up - just like losing 'only' 1lb a week is about 4 stone a year . The great thing about the Internet is you don't need to do this on your own there are people to help you through it and you can do it. You said that you were scared of leaving your room but you have over come that which shows you can make a difference and do things.

Hi OP check out rebelfit on Facebook. There are lots of us who are big but the chap who runs it really understands. There are daily workouts but they can all be done at home and they start v gradual.

He educates about nutrition too.

Also, have you tried mindfulness? The headspace app is very good.

How use slow cooker if OP can barely get downstairs.

Do you ever go outside - has anyone checked your vitamin D levels or do you take a Vit. D supplement?

What do you do all day, if you're almost bed-bound? How are you spending your time? You must be bored witless.

Could you take up knitting or crochet to distract you from thinking about food?
Look at doing meal planning and easy recipes for DH - do you have a slow cooker (use cheaper cuts of meat or look up vegetarian meals) so that he could put it on in the morning with a stew and just cook vegetables / jacket potatoes when he gets home?
Fill up on vegetables like cabbage, cauliflower and broccoli, swede and sweet potatoes are great (you can bake sweet potatoes), or baketrays of peppers/tomatoes/courgette/onion/carrots 😋
If you get hungry between meals drink a pint of water and wait 30 minutes, if still hungry have an apple.

Can I recommend My Fitness Pal the website? You can do it at the same time as SW. you have to tell it everything that you eat, and just by doing that you become a bit more responsible with your diet.

You also pick up friends on the site who help to keep you on track (after the month when you say you normally give up).

There's a bunch of MNetters on there giving support as well!