Runners United: Where we support each other through the good runs, the bad runs and everything in between.

Sorry about your redundancy, N4NNY xx

N4NNY, really sorry about the redundancy, that really sucks. Do you have anything lined up? Hope the lovely trip to Iceland is a good distraction, it will be fab I'm sure.

DrNo, hurrah for injury-free running!

Futurity, good luck with the kitchen work, hope it's short!!!

Are you feeling any better today Rhet?

Had another rubbish nights sleep punctuated with two trips in to see DD "I need a wee wee!", and "I'm scared of the shadows in my room" and also by a Xmas musical bib going off (there's been a lot of that this week on this thread!) inside one of the vacuum packed bags. Queue DP and I frantically trying to un-vacuum pack them to find the bib before Rudolph the feckin Reindeer woke DD again. Grrrr. Been cleaning house to get ready for PILs arriving this eve, and on top of that am supposed to start massaging my perimeum. Really don't know if I can face it. After episiotemy with DD, it's like Viet-bloody-nam down there. Urrggghhh!

Tmi???

Hello - lots to catch up on?..

Hope Moshi is doing well in San Francisco.

N4NNY ? sorry to hear about the redundancy, hope things work out for you

Peach - hope things are looking up for your Dad?s wife.
Good luck to all those with building work ? thankfully those days are behind me for the time being ? we did major works on our house 4- 5 years ago - I have only just recovered??it did coincide with having a dd in true grand designs fashion.

Hope all the toilet action has abated for now ? I think I missed it ? something to do with it not travelling to Scotland may be?

It?s got really cold here today - has the snow started yet for you backwardpossum? I put on my super warm running tights this morning with two layers on top and my wolly hat ? brrrrrrrrr

I?m now in the two-weeks-before-a-race-and-i-can-feel-every-niggle zone. My ankle now seems OK, my arm is still slightly stiff but OK and this morning I felt a twinge in one knee, a creaking in my shoulder and a clicking in my other knee.

n4nny sorry to hear about the redundancy I too was made redundant from a job I adored after 7 years service. It's not nice.

N4NNY sorry about redundancy. Re Iceland, had got it into my head that it was start of half term rather than end of h/t. Sounds brilliant.

Think have resolve PC crisis, fingers crossed etc. Did System Restore. Everything seems to be as it was yesterday though has left me feeling a bit nervous.

ibby I go to Iceland on the 28th so weekend after next. I'm excited and can't wait but also want to wait because once I'm back I only have 4 days left with "my" boys before I leave been made redundant after almost 7 years :( sad days.

Thanks for sympathetic words re building work.

Futurity good luck with kitchen.

Moshi hope trip goes well.

Rhet hang on in there...

DrNo well one for going to running club last night, wind here was bitterly cold yesterday.

N4NNY your trip to Icelnad is this coming weekend isn't it? Had been thinking about that. (in a "wish I was going" sense!)

Having mini (well major) meltdown here as switched on PC and most of stuff not there. Fortunately after a bit of searching around located Word documents, but is going to prove harder to retrieve emails... [hhmm]. Fortunately though I work from home, much of work is on university server....it is just figuring out how to reconnect which is the problem.

Sitting here in running kit, planning to go out in a minute...getting waylaid by PC probs though.

And so it starts...kitchen being ripped out! Lots of noise and banging much to the kids excitement. Not so good was me in manky dressing gown when the man turned up...classy!

Hello just a quick post to wish moshi a good journey and productive week
And rhet hang in there it has been a difficult week, life is about to change again from the (precarious) balance you all managed to achieve, you are allowed to have wobbles

Hope everyone else is ok shitty ends not withstanding

hello [no visits from the poo fairy here please]

Lots to catch up on - what a lot of shit! Hope all affected get well soon (what a bummer! Sorry...)

Moshi amazed at your splits. Congrats on a marathon well completed. I aspire to your "off the rails" times. Hope SF travel goes to plan.

Strange loved your race report, and well done on the great time!

rhet glad to hear your scare was just that. A few more grey hairs... A lot of understanding for the crappiness of the total lack of work/life balance. It's shite, it really is. I certainly don't have any answers (if you find any, do pass them on to DP!!), but I do think you are the right side of the balance. Your daughters will grow up and need less constant supervision, and presumably then you can write the SuperBook and go stellar... Either that or all academics will be childless no-life-outside-the-academy types - a grim prospect.

No race for me at the weekend, but I do have a lovely new pair of (cheap!) trail shoes, which I tried out this morning. They work! So now they don't look like new trail shoes any more. Lovely out this morning too.

rhet You are having a shitey old week, then visitors and you have to be hostess with the mostest then your Mother is coming? No wonder you are stressed woman. You've alot on your plate, take a break and be good to yourself I say.

wheely you can keep your ironbru, I hate the stuff

moshi San Fran again this week hey? You must be exhausted with all this planning. To coin an SJP film 'I don't know how she does it....'

I did do running club. Twas windy, but great fun. If you can call Tempos fun....

And, I am pleased to announce that my injury seems to have fucked off gone. Thank the Lord. Finally.

Tonight I am going to bed with that lovely feeling in my legs that they have worked hard!

I seem to have entered my next race this evening dispite after running it last year saying I'd never do it again. Oopps.

Plans are full steam ahead for parkrun Iceland getting very excited now

How many people on this thread have had shitsgate?! Do you think it is a MN record? I am also typing in protective bubble... I can't cope with that and kitchen hell !

too even

on the upside, you lot do make me laugh. peach your poor dad - I know this was a big worry for dd's grandma, as both of her parents died young from cancer, and now her husband has it to - but looks likely to make a good recovery, even if the treatment will be gruelling. I agree with you - there's no need to hurry them - some are keener to break free than others, and you just have to go with what you know is right for your child.

DP's lovely sister came for the afternoon and entertained DD; we made pizzas and then she washed up and everything - turned the day around, I must say.

I think it's the work thing that's really bugging me - I've been in the same job for a long time, and it requires uninterrupted time and energy that I simply don't have, and I am not willing to just stomp off and leave my DP and DD to get on with it. I just have to learn to live with the consequences of that decision, which is that I can't do my work to the standard that I think is required.

flapjocks very funny!

Debi can you make me some flapjocks for dds school dance on Friday, I was planning on just going with flapjacks but I prefer the sound of yours. Why is flapjocks so funny? It's cracking me up!

Oh Rhet you sound completely overwhelmed you poor soul. 2.9 year olds are lucky they're cute. Seriously, my dc were full on at the that age. Plus v. pregnant dp, job crap and the imminent arrival of rellies. No wonder you're feeling rubbish. I'm hugging you too, sod the Mumnet rule on the matter.

peach I hope your stepmum is ok, what a worry for you all. Grim indeed :(

Good luck with the trip Moshi

Dr No did you go to running club in the end? I'm hoping to go back tomorrow after a full week away.

Squit-gate update. All quiet on the Western front today. Think I'm thru it. What are we like?

paws I can't believe your dh has felt the need to join us Shits sans frontiers.

Good luck in San Fran moshi - loved your pics on FB of the marathon !

rhet - Sorry you're having a bad week, good luck with the forthcoming visits. I'd go with what your DP thinks about the run (but peach's reaction might offer good insight !).

peach -sorry dd is having a tough time. It might be some of the other kids have been in childcare up till now so have had to do more for themselves (disclaimer: not a point against childcare). And at least she's lovely with the other kids (so she'll be able to get them to do things for her ). Hopefully just adjusting to all the change. Sorry about your Dad's wife too, fingers crossed (as lame as that sounds).

Well done to those who have been out in the grotty weather. DrNo - Did you go ? Perhaps you need some Irn Bru ?

Can't believe the shitgate flowing (ahem) through this thread... eek !

I have swam today. Swimming lesson tomorrow.

My race pack arrived today for GSR. Exciting/ Terrified/ and worrying about the logistics all at the same time. Also worried about what time I put on for DH and I as we seem to be in the fastest (not including elite) wave (but they don't say what they are timewise and I can't remember).

Good luck tomorrow Moshi, hope the kids love it and it's a productive trip!

Rhet, you don't sound like an arsehole at all, you just have a lot on your shoulders at the moment and am sure things at work just add to the pressure. Thanks for your thoughts on DD. I think starting preschool is just a lot for her (and me!) to deal with and she is not used to be told what to do by anyone except me and DP. She's not that naturally independant so I have never pushed it, but then there's the whole thing of getting them independant for pre-school, so they can be ready for school, which I think they go to far too young anyway. Where does it end? Fostering independance in a 6 month old to get them ready for the next stage. Probably i am being pfb about her and I think that the bottom line is, deep down I don't really want her to grow up, but instead just hang out with me forever. Sigh. I shall pull myself together tomorrow after hopefully a good night's sleep.

Fanny, it's official, you are mad. Do you only have 2 gears lassie!!! , glad you are all feeling better.

Just got off the phone to my dad. His wife is in hospital as hasn't eaten anything in 3 days and has been losing weight rapidly recently with stomach problems. They are both worried about cancer obviously. Her husband died of cancer and so did my mum, so are dreading diagnosis, but will just need to see what the test results show. Not sure how my dad would cope if it all happened again. Grim.

sticky and ibby- Trying to 'calibrate' the garmin won't help I don't think. There's unlikely to be anything wrong with it generally. I was just spectulating that it might have stuggled with a twisty tree covered route. You could download the route onto something like runkeeper and check it against the map to see if it cut corners.

Rhet we all have weeks like that. I know I do anyway. And in our jobs it's impossible to hide it!

That reminds me fanny, I was meant to make flapjocks (meant to say flapjacks obviously but the typo cracked me up so I've left it!) and keep forgetting.

I went out tonight for an easy 3.5 miles. I really don't want to push it this week and risk the shins so took it easy and they were ok. I felt 1 of them for a couple of minutes after a mile or so but that was it.

Apologies rhet I've not been up to date on the thread and had no idea you'd had horrid time with DP and baby this week. . All I can "sensibly" add is that, life doesn't stop on the due date, if your DP is happy with you doing the race, then go for it. DH didn't hang around my legs on my
due dates!

Hope everyone else is well, will do proper catch up tonight.

On a brighter note, all well here, everyone shit free (dear Lord please don't strike me down again) and I have made in past 24 hours; flapjacks, apricot and pecan cereal bars, choc chip cookies and lemon drizzle cake. As they say... Da Bitch is back.

Moshi good luck for SF tomorrow.

you are all so nice - thank you. Really I'm sure it's all fine, just having a wobbly week, and DD's dad and gps are coming for the weekend, which is lovely for her, but quite hard work for me (cooking, etc); they leave sunday and then my mum comes the following thursday for a long weekend...then it will be november -peach look away - and the baby will only be 4 weeks 2 weeks for you peach away

moshi is probably right that it'll be easier when the baby is here in many ways. And you've got a ton on your plate as well m'dear by the sound of things. You trained for a 3.15 marathon, and did a 3.15 marathon - I just think that's amazing. Next time you'll probably manage the 3.09 I'd say. You know you can do it!

It's hard rhet I guess you're expected to do everything be the strong one when it's your DP that's carrying the baby, but you've had a hard week too with all that worry and stress.

i can't really help with the work other than to sympathise, but it must be just like running - sometimes it all seems to flow seamlessly with bearable effort, other times it's bloody murder much harder work. Just hang in there.

Briefly popping into give rhet a very unMNetty hug. Cheer up love. Worse shit happens. You are just tired and dealing with a preggers DP. It will all seem brighter when the little one has appeared. Albeit with a sort of surreal taint due to sleep deprivation.

Off to San Fran tomorrow with the DCs to see schools and, hopefully, secure school places.

Other hilarious news is that it appears from closer inspection of my splits I was on course for a 3:09:30 marathon. Ha ha ha ha ha. No wonder I blew up. I have been training for a 3:15...

Oh and get out there DrNo you big wuss. Are you northern or what?

hmm - yes, she will need me for transport. It's not important - DP thinks that if I sign up that will guarantee a timely arrival...

I am sort of joking - on the other hand, it's no further away and would take no longer than an average trip to the shops - I'd bring my phone, of course.

peach we have the opposite issue - DD is slightly too independent for her abilities - and she is as good as gold at nursery, but less compliant at home and does go off on one when asked to do things (a lot of 'no, I won't' today). Is it her way of ensuring that she gets some attention? I don't know how many other children she's with, but she is used to a lot of one on one time - or has been. It sounds like she is just frustrated at not being able to do the things that are asked of her

Ran 7 and a bit miles today, very easy - squally out, and a very cold wind. But it felt good and I needed to run away from the utter chaos of the house (I'm not very tidy, but find toys and clothes strewn everywhere randomly quite hard to cope with - but this is the result of leaving a 2.9 year old and a pathologically untidy nearly 34 weeks pregnant woman downstairs :o) and even more so, away from my inability to produce any work.

I realise from these posts that I am sounding like a right arsehole - really I'm not, but I am tired and anxious and miserable about the doldrums that my career seem to have fallen into.

Not sure Rhet, does she depend on you for transport? When I went into labour with ds2, DH was in such a flap he reversed off the drive and started to drive away without me. I was not best impressed, being doubled up in pain at the time and decided anyone else would have been preferable.

Labour with ds3 was horribly fast (so fast he got very distressed and I ended up having an emergency cs under ga - not fun). I think I would err on the side of caution, unless you're prepared to sprint back to DP in 7 minute miles!