Where to scatter ashes

Advice no but if this was me I would find a nice park or somewhere I could visit that gives permission for them to be buried near a nice park bench type set up so I could just sit and be

DH scattered his parents ashes in a place they used to go on holiday and we still do. My parents ashes are in the place they met.

Don't rush into anything.

My dad died shortly before Covid hit and I wanted to put him somewhere that required significant travel, so he sat behind the sofa for a few years. Meant I could be certain about the decision on location.

And when you do do it, I second the advice above to choose a still day. Stand upwind and hold the container low to the ground.

We have FIL and MIL's ashes to scatter when the weather gets a bit better this year.

One DS wants to scatter them in the river that runs through the village MIL was born, lived and died in. Hence not leaving a big pile risking dogs weeing on it and the local kids poking it.

Other DS wants to scatter them at a local beauty spot that is essentially a dog toilet and possibly not even legal as it will be privately owned land.

We already have 2 other sets in the family plot (FIL's siblings) but MIL didn't want squeezed in alongside her in-laws (not unreasonable to be fair!)

Personally, when it's my turn, I want DS to throw mine in the sea along several sets of pet ashes, any beach don't care where, I don't wanted interred or left in a molehill style pile anywhere.

My advice would be not to rush into anything. It’s only been a few days, you’ll still be in shock, grieving, not able to process thoughts.
Either you or your mum can just keep your dad’s ashes until the time feels right to choose somewhere. You may want to scatter your dad first, or you may decide to keep him until such time in future that he and your mum can be scattered together.
Is there a place near Midland’s ’home’ that you have happy family memories of? That could be an option, and you might appreciate that reason to go back there in future sometimes. Or perhaps a place where you’ve spent family holidays away? Or a place in London that you enjoy spending quiet time in.
You don’t need to make any decisions now. You will know when the time is right.

For my parents I think we’ll be throwing them off a cruise ship, they loves cruises, unless they explicitly say otherwise in their wills

Please do check the legality of where you consider, you can’t just do it anywhere. Also consider if you want a marker or similar. Perhaps find a woodland burial ground you can bury your dads ashes in and add you mums when the time comes?

Also sorry for your loss x

We kept ours and put them together in the end and scattered them in their favourite place.

Scatter near wherever his parents are laid to rest, interred or scattered. He’s gone home to his Mum and Dad.

When/if you do get around to it, speaking from experience (but not mine) scatter on a still calm day. There might be a lot of ash, more than youd expect & I’ve heard of someone standing down wind who got covered.

Im sorry for your loss. My dad died young. I miss him every day & today’s his anniversary. God rest our dads’ souls. 💐

My Mother's ashes were scattered in Fairy Glen ( which I thought may have been a made up / family name, and luckily my Father knew where to drive to.
However Google recognises this ' Fairy ' glen
Fairlie Glen (often referred to locally in the context of a "fairy glen" experience) is a scenic, wooded gorge located just south of Largs in North Ayrshire, near the village of Fairlie. The walking route features a series of small waterfalls, a dramatic gorge, and leads past the ruined Fairlie Castle, offering a picturesque, short hike.
She had spent part of her life living in Fairlie.

My Father's ashes I scattered in places that meant a lot to him in his life - Cuil Bay ( beach ) near Duror, Appin - Scottish West Highlands and some in the cemetery at Appin Old Churchyard where I managed to find a ' family ' grave.
The rest were scattered in a Glasgow Cemetery where we have a plot, and both his and my Mother's names have been added to the gravestone.

I have the paperwork for this headstone / plot and my family are well aware of where I wish my ashes to be scattered. Shame it's a 561 mile journey for some of them ( my ashes that is )

Can your Mum keep them for a little bit longer (if she is the one who has them). There is no hurry to scatter/bury them right now unless you feel the need to do so. It could be somewhere important to your Dad or somewhere important to you for whatever reason or you could just choose somewhere which feels "right" to you. I am sorry you lost your Dad 😓

Is there a particular place he liked to visit or a favourite memory of a place you visited, I don’t think it necessarily has to be where you live now just a memory of scattering them at a place that’s meaningful to you?