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Can I text neighbours and say about mum's birthday?

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EmailsaysOOO · 21/08/2026 15:19

My mum is about half an hour away. I can't see her on her 90th birthday which is this Monday. Mum has dementia - not too bad yet, and a heart condition. I feel sad that she may not hear from many people on Monday other than her carers.

I am in regular contact with the couple below her - fit and well in their late 60s/.early 70's I expect.. Whenever there is an issue with tradespeople coming in etc, they will let them in, do things such as this for my mum..

Also there are 2 ladies of the same age, one of whom my mum used to love chatting with when she was more mobile..

I don't know if it's rude or cheeky to text any of them to say by the way my mum will be 90 on Monday.. They might want to send her a card..

What do you think ? Thanks in advance..

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EmailsaysOOO · 21/08/2026 15:30

@Nobg because she is less mobile these days she doesn't bump into these ladies so often .I wouldn't be surprised if she's not seen the one she most likes for maybe three months.. This lady is Irish and my mum seems to always get on well with the Irish .

The other one, who she does like but isn't so wildly enthusiastic about, we bumped into about 4 or 5 months ago when we happened to be in the same coffee shop in town.

I'm afraid I've been unclear. All three are neighbours. Just that my mum's flat is on the first floor, above the couple and the ladies are on the ground floor a few flats down the side.

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Nobg · 21/08/2026 15:24

Tell her carers for sure

Nobg · 21/08/2026 15:24

How long ago did your mother see the two ladies?

Neighbours…. Definitely

Thestealer · 21/08/2026 15:20

I think that's a lovely idea.