What do you do when you are caring for 3 generations of people and you are the only one doing any organising or taking any responsibility?
My own kids (both have complex needs), chronically ill/housebound father who refuses most offers of outside support, grandmother in her 90s about to move from hospital to carehome and the only point of contact, or person taking any responsibility for organising anything is me. This has been ongoing for several years. Abd I don't live near-by
I have put in some boundaries and backed off in the past, tryied to hand over to SW. But right now I'm the only contact for hospital/SW etc and the calls are relentless. My grandmother's house is going to have to be emptied at some point too and I really can't face having to organise that.
I do have siblings who live very close to both elderly folk but they've washed their hands of all responsibility. I live over an hour away and have very needy children due to their disabilities. I am struggling.
I'd love to just call the hospital/SW and say to take my number off their records. But then there's no one to take the call, we won't know when my grandmother is moved, to where or even if she dies.
I'd like nothing better than to wash my hands of it all, just like my siblings, and just concentrate on being the best mum I can be for my kids....but how? I can't force my siblings to step up or to even offer their number as a contact.
Please if you've any solution to this, I would really love to hear it. Can I really just remove myself, before I break?
P.s: Our relationships with both elderly
relatives aren't great. All I'm feeling
right now is overwhelm and
resentment abd cant really
see a way through this where I.
don't lose my mind .