Just out of interest, what are your elderly parents care home fees?

£1750 per week so £7583 per month for a dementia placement ( low to medium needs) in South West. Its a home which is part of a charitable not for profit and they don’t evict or ask for top ups after someone runs out of capital. Its a lovely home with great staff, ethos, food and entertainment and we are very happy with it

My father died a few years ago. I’ve just looked up his CH - £2100 now. We paid I think £1500 per week. Zero help as he had savings. Everyone in that CH was self funding.

<edited as I was looking at out of date information >

My Fathers fees were about 1k per week but it was a few years ago now. He had the good grace to refuse treatment for a terminal illness, he had no dementia or cognitive issues at all, just physical disabilities.

Friends Mother who had died recently was paying 2k per week for her home. She had dementia. People live to great ages in my family and there has never been cognitive issues for any of them, just physical ailments.

Sounds fabulous!

We found our local hospice was massively over subscribed

Many of these fees are paid by families where the person is selling a home in the south east..

A friend's mum with advanced dementia paid similar eye watering fees... She had a large house in Oxfordshire and had been left a flat in outer London decades previously... By time she died her care fees had topped £1 million... 🙄

Sometimes fées are partially funded by CHC funding too

£1600 per week. Secure dementia unit in Surrey. (£6400 per month)
Worth every single penny..

For end of life care my mum spent the last 5 weeks in a stunningly beautiful hospice with free 1:2 nursing and complete palliative care. The staff were continually perplexed as to why they were never full.

My grandad was in a care home last year SW England. £1450pw

FIL is paying £1250 a month. He has decided he won't leave his room so he's getting nothing out of it other than food and cups of tea - he won't even watch the TV. He's treating it like a punishment basically. MIL is currently in a respite placement after falling in her home which we have been told is free for this time until she has been assessed - no idea what will happen then.
Haven't calculated how much it's costing us apart from this - bus fares to and from the homes(they are in different ones), cost of the upkeep of their house while they still have it and travel to and from there, MILs care home does not do laundry for them so fetching, washing, returning her clothes and also (it sounds selfish, sorry) all the stuff we're having to cancel, miss out on in our life, all the time spent on "admin" which includes querying everything. All these things cost on top of the care fees. It's relentless.

Oh I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope the fact she had a peaceful ending is a small comfort to you x 💐

A nurse from my mum's care home rang me to tell me about applying for CHC. You really need to look into this. Good luck.

@Netcurtainnelly I was responding to this. If you take even a quick look at the info on the link, which is pretty easy reading, you'll see there is more to it than private business making money.

£1,075 pw, residential home. Cannot fault it.

ETA: meant to add, North West.

Of course they are it's a private business and we did need them.

I'm glad you found somewhere that looked after her so well.

My mothers are between £8k & £8.5 depending on how many days in the month. SW London

Saw your note that you are looking at homes for your mum and seeing £1,300–£1,500 a week. My grandmother went through something similar, and we actually came across RightCareHome, which helped us compare likely funding routes and the homes behind those fees. Would a fee/runway check plus shortlist have made the search less uncertain?

Well they get paid.

People don’t run businesses unless there is profit in it. There is noting wrong with that.

Sure.
But the carers who do the actual work don't get the ultimate benefit of their labour.
The owners do.

But the alternative is that you look after them yourself. They are people. They need to be assisted. Assistance with anything, from having your hair cut, to having your house extended, to giving you pills cooking for you and washing you, all needs people to assist. That costs money and nobody would run those businesses if there wasn’t some money to be made. Nobody has an entitlement to an inheritance. I think for some people it seems a waste to see their parents money go on care fees because they feel their parents don’t do much anyway so younger people could get more value out of that money but you have to consider the alternative.

Im not becoming a 24/7 full personal carer for my FIL. £1500 a week is not worth me giving up all my time, wiping his bottom and feeding him I’m afraid. So the money goes on paying someone else to do it. As it should. Yes it’s slightly galling that those who have worked hard and have accumulated assets have to pay whilst those with no money saved (for whatever reason) don’t, but that’s just the premise of the welfare state which is something we value as a country (and as individuals when we are benefitting from our free education, free nhs and relatively affluent and well developed infrastructure), and is not something most of us would really want to lose if we thought it through.

But outrage on here and elsewhere that the adult kids won't get " their inheritance " is, sadly, a sight more common

Yup. And the care agency boss I worked most with drove a Jag...
Decent agency but still.

The way I see it ,Mum is getting the care she needs and the money from the sale of her house is paying for it