FIL caught drink driving

Unless he was driving in a life or death situation he's absolutely going to get banned. Save your money. Sounds like he needs to learn a lesson for everyone's sake.

I agree with this. You all have a moral responsibility to other road users to report him and tell him with no hesitation he is putting other peoples lives in danger. By doing nothing you standing back and literally waiting for an accident to happen. I feel sorry for the people reading this who know first hand the misery these people cause by taking no responsibility whatsoever. In my view anyone that drives under the influence of alcohol or drugs should have more than a ban. If they hit any other vehical it should be attempted murder as you knowingly set out to do this. It’s not even a worry for these people. That has to change. I hope he gets the consequences. If my hb was supporting behaviour that encourages drink driving I’d really struggle to be any part of being with him- it crosses such a big line.

Too stupid to only break one law at a time!

Drunk and speeding.

Arsehole

It’s all on him and he deserves a ban. You aren’t being mean at all and I’d actually be fuming if my husband gave him money to try and wriggle his way out of this one.

Drink driving virtually always ends in a ban unless your drink was spiked or there was some kind of emergency. You could plead (first offense) for a reduced ban on the grounds of caring for an elderly relative but it would likely still be a ban and he would likely still have to complete a course. If your FIL wants a solicitor, get him to pay for them.

Unfortunately there are cases were a good solicitor can get someone off on a technicality, eg if the equipment wasn't signed off as calibrated (they can request the records). Happens but rarely of course. Definitely don't help him!

Make other arrangements for GMIL. Instead of money for a solicitor for FIL to drive his mum while drinking, set up an account with a taxi firm for GMIL to go where she pleases when she wants to. She will value the freedom of not having to depend on a drunk driving son.

He wouldn’t get a penny from me @CrazyGoatLady

I bet he thinks he's a better driver drunk than most people are sober. Idiot.

Don't give him a penny.

That would be a no from me. If I called anything divine intervention, which I don't, this would be it!

It’s a mandatory ban so unless he’s claiming someone spiked his lemonade with six pints or that the police equipment was faulty he’s getting banned.

Former magistrate here. A good solicitor won't make any difference. The evidence is clear. He was over the limit while driving

Do not give him a penny. I’d probably offer to testify against him as a character witness and tell them he’s been drunk driving for years. Hopefully he’d get a longer ban

I despise drink-driving, so you can guess my opinion. You definitely should not help him avoid the consequences of his actions.

He would not get a penny from me.

These are the consequences of his actions - tell
him to start saving up to pay for taxis to go see his mum…

Automatic ban, no mitigating circustamces. I would hope that his licence his suspended permanently tbh

Don't give him any money. He could have killed someone.

I reported my own dh. He lost his licence for 2 years..
And his dw..
Tell your dh your respect for him will plummet to that of your respect for fil if he financially assists him. Hopefully dh has his own funds.. Family money shouldn't be helping fil.
Wonder if fil would be so arrogant if he had crashed and killed his own dm that night.

I don't blame you. He knew better. It's lucky he got caught before he killed someone. He shouldn't be on the roads.

These lawyers that specialise in getting rich people off motoring offences, can only help with speeding offences etc. Drink driving doesn't come with any loopholes, so your FIL would be on a hiding to nothing. Don't even think of wasting family money.

It’s proven that these conversations don’t have the impact you want because they are so outside of the sphere of realistic outcomes they aren’t as shocking as you expect.

its exactly why the government stopped the drunk driving ads where you smashed into a family and killed your son, because it wasn’t effective.
Instead they now focus on more understandable outcomes- the shame of arrest, the difficulty of losing one’s license on day to day life, the potential to lose your job.

Also, DH will be in shock.

Once he gets his head around the fact a ban is inevitable, he'll hopefully not want to waste your money.

There is absolutely no point spending money on a “good” solicitor, because there is absolutely no way he is ever going to get anything less than a ban.
And quite rightly so. Drunk drivers, especially repeat offenders are scum.

It's an automatic ban. Find something online that explains this and show it to your DH and FIL. You might as well set fire to the money.

So you only care if YOUR family members get killed by a drunk driver...?