I am in an impossible situation and just want to vent really. I have been living happily in another country to be as far away as possible from my Narc mum. Any contact with her over the years was always ending badly, with me fleeing and not talking to her for a while.
She is now 89 and is relatively strong. A few weeks back she checked into a hospital for a planned observation but got respiratory infection there and was discharged in a poor state.
I had no choice really but to book a flight and be with her, nursing her to health. It was unpleasant from the start but now that she is out of danger she reverted to her old tricks of talking to me curtly, silent treatments, rude demands. nothing new.
I am currently sorting out her care, so that she can remain at home with some extra help. Plus arranging a doctor supervision. It all takes time and meanwhile she takes me completely for granted, not once asking how I am, how my family is doing without me. I had to change my return ticket and ask for unpaid leave from work to do all this. I spent huge sums already. She loftily hinted that she might reimburse me but I’d rather she treated me like a daughter and not like a slave.
in short, I am stressed, tired and anxious all the time, not sure where the next scandal or barbed comment will come from.
As soon as everything is in place I plan to return home and basically just want to forget her and to never see her again.
But I tried in the past and was still worrying how she is. Blood is thicker than water but she is a truly vile, unpleasant person- not just to me but to everyone else around her.
What I am to do (I am an only child, there is no one else really whom I can as to step in)?