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Elderly parents

My mum has died

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PermanentTemporary · 28/01/2026 04:06

I’m a bit of a frequent flyer on this board. My mother has been in a nursing home since her stroke in 2021. This is something like the 5th deathbed call there has been over two years. She died reasonably peacefully this morning and I was with her and had the privilege of seeing her final breath.

I cried yesterday when she was going downhill but I feared she might survive yet again. Now she is at peace at long, long last. There will be a lot of emotion to come but now I feel peaceful too.

She was a lovely mum to me. I am so lucky to have had that.

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Brassknucks · 28/01/2026 05:28

I am so sorry OP.

I believe she waited for you. What a beautiful relationship you had, a loving kind mum. Im sure she would have picked you as her daughter a million times over.

Be very kind to yourself and allow yourself to grieve her. I know i am a stranger on the internet but I am thinking of you and your lovely mum who is at peace now x

plentyofsunshine · 28/01/2026 05:22

So sorry for your loss. I am so pleased you were there for her at the end though. May she RIP.

PermanentTemporary · 28/01/2026 04:40

I wonder if she was waiting for me. I parked outside the home at 3am and her last breath was at 3.18. I was 20 minutes too late to be with my dad when he died so I really feel so lucky to have been able to be here.

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Ooodelally · 28/01/2026 04:37

I am very sorry for your loss, may her memory be a blessing x

MapleOakPine · 28/01/2026 04:21

Sorry for your loss @PermanentTemporary but I am glad your mum is at peace now Flowers

RosyPumpkins · 28/01/2026 04:17

I’m so sorry for your loss OP. I’m glad you were with her and that she went peacefully. Best wishes to you and I hope your feeling of peace lasts, and that you have someone with you x

nzeire · 28/01/2026 04:09

I’m so sorry for your loss :(
mums are so precious. I lost mine 2 years ago, the mixture of relief and grief was awful. I now just remember the good years we had, not the last three of hell for her

take care of yourself xxxx