Cockroach cafe - summer

Other than suggesting your original choice I would let him deal with it @countrygirl99. Also does your DM need full help with washing and dressing or can they let her do bits of washing herself and just help with the bits she can't do? They should be allowing her to be as independent as possible, it might reduce her stress around washing.

So mum has been in the care home that goldenballs chose for less than a week and already they are saying that she may need to move. But her needs are pretty standard for someone with mid stage dementia who has just moved location.
Of course she's unsettled, she has dementia and she's been moved out of her home of over 20 years and an hour away from her friends (although not many left. She thinks they meet more than they do).
Of course she doesn't like them washing and dressing her, she's been doing it herself up to now even if she did put grubby clothes back on, so she doesn't accept she needs it.
Great choice by goldenballs. Maybe, just maybe, he should have listened to me for once.

@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne hope you are ok

@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne sending all positive thoughts for a speedy recovery.

My day was another low point in my Mum’s journey with brain cancer. Yesterday she told me a carer had smacked her. I told her I couldn’t let that go and launched a complaint with the care home. Today I contacted the gp who visits the home and asked that mum be put on the list for monday.
care home manager spoke with my mum and looked at the massive bruise herself. When asked mum denied anyone had mistreated her and all the carers are lovely.
WTF. How am I supposed to advocate for her when she denies anything has happened.
I’ll have a very large cocktail please to block this out

@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne omg! How awful, wishing you a full recovery

so sorry to hear this, hope you have a swift recovery. Like countrygirl, I’m hoping that you being able to post on here in complete sentences is a good sign.

@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne 💐

@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne wishing you well.

Oh gosh @TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne I am glad you are at the hospital getting treatment. Holding you in my thoughts 💐

Goodness @TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne.

How horrid for you. Sending you a handhold

@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne hope you recover well. If it's any comfort, being able to post on here is a good sign.

@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne How scary for you, I hope your recovery is quick.

@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne that sounds very scary! I hope you are being well looked after and getting all the support and care you need. Best wishes for a full recovery

@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne wishing you strength to get through this and a swift recovery 💐

Oh my! Sending all good wishes for good care and a fast recovery.

Cross-posted. Really sorry to hear this

@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne oh no, hope you are being looked after.

@ManchesterMonkey what was the result of your DMs memory test ? If she wants to move nearer you can’t she just do it ?
@TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOnecrikey that’s awful, poor you. I don’t know what to say, it doesn’t seem fair.

Only a mini crisis for me today. I organise d
DF's pills into a dosette box each week. Last night he took this morning's pills by mistake- and was confused when he found that this morning's pills weren't there when he woke up. So I have spent today contacting the GP to check whether we should be worried that he'd had two doses of morning meds yesterday and researching pivotell type dispensers. I have ordered one.

Positive news - I contacted a place I used to volunteer at a couple of years ago and offered my services again and they bit my hand off, so I start next week. Really could do with a paid job, but I think it will be good for me to do something outside home that isn't caring. Wish I didn't have the niggling guilty feeling that I should be spending the time helping DF...

Brain not working. Have had cerebellar stroke and am in hospital.

Checking in.

Just back from my mjm’s. Great birthday dinner for both me and her last night. Now hungover to feck. 😂

She wants to move near us and sell the death trap in the middle of nowhere house. Middle brother won’t hear of it (inheritance, obvs), younger brother buries his head in the sand.

Middle brother said in the spring ‘let’s have a family conference about her selling up, I’ll come over from Europe as me and the kids want an English holiday.” Mum tells me last night that the plan has changed and he’s going to Austria. Surprise, surprise. Total avoidance. I am LIVID.

Mum had a memory assessment this AM. I update the chumps by WhatsApp, they’ve read it but not responded.

@Scrabsqueak that sounds similar to DMs symptoms and were it not for very obvious physical symptoms- poor speech and movement- I doubt she would have been diagnosed.

I think you are on the right lines of getting the GP to invite her in for a “routine” health check of some kind, but I can see that might be an issue if the GP surgery isn’t very organised. Does it have a nurse she could see for a blood pressure check or a pharmacist for a medication review? Just thinking that it may be helpful to get her in front of some kind of clinically trained professional who could push the right buttons to get the GP’s attention.

I also think your friend is right to start this process sooner than later as unfortunately I think a lot of these clinics are under huge pressure - when mum was originally referred the consultant wrote back and said their waiting list was over 60 weeks (!) and bearing in mind mums age they suggested an alternate approach which got her on a shorter waiting list for her local general hospital elderly care clinic who also deal with memory issues. In the end she short cut the entire thing by being admitted into the big hospital and seeing everyone as an in patient, but that’s not an approach I’d recommend!