Cockroach cafe - Spring to Summer 2026

@Dormit that does sound like a much more encouraging update.

Thank you for the new thread.
I feel terrible guilt at not keeping up with the thread. I don’t have the capacity lately even though things are nice and steady and I’m far less stressed now.
I start ADHD medication this next week and am wondering how that will go. Eldest dd is causing concern with her bizarre behaviour. Shes always been kooky but the drugs are making her worse. She came to see me briefly today. Youngest DD is back home and being ok. No Mother’s Day present but I did get a nice cared. Ds is really struggling at the moment and I’ve got him booked in privately for an autism assessment in the next few weeks. There’s no doubt about it but the official diagnosis is important with him going to secondary school in September. The cat is great and remains as cute and comforting as ever. Last but not least is mum and she’s doing great. She’s off the Oramorph completely and shows only the odd sign of forgetfulness that I don’t think is unusual at 86. She’s doing her exercises and getting out more with me and (rarely) others. I’m taking her out with Ds for the day this next week to go shopping!! I’m taking her to Victoria’s Secret for new bras. I love that at 86 she’s shopping there. We w borrowed a wheelchair and are getting the train and tram to the big shopping centre. It will be an adventure and tiring for all but mentally it will be great for her to be out in the real world. She’s buying lunch 😁 I think it will be hard for her to be sat for hours in the wheelchair as she’s up and about so much now but as long as she stands to stretch regularly I think and hope it will be ok. The fact she is willing to go on such an adventure is a huge achievement. It’s an uber, a train and two trams but in total about 90 minutes so not too bad and lots to see along the way. Im
determined to make the most of these better times because we all know what he bad times are like and they nearly did for me last year.
Sending beautifully decorated spring cookies to you all and hard liquor for those whose needs are greater than fat and carbs x

Checking in; all quiet in my neck of the woods for the time being.
@GnomeDePlume I hope it’s not long now.
@CrazyGoatLady Jesus Christ they have some nerve. Glad you told them to more or less f* off.
Solidarité to all 🍷

@GnomeDePlume I hope that they can continue to keep your DM comfortable and that your DB is being tolerable at the moment.

Jeez @CrazyGoatLady definitely back away and leave the CF's to deal with it. You have been running yourself ragged, no more I hope.

Another day, another 💩 accident. DF had the cheek to say to DH that he had been coming less recently. DH pointed out that he didn't agree to put him into bed on weekends (he has four carer calls on those days. DH has been M-F every night to put him into bed plus attended several times to deal with poo accidents and taken him to a hospital appointment. I am also taking him to the GP tomorrow for bloods. Whatever we do it is never enough.

Checking in on the new thread.

@unsync sorry for your loss 💐

@GnomeDePlume and @funnelfan Sending you both handholds

Whoever it was whose ER had cuckooed her way into her sister's home, I hope you and your family find a way to get her back home and get proper help. Awful situation!

On way back from what I hope will be our last DGM visit for a while. We took DS2 and the puppy, DS2 has injured his hand and is having a couple of weeks off sport. DGM was all sweetness and light in front of her DGGS, of course! She likes it when we bring the pup too as he gets loads of attention at the CH.

She's going home midweek and is already making noises about stepping the carer visits down. If that happens, I won't be anywhere near when the next crisis hits!

DF and DSM asked me this week if DGM has to go in a care home and her house has to be sold to pay for it, would I be willing for the care fees to come out of my share of the estate before anyone else's because I'm least in need of it, apparently. I said well if DGM decides to change her will, then so be it, it's not up to me. But unless that's what her will states, then no. Proper CFs.

The hard boundaries are coming, oh yes they are!

Spent the afternoon with DM. She has slipped a little further down. Slept fitfully for practically all of the time. She was in some distress at times but difficult to know if it is physical or something else.

Thank you for the new thread.
I am mainly lurking these days as things are on an even keel for me/DM. Sending best wishes and infinite patience to those of you in the midst of it.

Sorry for your loss @unsync. I hope knowing his suffering has ended is a comfort as you feel the grief of finally losing him. 💐

Checking in with biscuits.

Thank you for the new thread. Sorry for your loss unsync

@FiniteSagacity thank you for the new thread.

Thank you for the new thread.

Thank you

Sorry for your loss @unsync 💐

Thank you.
Checking in (although I graduated a good while ago under a different name).